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22/10/2026

Lost his head....

We’ve got a storm incoming in Kent… and today has been so calm, warm and lovely. 🍂☀️Is it teasing us?Lulling us into a f...
22/10/2026

We’ve got a storm incoming in Kent… and today has been so calm, warm and lovely. 🍂☀️

Is it teasing us?
Lulling us into a false sense of security?
Giving us one last chance to locate the waterproof trousers? 🤣

And now begins the great equestrian debate…

Are the horses better IN or OUT? 🐴🌪️

Check the forecast.
Look at the field.
Look at the stables.
Check a different forecast in case that one has a more agreeable answer.

Make a decision.
Immediately question that decision. 🫠

Meanwhile, the horses are looking at me like, “Whatever you decide, will there still be hay?”

Ahhhhhhhhhh.

Anyone else currently chairing an emergency meeting in their own head? 🙋🏼‍♀️

I wish I could hide how I feel… but my face has spent 41 years refusing to cooperate 🤣My mouth might have been saying, “...
20/10/2026

I wish I could hide how I feel… but my face has spent 41 years refusing to cooperate 🤣

My mouth might have been saying, “Oh, that’s absolutely fine.”

My face was saying, “Is it f*ck.” 🫣🤣

Every thought. Every feeling. A full statement released by my eyebrows before I’d even decided whether to comment.

Honestly, I’m quite glad to be at the point in my life where my words and my face finally match.

Less people pleasing. More honesty.
Still working on the delivery… 🤣

Anyone else got a face that speaks before they do? 🙋🏼‍♀️

Yep. Welcome to my ADHD.I can ride a dressage test, remember the movements and make tiny adjustments to what’s happening...
19/10/2026

Yep. Welcome to my ADHD.

I can ride a dressage test, remember the movements and make tiny adjustments to what’s happening underneath me…

But that water bottle? Still in the car.

The form I needed to hand in? Could be anywhere. Possibly somewhere “safe”, which means we may never see it again. 🤣

People also ask how I keep my focus when I’m riding. How can I concentrate on a test without thinking about all my other interests, the latest rabbit hole I’ve disappeared down or the seventeen things I want to start? 🤯

For me, riding gives my attention somewhere to land. There’s movement, connection and constant feedback. I’m feeling the rhythm, noticing his responses and adjusting as we go. It can help quiet some of the other tabs open in my brain.

That doesn’t mean my mind never wanders. Sometimes we’re approaching a transition and my brain decides it’s an excellent moment to revisit a conversation from Tuesday. Cheers for that. 🤣

ADHD doesn’t mean I can never focus. My ability to direct and sustain that focus can vary hugely.

Something engaging can hold my attention, while remembering to hand in a form later can disappear beneath everything else happening in my head.

And yes, sometimes I forget the test too. Especially when someone says, “You definitely know it, don’t you?” Suddenly, I have never seen a dressage arena before. 🫣🤣

Living with that inconsistency can be incredibly frustrating, particularly when people use what you CAN do as evidence that everything else should come easily.

“You remember when it matters” stings. The forgotten things matter to me too.

So yes, I can ride down the centre line, focused on the horse underneath me.

And yes, I may need a reminder to hand in the form and I can stop thinking about the mcfly gigs I'm looking forward to booking.

Both things can be true. ❤️🐴

Photo by Neil Lennon 🤣

World Menopause Day ❤️🐴Can we talk about what perimenopause and menopause can feel like when you’re a horsewoman?Because...
18/10/2026

World Menopause Day ❤️🐴

Can we talk about what perimenopause and menopause can feel like when you’re a horsewoman?

Because someone seems to have added a whole new set of challenges to a hobby that already involves half a tonne of opinions 🤣

There’s getting hot halfway through tacking up and urgently needing to remove every layer you’ve ever owned.

Going blank on a dressage test you knew perfectly well yesterday.

Aching joints when you climb into the saddle.

Arriving at the yard after another broken night’s sleep, wondering where you’re supposed to find the energy.

And sometimes, feeling anxious about a ride you would previously have looked forward to.

Hot flushes, sleep difficulties, brain fog, anxiety and muscle or joint pain can all feature during perimenopause and menopause. Everyone’s experience is different, but these symptoms can spill into our horsey lives too.

That can be hard when riding has always been the place you feel most like yourself. When your confidence feels different, it’s easy to start questioning your ability or giving yourself a bloody hard time.

We’re often brilliant at noticing when our horses need something adjusted. Their workload, their comfort, their routine.

We deserve that same consideration ❤️

You’re allowed to use the mounting block.
Ask for help with the heavy jobs.
Choose company for a hack.
Change your plans.
Rest without spending the whole time feeling guilty.

You can still have ambitions. You can also give yourself more support whilst you work towards them.

And if symptoms are affecting your riding, work, sleep or everyday life, speak to your GP. There are treatment options, including HRT and non-hormonal approaches, to discuss for your individual circumstances. You don’t have to wait until you’re barely coping.

We can laugh about steaming inside our waterproofs whilst the horse spooks at a leaf… and still take what we’re going through seriously.

How has perimenopause or menopause affected you around the horses? What do you wish someone had told you? 🐴💜

👇41 year old me in the chaos of perimenopause trying to work out what the hell it all is and why every other cycle I'm waking up with panic attacks and leg pain.
But also love the utter lack of people pleasing happening - do like this new side to me I've met 😄😄.
Not only have I gone back in time to reverse teenager in terms of hormones also....my inner child is loving what I've done these past 2 years....🥰🥰

0And the rain poured… 🌧️And we chanted…“I love my horses.I love my horses.I LOVE MY HORSES.” 🤣🐴Water running down your n...
18/10/2026

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And the rain poured… 🌧️

And we chanted…

“I love my horses.
I love my horses.
I LOVE MY HORSES.” 🤣🐴

Water running down your neck.
Wet sleeves creeping up your arms.
Trying to open a gate with fingers that have stopped fi*****ng.

The wheelbarrow is filling with rain faster than you can fill it with poo, and you’ve just discovered your boot has a leak. Lovely. 🫠

Meanwhile, the horses are standing outside their perfectly good shelter, looking at you like you’re personally responsible for this absolute piss-take of a forecast 🤣

Then you finish, get everything sorted, and one of them rests their nose against you for a little scratch…

And there it is.
That lovely little moment that makes it all worthwhile ❤️

Until you bend down and the water collected in your hood goes straight down your back.

“I love my horses.
I love my horses.
I love my horses.” 🤣🤣☔️

My kind of people? You’ve probably told me your life story before we’ve even exchanged names 🤣❤️The ones who have hay in...
18/10/2026

My kind of people? You’ve probably told me your life story before we’ve even exchanged names 🤣❤️

The ones who have hay in their hair, something questionable on their sleeve and absolutely no idea where they’ve put their phone… whilst talking on it.

The snort laughers.

The “oh thank God, you do that too” people.

The ones you pop over to for five minutes and somehow you’re still chatting an hour later.

I love people who get excited about things. Who ask how you got on and actually wait for the answer. Who hear your good news and celebrate with you, because your happiness gives them something to smile about too 🥰

And I love that moment when you realise you can relax around someone. You can lose your train of thought, admit you’re struggling, get a bit emotional or laugh so hard you make a noise neither of you was expecting 🤣

We spend so much time wondering how we come across. Whether we said too much. Whether we were a bit weird.

Then someone says, “I’m so glad you said that,” and suddenly you feel a little less alone.

Here’s to the people I can be myself with. Thank you for making room for all of it… including the lengthy story with seven side stories and no obvious ending 🤣❤️

Well… this week has been about 47 weeks long 🤣🫠Children being ill.Viewing secondary schools .. which is a whole emotiona...
17/10/2026

Well… this week has been about 47 weeks long 🤣🫠

Children being ill.
Viewing secondary schools .. which is a whole emotional event in itself 😭
Being poorly myself… I’ve finally eaten tonight for the first time since Wednesday evening.

Then chuck in 11th birthday celebrations, because apparently life doesn’t pause just because you’re barleyf**ktioning 🤣🎂

Friday night we had four over for a sleepover. SIX KIDS IN THE HOUSE.
“Sleepover” is a very misleading name. I’d like to speak to whoever handles the advertising 🤣🤣

Today I’ve spent the day following four kids round Bluewater. Just a slightly bedraggled adult trailing behind, wondering how they’ve still got energy and whether we’ve already been in this shop 🫠🛍️

My horse time has mostly consisted of a quick sniff and an “I love you” before relying on lovely people to help whilst I’ve been feeling pants.

To everyone who’s helped . love you all. Knowing the neds are sorted when you’re struggling means so much ❤️🐴

Anyway… I’m fed, absolutely knackered and ready for approximately three working days of silence.

How have you all been? Please tell me someone’s had a sit down 🤣🤣🤣

Some of the biggest mountains we climb are the ones nobody can see. 🏔️❤️The self-doubt behind saying, “Yes, I’ll give it...
13/10/2026

Some of the biggest mountains we climb are the ones nobody can see. 🏔️❤️

The self-doubt behind saying, “Yes, I’ll give it a go.”
The grief you carry while still getting on with your day.
The hurt underneath a boundary you’ve finally managed to keep.
The disappointment when something you worked so hard for doesn’t happen.

People might see the confidence, the smile, the moment you feel proud…
But they don’t always see how many times you nearly turned back.

And climbing these mountains isn’t a tidy little journey.
Sometimes you’re making progress.
Sometimes you’re sitting on a rock having a cry, wondering who booked this bloody expedition. 🫣🤣

You’re allowed to rest.
You’re allowed to need help.
You’re allowed to feel angry, sad or disappointed without immediately finding a positive in it.

Loss doesn’t have to become a lesson.
Peace doesn’t have to mean forgiving someone or letting them back in.
And one difficult day doesn’t erase how far you’ve come.

So whatever mountain you’re on today, give yourself a little credit.

Even if all you’ve done is get through a difficult bit, that deserves some kindness too. ❤️

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