Ruthless Compassion Institute

08/16/2023

When we numb our pain through addiction, we never get the chance to fix the problem that is causing the pain. We get trapped in an endless cycle of suffering and anesthetizing ourselves.

08/11/2023

In my new episode of the Ruthless Compassion podcast, I got to speak with Celeste Yvonne, a sober mom advocate, a writer, and a founding host of the Sober Mom Squad. Her essays on parenting, the mental load of motherhood, mommy wine culture, and sobriety resonates with mothers everywhere. Her new book It's Not About The Wine: The Loaded Truth Behind Mommy Wine Culture comes out Sept. 12

Available wherever you listen:
https://marciasirotamd.com/podcast/celeste-yvonne

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145 – Mothering While Sober with Celeste Yvonne Sober mom advocate Celeste Yvonne is a writer and certified recovery coach (IAPRC) with over 20 years of experience as a communications professional in corporate America.Her essays on parenting, the mental load of motherhood, mommy wine culture, and ...

08/09/2023

A narcissist is incapable of taking responsibility for themselves. They blame everyone else while feeling victimized by the problems they created.

08/02/2023

People-pleasing is a waste of your energy. People who are able to love you will do so, without you having to try so hard. And the others, well, they don’t matter.

07/28/2023

In my new episode of the Ruthless Compassion podcast, I got to speak with a repeat guest on the show, Laura Carney.

We interviewed her about her mission to complete her late father's bucket list—54 items in five years. She has published a book about her experience, My Father's List: How Living My Dad's Dreams Set Me Free.

She is a writer and magazine copy editor in New York, and has been published by the Washington Post, the Associated Press, The Hill, Runner's World, Good Housekeeping, The Fix, Upworthy, Maria Shriver's The Sunday Paper, and other places. She has worked as a copy editor in national magazines—primarily women's—for twenty years, including Vanity Fair, GQ, People, and Good Housekeeping.

Available wherever you listen:
https://marciasirotamd.com/podcast/144-life-lessons-learned-from-finishing-my-fathers-list-with-laura-carney

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07/26/2023

We must cultivate an attitude of healthy skepticism. Just because someone says something, it doesn’t make it true. Do your own fact-checking.

07/21/2023

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07/21/2023

In my new episode of the Ruthless Compassion podcast, we continue our discussion with Kai Cheng Thom, writer, performance artist, and community healer. She is the author of the novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars and her newest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human will be out on August 1, 2023.

In this second part of my two-part podcast, we continue our discussion and Kai gives an amazing call to action at the end.

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https://marciasirotamd.com/podcast/143-part-two-kai-cheng-thom-on-falling-back-in-love-with-being-human

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07/19/2023

Parents who insist on believing that they have a perfect family are likely to deny any signs of abuse. The need to see their family as perfect can blind them to toxic behaviour happening right under their noses.

07/14/2023

In my new episode of the Ruthless Compassion podcast, I got to speak with Kai Cheng Thom, writer, performance artist, and community healer. She is the author of the novel Fierce Femmes and Notorious Liars and her newest book, Falling Back in Love with Being Human will be out on August 1, 2023.

In this first part of a two-part podcast, we discuss how we can love each other despite our personal, theological, and political beliefs, in a way that goes beyond preserving the status quo and instead pushes us toward positive change.

Available wherever you listen:
https://marciasirotamd.com/podcast/143-part-one-kai-cheng-thom-on-falling-back-in-love-with-being-human

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07/12/2023

People will often protect the abuser and abandon the victim because it's easier. That's the cowardly approach.

07/05/2023

Abusers often get you coming and going: first, they abuse you, and then they make you feel bad for your appropriate reactions to their hurtful behaviour.

06/28/2023

Denial pushes our problems underground and gives them an opportunity to get much worse. Facing the truth allows us to fix our problems before they become impossible to solve.

06/21/2023

Creating healthy habits requires self-discipline. Don't wait for inspiration or motivation or enthusiasm. Just decide to do it regularly. The enthusiasm will follow.

06/14/2023

06/06/2023

Therapists who needed someone to lean on as a child may become that for others

Read more Becoming The Person Your Younger Self Needed The Most 👉 https://lttr.ai/ACjM9

05/31/2023

We can focus on everything that's going wrong in the world and our lives or we can focus on what's good. Our choice.

05/27/2023

One of the most significant issues we’re facing is a lack of professionals who could provide care to people who are suffering from mental health and addiction issues.

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I’ve been thinking about the state of our city a lot these days. Toronto has always been a very safe place to live. It used to be called, "Toronto the good," but now, things have changed. Over the past few years, our city has become increasingly dangerous.

05/24/2023

Values like loyalty, integrity, and honesty are not obsolete. Aside from helping to heal the world, they bring us inner peace and self-worth.

05/10/2023

We think that being selfish will give us everything we want, but selfishness doesn't pay. It makes the world a crummier place for ourselves and everyone else.

05/09/2023

From the left: Snickers - the adventurer, Marshmallow - the playful one, Nibs - the timid boy, and Cupcake - the brave girl.

05/09/2023

The foster kittens - 6 weeks old!

05/09/2023

Our foster kittens. Six weeks old!

05/05/2023

And, after three years of increasing hardships, loneliness, isolation, and financial stress brought about by the pandemic, we are now in a mental health crisis of epic proportions.

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05/03/2023

Success comes from perseverance, self-discipline, and a smattering of courage.

04/26/2023

We need to address the growing problems of homelessness, substance misuse, unemployment, and a lack of available mental health care.

Read more 👉 https://lttr.ai/ABBnv

I’ve been thinking about the state of our city a lot these days. Toronto has always been a very safe place to live. It used to be called, "Toronto the good," but now, things have changed. Over the past few years, our city has become increasingly dangerous.

04/26/2023

When you change yourself in order to be loved, the person who gets love is not the real you.

04/19/2023

People who are ignorant of politics don't realize how much it affects their life. Anyone who wants freedom, bodily autonomy, and the opportunity to create a better life needs to engage in the political system.

04/05/2023

True freedom is being able to think for yourself. So, be skeptical of what you read online and verify if it's factual.

03/29/2023

When faced with an overwhelming problem, the best way to handle it is to break it down into smaller sections and deal with each one separately.

03/28/2023

More on the Mushroom Chronicles: Today, he found a new place to hang out:

03/22/2023

To have profound regrets is a good thing. It hurts to realize that you could have done better and this encourages you to make different choices in the future.

03/15/2023

Shame is feeling bad about yourself and it's a totally useless emotion because it only leads to despair. Regret is feeling bad about some choices you made and it's a very helpful emotion because it guides you moving forward.

03/08/2023

On this International Women's Day, let's celebrate and support all women, regardless of their chromosomes, what they were assigned at birth, and what happens in their pants.

03/08/2023

I kept wondering, whats missing in me that theyre finding in someone else?

Read more Why Am I Always Jealous? How to Deal with Jealousy 👉 https://lttr.ai/9A6E

03/08/2023

There’s this thing about becoming the person that your younger self needed the most.

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Due to unmet needs as a child, you subconsciously become the person your childhood self needed the most.

03/02/2023

Ruthless compassion is being fair to both yourself and the other person.
It's doing the right thing but never at your own expense.

03/01/2023

My new foster cat Mushroom is so cute that I couldn't resist posting a few pics. He's 13 lbs of adorable cuddliness.

02/28/2023

People tend to tell us things or ask questions based on their own experiences and biases. These remarks might seem perfectly reasonable and benign to them but they can be upsetting to those of us on the receiving end.

My approach to dealing with these types of remarks is to avoid defending, justifying, or explaining ourselves and instead, go to the meta-level.

Read more here: https://marciasirotamd.com/relationships/how-to-respond-to-unreasonable-remarks

02/22/2023

Too many people think that fame, money, and power lead to happiness, but that's an illusion. True happiness comes from love, connection, meaning, and purpose.

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