23/03/2025
I didn’t write this review of but it’s definitely worth a read. The internet is evolving fast, as adults, carers, in a safeguarding position, protectors, and basic humans we need to keep up to date if not ahead.
Credit: Davis J Wilson and Rethink Therapy Services; child and adult therapy
“Netflix’s Adolescence just pulled back the curtain on something every parent, educator, and mentor needs to know—the hidden language of emojis.
Online, young people are communicating in ways that most adults completely miss. What looks innocent could have a much darker meaning. Here are some of the codes being used:
🔴 Red Pill – “I see the truth.” Used in toxic male spaces to mean waking up to supposed hidden ‘truths’ about women and society, often linked to misogynistic ideologies.
🔵 Blue Pill – Represents those who are “blind to the truth” or still believe in mainstream views about relationships and gender dynamics.
💥 Dynamite Emoji – An “exploding red pill,” meaning someone is a radicalised incel.
🫘 Kidney Bean – A symbol linked to incel culture, sometimes mocking women.
💯 100 Emoji – Tied to the “80/20 rule,” the belief that 80% of women are only attracted to 20% of men.
🕳️ Black Hole – Used to express depression, hopelessness, or being sucked into negative online spaces.
🌪️ Tornado – Represents chaos or feeling overwhelmed, sometimes used to indicate mental distress.
🐸 Frog Emoji – Associated with alt-right and extremist meme culture, often linked to Pepe the Frog, which has been co-opted by some toxic online groups.
🦅 Eagle – A symbol of extreme nationalism, sometimes used in far-right online spaces.
💀 Skull – While often just slang for “that’s funny” or “I’m dead (from laughing),” in certain groups, it can signal darker themes like nihilism or self-harm.
❤️ 💜 💛 💗 🧡 Heart Colours – Not just about love!
❤️ = Love
💜 = Lust
💛 = “Are you interested?”
💗 = Interested but not in s*x
🧡 = “You’ll be okay”
So what should parents do?
1️⃣ Get Curious, Not Combative – Ask open-ended questions: “I saw something about emojis meaning different things. Have you heard of this?” Keep the conversation light.
2️⃣ Create a Judgment-Free Zone – If your child feels like they’ll be punished for opening up, they won’t. Make it clear you’re there to listen, not just lecture.
3️⃣ Decode Together – Ask them to explain their digital world. What do different symbols mean? Who are the influencers they follow? Don’t assume—ask.
4️⃣ Teach Critical Thinking – Help them question online content. “Why do you think some groups push this idea? Who benefits?” Arm them with questions, not just rules.
5️⃣ Monitor Without Spying – Open conversations work better than secret surveillance. Make checking in on their online spaces a normal part of parenting, not a crisis move.
6️⃣ Be Real About Manipulation – Explain how toxic online groups groom young people by making them feel special, included, or like they have ‘insider knowledge.’
7️⃣ Build Their Offline Confidence – The more they feel valued and confident in the real world, the less they’ll seek validation in dangerous online spaces.
The digital world is evolving faster than most adults can keep up. But we don’t have to be in the dark.
If this conversation hits home, it’s time to go deeper.
At Manhood Academy Global, we don’t just talk about the dangers—we equip young people and parents to navigate them.
🔥 Start with You Made A Promise – A powerful call to action for parents with children in crisis, reminding them that raising a child is more than survival—it’s a promise that must be kept.
🔥 Then read 22+1 Laws of the Master Teacher – A must-read for anyone mentoring, teaching, or guiding young people. Learn the principles that shape powerful leaders and educators.
Because if we do not initiate the child into the village, he will burn it down just to feel the warmth.
Credit: Davis J Wilson
