Tammy Fleming Grief Recovery Method

11/10/2026

Love this image. The Grief Recovery Method® works in the Middle Zone. I'm pleased to see this so clearly explained.

28/09/2026

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Way to go, Denmark! This is one of the skills we learn in grief recovery. I wish I had known this when I was raising my kids. (I have apologized to them. ❤️‍🩹) Many of us don’t realize that offering to fix others’ pain is what we automatically do when we ourselves have a backlog of unprocessed grief and loss and we are presented with the pain of another person; it is not usually helpful or appreciated. Similar to offering unsolicited advice — it’s often done because one person cares deeply about another and passionately wants everything to be ok; but it can also shut down the person whose heart, mind, soul and body needs a safe place to fully express their distress. I was classically ignorant about all this. 🙄

20/09/2026

Yup. That was me too 🤣😬🙄. I had no idea how much I did not know — about myself, about how to hold space for others going through tough things; about unhelpful ideas I’d picked up and held onto, even within the context of my own Christian faith and beliefs, that actually don’t make sense, and aren’t consistent with whom I believe God to be.

I have a few spaces in my October-November eight-session Grief Recovery Method®️ online group. DM me for info, no obligation ever.

You can learn this stuff other ways, but so far I haven’t found a path as clear and straightforward as this one.

(thanks to . Love and admiration to you and Amanda always)

01/09/2026

I’ve got an 8-session online group starting October 3. Last one until spring. Hop on quick if you’ve been thinking about doing this for a while 😉 [email protected]


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24/07/2026

It took us four years — so much longer than we ever imagined. Since we three Grief Recovery Method®️ Specialists in Kyiv first undertook the project of translating the bestselling Grief Recovery Handbook into Ukrainian, we’ve endured four hard years of war with unimaginable stress and chaos and health challenges for ourselves and aging parents, most of whom remain in enemy-occupied territories. We’ve also celebrated the joys of life : a son’s wedding, the birth of grandchildren, the achievement of masters degrees in psychology for Vyacheslav Naumov and Tetiana. Now that the ebook is accessible, the millions of refugees who have fled their homeland in recent years and the tens of millions of Ukrainians remaining in Ukraine can have access to this excellent book and program in their own language.

‎Nonfiction · 2025

03/07/2026

“Courage originally meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.” Over time, this definition has changed, and, today, courage is more synonymous with being heroic. Heroics is important and we certainly need heroes, but I think we’ve lost touch with the idea that speaking honestly and openly about who we are, about what we’re feeling, and about our experiences (good and bad) is the definition of courage. Heroics is often about putting our life on the line. Ordinary courage is about putting our vulnerability on the line. In today’s world, that’s pretty extraordinary.” — Brené Brown in “The Gifts of Imperfection.”

I get to spend time with some pretty courageous people whenever I’m running a Grief Recovery Method®️ group. They not only show courage in their willingness to discover new insights into themselves and their relationships, but in daring to take actions to complete the painful unfinished business that we all have with other human beings. It is inspiring!

29/06/2026

Why do I feel so privileged to spend 2 hours a week for 8 weeks with a group like this?

I feel like I get to observe what I would never otherwise see, to learn valuable truths about people and relationships (and myself!) which otherwise would have remained obscured. I am allowed to watch human beings transform — even though they come from different cultures, different backgrounds, completely different upbringings, with different belief systems and sets of circumstances. I am allowed to be a witness, as they make personal, profound, life-changing discoveries about the impact that significant relationships have had on them. They each go away and do their own personal work. When they come to the group and share whatever it is they’ve chosen to share, I am shown repeatedly how powerful our spoken words are in one another’s lives — powerful to build up and strengthen, and powerful to tear down and destroy. I feel like I get the opportunity to see behind a curtain that would never have opened under ordinary circumstances, to reveal a treasure chest of wisdom and insight about — for instance — what kinds of socially and culturally acceptable behaviors hurt people; and what steps anyone can take to heal. I gain motivation and inspiration to keep walking this path myself, to continue to do my own hard work. For me as a Christian, though this is a secular program, I leave every session with my faith in God and the integrity of His word confirmed and deepened. My trust in God gets bigger. I see undeniable evidence of His presence and participation in human suffering (and ours in His).

23/03/2026

22/10/2025

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DPoYlSLiLJu/?igsh=MWZucW02MDE4bWtoeQ==

Worth a watch. Moving. True. Powerful.

17/10/2025

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DP2nnd-kV9w/?igsh=MW5vYmc5ajQybzV5MQ==

My daughter just sent me this. Profound. Inspiring.