01/11/2026
You love them. You want to help. You want to be there when they need you.
But somewhere along the way, their problems may begin to feel like your responsibility.
You worry about them. You try to make things easier. You think about what else you could do.
And gradually, there may be less and less room for yourself.
I see something similar in my work with women who want to take better care of their health.
They want more energy, better digestion, or simply a little time to themselves.
But their days are already filled with responsibilities toward everyone else.
And sometimes, the question isn't simply how to find more time.
It's whether they've ever questioned how much responsibility they've taken on.
I've been exploring this in my own life, too.
Because I've noticed how easily my desire to help someone can turn into feeling responsible for what happens to them.
And it's led me to a question:
**When does caring become carrying?**
I don't believe there's a simple answer.
Sometimes the responsibility really is ours. Sometimes we've assumed it without realizing. And sometimes we haven't even talked about what we expect of one another.
In my latest article, *When Does Caring Become Carrying?*, I explore this delicate relationship between love, responsibility, selflessness, and the space we leave for ourselves.
I'd love to invite you to read it.
https://www.laurecarter.com/when-does-caring-become-carrying/
