We Are Together

21/06/2026

Father's Day is a little bit different this year because Laura should be about eight weeks from giving birth.

I had this whole vision when we saw those two lines on a pregnancy test that on this day I would be able to roll over in bed, put my arm around her belly, and give her and our much-wanted baby a little squeeze.

I find myself up, out and about, trying to hold in some deep emotions that are at a dangerous level of overflowing - I know I should let them, but I need a moment.

I’ve seen a few guys while I was out: some deep in thought, walking their dogs, some hurrying to jobs. I found myself wondering how many of them are missing a child today, through loss, divorce or another reason.

My social media is a 50/50 today of men posting drawings their children have given them. The other half commented that a day that's meant to be happy is filled with grief.

I want to give them all a hug.

For the last eight years, Father's Day has been difficult for me. I haven't seen my stepkids since me and their mum split up. I’ve wanted to, but I’ve not been welcomed. I’ve had to accept that choice. Maybe it was my fault last time, but there's no blame here this time.

Experiencing a miscarriage as a man is tough.

I didn't physically go through it, and I often stuff my emotions down for fear of making it about me.

That last sentence is one of the reasons I work so darn hard on We Are Together. I want every man to know his feelings are valid. He doesn't have to make himself any less. Pregnancy loss happens to both of you in different ways.

Our last attempt to become parents was shattered last night. I went upstairs and hugged my wife as we both processed. I really did think that there might be some sort of rainbow on Father's Day, but it just wasn't meant to be. To quote Brené Brown differently: “the story in my head I’m telling myself is ….” I did tell myself a story of hope.

I find myself wondering how much time we have, how much strength we both have.

I'm writing out these thoughts in the hope that another guy will read it and know that he's not alone in his grief and in shaking his fists at the sky, shouting, "What has to happen for this much-wanted child to appear?"

I wish I had the answer.

For all the men out there who are struggling with Father's Day, I want to let you know that you're seen, and that if you need someone to talk to today or any other day, I'm here.

Kon-ick

31/05/2026

We're going to dinner with Steven Bartlett!

As part of his DOAC Dinners, 30 founders will meet next week in Manchester.

Kon-ick will be at that table representing We Are Together, the platform we're building to support both partners through pregnancy loss and what comes next.

We built this out of our own loss. For everyone that's gone before us, is going through it now, or is yet to.

More to come.
Wish us luck 💚

27/04/2026

Kon-ick finally got to meet Richard from Forever Stars today.

He's very well respected in Nottingham and well beyond it; he's built something that matters alongside his wife, Michelle.

I've heard about Forever Stars for a while, and people talk about the love and support they have received from both Richard, Michelle and the team since opening in 2014.

I was worried Richard might see We Are Together as coming into the space to do its own thing instead of working together to support the community and help each other. Thankfully, he got what we are trying to do and loved seeing a sneak peek of what we imagine the partner function to look like.

Thank you to Richard, Michelle and the Forever Stars team. We're proud to be building something that works alongside what they've already built for families in Nottingham.

24/04/2026

We've been selected as one of eight startups on the Onteigo Femhealth Startup Privacy Support Programme, created by Hayden Rifat.

A while back we had a social media account permanently disabled for offering support in the pregnancy loss community. Platforms can decide overnight that the community you're serving shouldn't be on them, and there's very little recourse when it happens.

Privacy and data protection are some of the hardest parts of building in women's health, and some of the most important to get right. Onteigo's support helps us strengthen that side of We Are Together before we launch.

Congratulations to the other seven startups on the programme. Looking forward to meeting you all.

14/04/2026

Laura and Kon-ick caught up with How I Failed In Business and talked to Rob and Megan, with Molly providing support behind the scenes on pregnancy loss, starting We Are Together, and the time one of them was a Star Wars Stormtrooper and the other was auditioning for X Factor.

Links in the comment to the episode.

Thanks for having us on the show

Turning an incredibly difficult situation into purpose.

This week we speak to the mulit-talented Kon-ick and Laura, creators of the We Are Together App - designed to support both partners through pregnancy loss. Not just the person who carried it, but the person standing next to them too.

We also learn they are both very talented singers, performers and stormtroopers... 🤨

Out tomorrow, on all good streaming platforms!

01/04/2026

We're stunned! We've been shortlisted for the StartUp Awards Digital Business of the Year for The Midlands

We Are Together is just 12 weeks old. The product is still being finalised, we're still figuring out what to post on socials, and we're going through our own fertility journey while creating the thing we needed the most in our own pregnancy loss journey.

To be recognised as a finalist this early on in the journey has just blown our minds!

We'll see all the other finalists in June

- We Are Together

19/01/2026

𝐓𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐢𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐚 𝐡𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲 𝐞𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠, 𝐛𝐮𝐭 𝐢𝐭 𝐢𝐬 𝐚 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐲 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐩𝐮𝐫𝐩𝐨𝐬𝐞.

Laura and I have been trying for a baby for over a year. Fourteen attempts. Fourteen times, hoping this would be it. Fertility clinic appointments, tracking everything, and riding the whole f**king emotional rollercoaster that comes with it.

In November, we finally got pregnant.

And then we experienced an early pregnancy loss.
What came next was almost worse than the loss itself. The complete lack of support.

The doctor’s response was literally just ‘oh’. The apps either pretended nothing had happened or jumped straight into s*x tips, which honestly felt insane given what we were going through.

As Laura’s husband, I felt invisible. There was no guidance on what to say, how to help her, or how to process my own grief. For Laura, nothing explained what might be 𝑛𝑜𝑟𝑚𝑎𝑙 or what to expect physically or mentally after a miscarriage.

I ended up spending days searching for support and fell down a rabbit hole of stories from men and women sharing the exact same experience.

One in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet the apps, the systems, and the support structures are failing people at the moment they need them most.

So we’re doing something about it.

We’re building 𝐖𝐞 𝐀𝐫𝐞 𝐓𝐨𝐠𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫. A platform designed to support both partners through pregnancy loss, the decision to try again, and everything that comes after. Not the Instagram version of this journey, but the real one. The messy, painful, honest version.
But we need your help.

If you or someone you know has experienced pregnancy loss, we’re asking for ten minutes of your time to share your experience anonymously. Your voice will directly shape what we build. The survey link is in the comments.

If you haven’t been through this yourself but know someone who has, please consider sharing this. Miscarriage is incredibly common, yet still deeply isolating, and we want to change that.
Thank you for reading, and thank you for caring.

With love,
Kon-ick and Laura