
08/16/2023
When we numb our pain through addiction, we never get the chance to fix the problem that is causing the pain. We get trapped in an endless cycle of suffering and anesthetizing ourselves.
I help women heal their emotional wounds to become powerful kindness warriors.
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The fundamental aim of the Ruthless Compassion Institute is for our clients to lead richer, happier, and easier lives through the practice of Ruthless Compassion. The institute is dedicated to improving lives by empowering people to be more conscious, make reality-based choices and break dysfunctional patterns of thinking and behavior.
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mpact on the world. Every person who changes their own life for the better becomes a role model to others. As more people achieve wholeness through fulfillment and freedom from suffering, the healthier our lives, communities and in turn, our world will be” – Marcia Sirota MD (Founder & Director)
When we numb our pain through addiction, we never get the chance to fix the problem that is causing the pain. We get trapped in an endless cycle of suffering and anesthetizing ourselves.
In my new episode of the Ruthless Compassion podcast, I got to speak with Celeste Yvonne, a sober mom advocate, a writer, and a founding host of the Sober Mom Squad. Her essays on parenting, the mental load of motherhood, mommy wine culture, and sobriety resonates with mothers everywhere. Her new book It's Not About The Wine: The Loaded Truth Behind Mommy Wine Culture comes out Sept. 12
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145 – Mothering While Sober with Celeste Yvonne Sober mom advocate Celeste Yvonne is a writer and certified recovery coach (IAPRC) with over 20 years of experience as a communications professional in corporate America.Her essays on parenting, the mental load of motherhood, mommy wine culture, and ...
A narcissist is incapable of taking responsibility for themselves. They blame everyone else while feeling victimized by the problems they created.
People-pleasing is a waste of your energy. People who are able to love you will do so, without you having to try so hard. And the others, well, they don’t matter.
In my new episode of the Ruthless Compassion podcast, I got to speak with a repeat guest on the show, Laura Carney.
We interviewed her about her mission to complete her late father's bucket list—54 items in five years. She has published a book about her experience, My Father's List: How Living My Dad's Dreams Set Me Free.
She is a writer and magazine copy editor in New York, and has been published by the Washington Post, the Associated Press, The Hill, Runner's World, Good Housekeeping, The Fix, Upworthy, Maria Shriver's The Sunday Paper, and other places. She has worked as a copy editor in national magazines—primarily women's—for twenty years, including Vanity Fair, GQ, People, and Good Housekeeping.
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We must cultivate an attitude of healthy skepticism. Just because someone says something, it doesn’t make it true. Do your own fact-checking.
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In my new episode of the Ruthless Compassion podcast, we continue our discussion with Kai Cheng Thom, writer, performance artist, and community healer. She is the author of the novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars and her newest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human will be out on August 1, 2023.
In this second part of my two-part podcast, we continue our discussion and Kai gives an amazing call to action at the end.
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Parents who insist on believing that they have a perfect family are likely to deny any signs of abuse. The need to see their family as perfect can blind them to toxic behaviour happening right under their noses.
In my new episode of the Ruthless Compassion podcast, I got to speak with Kai Cheng Thom, writer, performance artist, and community healer. She is the author of the novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars and her newest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human will be out on August 1, 2023.
In this first part of a two-part podcast, we discuss how we can love each other despite our personal, theological, and political beliefs, in a way that goes beyond preserving the status quo and instead pushes us toward positive change.
Available wherever you listen:
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People will often protect the abuser and abandon the victim because it's easier. That's the cowardly approach.
Abusers often get you coming and going: first, they abuse you, and then they make you feel bad for your appropriate reactions to their hurtful behaviour.
Denial pushes our problems underground and gives them an opportunity to get much worse. Facing the truth allows us to fix our problems before they become impossible to solve.
Creating healthy habits requires self-discipline. Don't wait for inspiration or motivation or enthusiasm. Just decide to do it regularly. The enthusiasm will follow.
Therapists who needed someone to lean on as a child may become that for others
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We can focus on everything that's going wrong in the world and our lives or we can focus on what's good. Our choice.
One of the most significant issues we’re facing is a lack of professionals who could provide care to people who are suffering from mental health and addiction issues.
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I’ve been thinking about the state of our city a lot these days. Toronto has always been a very safe place to live. It used to be called, "Toronto the good," but now, things have changed. Over the past few years, our city has become increasingly dangerous.
Values like loyalty, integrity, and honesty are not obsolete. Aside from helping to heal the world, they bring us inner peace and self-worth.
We think that being selfish will give us everything we want, but selfishness doesn't pay. It makes the world a crummier place for ourselves and everyone else.
From the left: Snickers - the adventurer, Marshmallow - the playful one, Nibs - the timid boy, and Cupcake - the brave girl.
The foster kittens - 6 weeks old!
Our foster kittens. Six weeks old!
And, after three years of increasing hardships, loneliness, isolation, and financial stress brought about by the pandemic, we are now in a mental health crisis of epic proportions.
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Success comes from perseverance, self-discipline, and a smattering of courage.
We need to address the growing problems of homelessness, substance misuse, unemployment, and a lack of available mental health care.
Read more 👉 https://lttr.ai/ABBnv
I’ve been thinking about the state of our city a lot these days. Toronto has always been a very safe place to live. It used to be called, "Toronto the good," but now, things have changed. Over the past few years, our city has become increasingly dangerous.
When you change yourself in order to be loved, the person who gets love is not the real you.
People who are ignorant of politics don't realize how much it affects their life. Anyone who wants freedom, bodily autonomy, and the opportunity to create a better life needs to engage in the political system.
True freedom is being able to think for yourself. So, be skeptical of what you read online and verify if it's factual.
When faced with an overwhelming problem, the best way to handle it is to break it down into smaller sections and deal with each one separately.
More on the Mushroom Chronicles: Today, he found a new place to hang out:
To have profound regrets is a good thing. It hurts to realize that you could have done better and this encourages you to make different choices in the future.
Shame is feeling bad about yourself and it's a totally useless emotion because it only leads to despair. Regret is feeling bad about some choices you made and it's a very helpful emotion because it guides you moving forward.
On this International Women's Day, let's celebrate and support all women, regardless of their chromosomes, what they were assigned at birth, and what happens in their pants.
I kept wondering, whats missing in me that theyre finding in someone else?
Read more Why Am I Always Jealous? How to Deal with Jealousy 👉 https://lttr.ai/9A6E
There’s this thing about becoming the person that your younger self needed the most.
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Due to unmet needs as a child, you subconsciously become the person your childhood self needed the most.
Ruthless compassion is being fair to both yourself and the other person.
It's doing the right thing but never at your own expense.
My new foster cat Mushroom is so cute that I couldn't resist posting a few pics. He's 13 lbs of adorable cuddliness.
People tend to tell us things or ask questions based on their own experiences and biases. These remarks might seem perfectly reasonable and benign to them but they can be upsetting to those of us on the receiving end.
My approach to dealing with these types of remarks is to avoid defending, justifying, or explaining ourselves and instead, go to the meta-level.
Read more here: https://marciasirotamd.com/relationships/how-to-respond-to-unreasonable-remarks
Too many people think that fame, money, and power lead to happiness, but that's an illusion. True happiness comes from love, connection, meaning, and purpose.
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