10/31/2026
I think there’s a special kind of exhaustion that comes with being a mom who desperately wants community but also feels like she has to be the one to create it.
You’re already managing the kids, the schedules, the meals, the house, and a hundred little things nobody else even thinks about. And now you’re trying to find the energy to plan playdates, send the texts, organize get-togethers, and keep friendships going.
You WANT to see your friends. You WANT to be involved. You just wish someone would think of you sometimes, too.
Someone who says, “Hey, we’re getting together Thursday. You should come.” Someone who checks in because you crossed their mind. Someone who takes something off your plate instead of adding another thing to coordinate.
And I don’t think that’s selfish. God created us for relationships where we carry one another’s burdens (Galatians 6:2). There’s a reason community isn’t meant to be built or sustained by one person.
So if you’re the mom who’s exhausted from always initiating, I want to encourage you to be honest with the women in your life. Tell them you’d love to get together but don’t have the capacity to plan something right now. Give them an opportunity to show up for you.
And if you’re someone who usually waits to be invited, maybe this week you can be the one who reaches out. It doesn’t have to be elaborate. Invite her over for coffee, ask her to join you at the park, or simply check in.
Sometimes loving our friends well means recognizing when they’re tired of being the ones holding everything together.
We all want to be chosen. Let’s make sure we’re choosing each other, too.