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Real Check-in. Real Change Psychologist written Check-in cards to help you connect to how you REALLY feel and what you REALLY value, and support actions that feel right for you.

10/10/2026

Today is World Mental Health Day. 💚

But checking in with ourselves shouldn’t be something we do just once a year.

We ask our friends, our partners, our children and our colleagues how they’re doing.

But how often do we stop and ask ourselves?

How am I REALLY feeling?

Not just “I’m fine”.
Not just getting through the to-do list.
But noticing what’s going on physically, intellectually, emotionally and spiritually.

You don’t need to fix everything today.

Just pause. Notice. And ask yourself what one small thing might help.

I did this today and decided to take a small action to connect me with some of the joy in my life

If you have our How are you REALLY? cards, choose one today and give yourself a few minutes to check in.

It’s Learning at Work Week this week and I’m seeing lots of posts about great opportunities for employees to learn new s...
21/05/2026

It’s Learning at Work Week this week and I’m seeing lots of posts about great opportunities for employees to learn new skills.

And it got me reflecting on how much learning actually comes from the spaces around the formal training.

Some of the most important things teams learn happen in conversations like these:

🌿A check-in before a meeting
🌿A moment of honesty
🌿Someone finally saying they’re struggling
🌿A quieter team member feeling able to contribute
🌿A manager realising they’ve been solving the wrong problem
🌿A conversation about values and what really matters to people at work
🌿A team discovering where their values align - and where they don’t.

That’s one of the things I’ve noticed most through the conversations people have using my “How Are You REALLY?” and “What Are Your VALUES?” Check-in cards.

The cards are just a tool, a way in to more meaningful self reflection and conversations - the true value is in what happens next...

🌿You learn what your team is carrying
🌿You learn what matters most to people
🌿You learn where people don’t feel safe speaking up
🌿You learn how differently people communicate and make decisions
🌿You learn what motivates different members of your team
🌿You learn that the person who seems “fine” often isn’t
🌿You learn that good questions can change the quality of a conversation very quickly.

For me, the ability to learn in a team has psychological safety at its foundation.
🌿People learn better when they can admit they don’t know something
🌿When they can ask for help without feeling judged
🌿When they can think out loud
🌿When they feel like a human first and an employee second.

What do you notice most impacts your ability to learn, contribute and grow at work?






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Monday mornings can bring up a lot 🌱For some people, it’s motivation.For others, it’s overwhelm.Pressure.Tiredness.The m...
18/05/2026

Monday mornings can bring up a lot 🌱

For some people, it’s motivation.
For others, it’s overwhelm.
Pressure.
Tiredness.
The mental load of everything waiting to be done.

So before you rush into the week, pause for a moment and ask yourself:
How am I REALLY this morning?✨

Not the automatic answer.
Not the “fine thanks” answer.
The honest one.

Naming how we feel doesn’t fix everything instantly, but it can help us understand what we need next.
Maybe that’s rest.
Maybe it’s support.
Maybe it’s a clearer plan.
Maybe it’s simply permission to start slowly.
A proper check-in can change the way we move through the week.

So, how are you really this Monday morning?

Choose one word and, if it feels right, share it below 👇 I’ll reply with some helpful questions and actions 💛

Hello 👋I’m Jane, the founder of How Are You REALLY?As a psychologist, I found most people struggle to put their feeling...
17/05/2026

Hello 👋

I’m Jane, the founder of How Are You REALLY?

As a psychologist, I found most people struggle to put their feelings into words and I saw how often people default to “I’m fine”… even when they’re not.

So I created a simple tool to help individuals, therapists and workplaces open up more meaningful conversations. Simple cards with actions and support on the back of them to help individuals move beyond Fine.

It’s a small product with a big purpose ✨

14/05/2026

Today feels like a special moment.

We’re at the Gift of the Year Awards as a finalist in the Wellbeing category ✨

This Mental Health Awareness week is all about action - and in many ways, this journey started with a simple one: choosing to turn an idea into something that could support others.

The How Are You REALLY? cards were created to help people take small, meaningful actions for their wellbeing - starting with awareness.

To see that recognised in this way feels incredibly special ✨

Thank you to everyone who has supported, shared and believed in this work 💚

13/05/2026

Taking action for your mental health often starts with one simple step: understanding how you REALLY are.

Our check-in cards are designed to help you pause, notice what’s happening beneath the surface, and receive support to take small, meaningful actions - at your own pace.

Because action doesn’t need to be overwhelming.
It just needs to be intentional. 🌿

Mental Health Awareness Week is here, and this year’s theme is Action 🌿When things feel overwhelming, it’s easy to think...
11/05/2026

Mental Health Awareness Week is here, and this year’s theme is Action 🌿

When things feel overwhelming, it’s easy to think we need big solutions. But often, it’s the smallest actions that make the biggest difference ✨

Taking a small moment to notice how you’re really feeling. Pausing instead of pushing through.
Saying something out loud that you might usually keep in or writing it down 🖊️

These are all actions and they matter more than we think!

At How Are You REALLY?, we believe action starts with awareness.
Because when you understand what’s going on beneath the surface, you’re far more able to respond in a way that supports you. Our cards also have helpful actions on them to help you shift

💭 What’s one small action you can take today?

09/05/2026

Saturday morning order packing. So lovely when someone who bought a pack comes back for the other editions and also some sample packs to pass on.

Want to try them for yourself? Order a FREE sample pack via my website - link in bio

Or dive right in and order your pack - remember that to support mental health awareness week I am matching each order with another pack gifted to a charity or community group.
of course - each order contains a personal greeting from@me using the wonderful



It’s been a month since my brain tumour surgery, and I’m recovering well.Thank you so much for all the kind messages and...
29/04/2026

It’s been a month since my brain tumour surgery, and I’m recovering well.
Thank you so much for all the kind messages and support - and of course to the amazing NHS, which I got to experience up close.

This past month has been humbling and full of learning - especially around the power of nature and its awe-inspiring lessons on growth and interconnectedness.

I’ve been finding my balance (literally and metaphorically), learning to pace myself, practising acceptance, and allowing myself to be supported - a reminder that it really does take a village.

There’s something about being forced to slow down that brings a different perspective on what really matters… and how I take care of myself.

I’ll be sharing more reflections on this in my newsletter next week, along with updates on the How are you REALLY? range (let’s just say for starters that the physio team in Bristol are now using them for team check ins!). Taking this time to reflect and capture what I’m learning is my way to begin to gently re-enter the world of work (in between resting and rebuilding my strength).

If you’d like to follow along, you can sign up to my newsletter here: [http://eepurl.com/i-3DoQ]

Today I’m noticing where I am compared with a check-in I did shortly after surgery.

Day 3 post surgery
🌱Physically - never been so exhausted and no control of my left side
🌱Intellectually - slow, narrow but functioning
🌱Emotionally - overwhelmed and very tearful
🌱Spiritually - Scared
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Today
🌿Physically healing, tired
🌿Intellectually still slower and processing,
🌿Emotionally grateful and happy, soft
🌿Spiritually trusting.

I’ve needed to retreat and also missed the connection - so wondering How are you REALLY? How’s your April been?

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Pic 1 - post surgery accessories, Pic 2 - getting some cuddles in for a few minutes on my grandson’s first birthday 🩵

Real check-ins. Real change. 💛These aren’t just cards… they’re conversations.The kind that help people open upThe kind t...
21/04/2026

Real check-ins. Real change. 💛

These aren’t just cards… they’re conversations.

The kind that help people open up
The kind that make you pause
The kind that actually make a difference

Swipe through to hear from the people using How are you REALLY? check-in cards in real life →
From workplaces to personal moments, these cards are helping people:

✨ Start honest conversations
✨ Understand how they’re really feeling
✨ Take small but meaningful steps towards better wellbeing

And honestly… that’s what it’s all about.
Proud to see the impact these are already having 💛

(Also quietly VERY excited for what’s to come 👀 )

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