10/23/2026
I recently saw banners for Breast Cancer Awareness Month at the post office. They included words like fight, survivor, strength, brave, be strong, never stop, support squad, determination, power, fight for the cure, and courage.
I understand the intention. These words are meant to offer hope and encouragement.
But when you are living with cancer, they can also feel like instructions: Be strong. Keep fighting. Never stop. Stay positive.
What happens when you are exhausted? What happens when you are afraid, grieving, angry, or simply having an ordinary day? What happens when treatment stops working?
Cancer is not a measure of someone’s courage, determination, or willpower. And no one who dies from cancer has lost a fight.
The word survivor can feel meaningful for some people. For others, especially people living with metastatic cancer or ongoing treatment, it may not reflect their reality. At Connect & Thrive, I use the word Thriver because it makes room for the whole experience: treatment, healing, uncertainty, rest, recurrence, and continuing to live.
Language is deeply personal. A word I reject may bring someone else comfort, and that is okay. The most supportive approach is to listen and use the language each person chooses for themselves.
Which word would you keep and which one would you leave behind? 💛