Winds of Change Counseling

Winds of Change Counseling Winds of Change Counseling provides EFT (emotionally focused) Couples Counseling with a specialty in sexual intimacy challenges such as sexual trauma, infidelity, infertility and medical concerns, as well as EMDR for individuals.
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Who Guessed Barn doors!?! You're right!!! Had @crockett_cutouts  make these beautiful beasts for me! Look at that custom...
04/28/2020

Who Guessed Barn doors!?! You're right!!! Had @crockett_cutouts make these beautiful beasts for me! Look at that custom cut and shadding! That wood had no natural knots or grain, that's all hand painted on! So so gorgeous. If you're into shopping local, check them out! I'm already working on commissioning them to make us a headboard porch swing too because I was so impressed. 💙
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Putting my home in order is seriously the best self care, and helps me be more present, mindful, and attuned to my family, friends, and clients. What's your best "reset"? @ Mesa, Arizona

After Acceptance- commitment and adaptation  are the action steps that help us move forward. ..These steps look differen...
04/27/2020

After Acceptance- commitment and adaptation are the action steps that help us move forward.
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These steps look different for everyone and can be healthy or unhealthy adaptations.
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Unhealthy adaptations could be excessive alcohol or drug consumption, while healthy adaptations might include creating schedules and systems in our life to make sense of action steps during times of perceived chaos.
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What Adaptations have you found to be most useful during this time?

Quality family time is some of the best self care for the soul. Have been thoroughly enjoying having these guys around.....
04/26/2020

Quality family time is some of the best self care for the soul. Have been thoroughly enjoying having these guys around.
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Last pic is a sneak peak of a project I spent my entire day on... Can you guess what it is!?!? @ Mesa, Arizona

Remembering times prior to all these big changes. Have you noticed how it's almost hard to remember how normal it used t...
04/25/2020

Remembering times prior to all these big changes. Have you noticed how it's almost hard to remember how normal it used to feel to walk around freely and hug your friends and family?
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This has left a mark. A deep imprint, that will not be easy to erase. In developing these adaptive behaviors, unlearning and re-learning will be uncomfortable. Remember then, that this discomfort will be a normal response to change, and is indicative of growth.
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In Health and Wellness

The Final stage in Trauma and Grief Processing is more about staying present, engaged, and mindful than having to find j...
04/24/2020

The Final stage in Trauma and Grief Processing is more about staying present, engaged, and mindful than having to find joy, or even the good in a given situation.
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This important step leads to proper processing and keeps trauma from getting "stuck" causing resentment, or long term damage.
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In Health and Wellness

I like me better when I'm with you. ♥️..This worksheet Wednesday I'm sharing this great illustration of the power of the...
04/23/2020

I like me better when I'm with you. ♥️
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This worksheet Wednesday I'm sharing this great illustration of the power of the Pause
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Pausing allows us to gather our thoughts, feel our emotions, and align with your intentions.
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Repeated practice brings mastery and control over the only area in life we have true control, our words, actions, and the way we respond.
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Avoiding harsh words nurtures our relationship and avoids costly repairs. (Emotional cost)
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In Health and Wellness @ Mesa, Arizona

Timeline Photos
04/22/2020

Timeline Photos

Feeling unexplainable sadness, even depression can be a sign of experiencing trauma processing, and the accompanying ack...
04/21/2020

Feeling unexplainable sadness, even depression can be a sign of experiencing trauma processing, and the accompanying acknowlegment of physical and ambiguous losses in our life.
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This is the stage that preceeds Acceptance, which is the final stage of processing grief and trauma. Stay with it, know that this is normal, and that once you get through this stage you will emerge feeling much better, with greater strength and validation of your personal growth.
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To lean in to the sadness, imagine a scale from 1-10 in intensity, then push the sadness you feel to as close to a 10 as you can. It will be uncomfortable. Stay with it. Feel it, even talk to it, just allow it to be. Once that part of you feels heard, seen, acknowleged, it will pass.
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In Health and Wellness @ Mesa, Arizona

This dog of mine. Haha. We started moving to our new home, and I had JUST constructed our bed frame and put on a clean s...
04/20/2020

This dog of mine. Haha. We started moving to our new home, and I had JUST constructed our bed frame and put on a clean sheet... And this Beautiful Sensuous creature was immediately at home.
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There she goes teaching me how to live the abundant life, and embracing the finer things in life.
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I see so many men and women struggling with embracing their bodies and the ability given to us to sense and feel the world around us. If you ever need inspiration, look to nature and the animals in your life, they are the best teachers when it comes to being present, mindful, and leading with all their senses.
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Happy Sensuous Sunday 💙 @ Mesa, Arizona

Keeping Date night Spicy- with a Hot'n Spicy from McD and a hot fudge Sunday from Sonic.... Hahaha. Quarantine improv. 💁...
04/19/2020

Keeping Date night Spicy- with a Hot'n Spicy from McD and a hot fudge Sunday from Sonic.... Hahaha. Quarantine improv. 💁‍♀️🤷‍♀️
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How are you and your love living your best life right now??

Control over anything other than our own words, actions, and responses to situations, is an illusion. ..If we can surren...
04/18/2020

Control over anything other than our own words, actions, and responses to situations, is an illusion.
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If we can surrender our notion of control over situations and people, we allow what is to come forward. Once it is known, we can choose our responses.
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For instance: The partner who worries that if they don't ask for time spent together, or reassurance, that their partner won't act, will either be surprised to discover that their partner is ready and anxious to act of their own accord, or it will reveal them for who they are. Then a choice can be made.
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The same goes for uncontrollable life circumstances. We can accept or reject them. If we reject them, we become stuck. If we accept what is, choices can be made, and forward movement is created.
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In Health and Wellness

That look of determination that comes from a deep deep spring cleaning and preparation for moving this week. ..You guys,...
04/17/2020

That look of determination that comes from a deep deep spring cleaning and preparation for moving this week.
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You guys, few things feel as good as recycling, selling, giving away and throwing away "things" that are no longer needed, useful, or joyfull to have.
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It's so freeing and has such profound mental Benefits.
Clarity of mind.
Increased functionality in work and at home. Lessening or elimination of anxious/depressive symptoms associated with clutter.
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Try it today and see what I mean. 🙌

"We will be closing due to the Governor's orders, and we don't know when we will re-open." Was the message we received a...
04/16/2020

"We will be closing due to the Governor's orders, and we don't know when we will re-open." Was the message we received a few weeks ago as our Fertility Clinic was deemed a elective and thus non-essential medical establishment. When we received the news I thought "ya, ok, that makes sense" accepted it and moved forward with my day.
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Today I noticed that 2 days from now we would have started our procedure. It's easy to think thoughts like "of course this happens to us when we are FINALLY ready to try again." Or "it's been close to 7 years, what's another few months of uncertainty?" No shock, just apathy. To think, starting a family, deemed non-essential?
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I feel for my fellow cysters and their partners at this time. The ones who still hurt, still feel shock, still feel despair, and are facing more disappointment, more uncertainty. Who may now need to delay treatment due to job loss, due to lack of funds, or because they had already started their treatment cycle and now need to re-order medications that cost 3 months salaries.
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Don't tell them:
" It's better you didn't get pregnant now, what if you got the virus?"
"It will all work out when the time is right."
"It just wasn't meant to be."
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Instead tell them:
"I am so sorry this happened to you."
"I am here for you, and you can talk to me anytime, cry with me, any time."
"It's ok to not be ok right now. You don't have to put on a smile or laugh with me. I accept you just the way you are."
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Please reach out to that aunt, sister, friend, co-worker etc, that's part of the 1 in 8 who struggle with infertility. They are not ok.
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Together we will get through this, but it takes all of us looking outside ourselves, caring.
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In Health and Wellness

Comparison serves no one. It's easy to get wrapped up in other people's accomplishments and begin to doubt our own value...
04/15/2020

Comparison serves no one. It's easy to get wrapped up in other people's accomplishments and begin to doubt our own value.
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When we instead live in an abundance mindframe, we shift our thinking into celabrating other people's accomplishments as well as our own. We turn away from comparisons, but seek to offer the world our best instead, and lift those who struggle along the way.
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There is enough for everyone.
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If we have the desire and put in the work, we will achieve.
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That Pinterest mom who is completing project after project during quarantine? Guess what she may desperately NEED stimulation to her brain between wrangling kids all day. She may feel like everything is out of control, but these projects are within her realm of control, that makes her feel just a little bit more safe and secure.
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Your friend who hasn't changed clothes for a week and has been glued to the couch in a ball of fear and tears. They're sitting with some heavy stuff. They may not have taken a break in years to feel all the built up pain of so much life and all the disappointments it brings. But now they are being forced to. Let them be. Better yet call them and check on them and tell them you are there for them.
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That anxious Dad pleading for the economy to restart. He's scared. He's got mouths to feed, and maybe he just lost his job. Send a package of food or supplies his way. Check on him. He's not ok.
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That ragged healthcare worker? Exhaustion, exposure both visual as well as viral, PTSD symptoms, and fear. Work with facilities to aid in supplying them with what they need. Thank one when you pass them on your evening walk, and check on them. They are not ok.

Part of my "new normal" has been running with my pup in the mornings. ..Running and other morning cardio has tremendous ...
04/14/2020

Part of my "new normal" has been running with my pup in the mornings.
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Running and other morning cardio has tremendous physical and mental health benefits, such as:
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Releasing Endorphins or "feel good neurotransmitters"
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Increasing cardiovascular capacity
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Increasing breathing/lung function
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Let's me get my natural Vitamin D before 10 am when the sun is least harmful, which combats depression
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Allows me to spend time with my dog 🐕
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Feel more awake/alert/present
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Feel more motivated to tackle the day
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Decompress
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Lessen anxiety
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Receive natural bilateral stimulation such as in EMDR
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And so much more!
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What healthy habits are you returning to, or establishing for the first time?

Animals have always been so special to me. They seem to have an uncanny ability to sense the state of their owners, and ...
04/13/2020

Animals have always been so special to me. They seem to have an uncanny ability to sense the state of their owners, and respond accordingly.
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Call them Emotionally Attuned.
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They also are such great examples of being in-sync with their body and it's needs. They sleep when tired. Eat when hungry. Play when bored. Snuggle when wanting to connect.
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They do all this without ever judging their owner, or expecting more from them. What is offered, is enough, and they accept it with gratitude.
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We have a lot to learn from them.

Tight quarters, uncertainty, increased time together and a whole slew of loses and perceived as well as real threats to ...
04/12/2020

Tight quarters, uncertainty, increased time together and a whole slew of loses and perceived as well as real threats to safety... Lead to anger in us and our partner.
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Did you know that our Anger serves a purpose? In crisis/trauma/ and grief processing our Anger steps up as our PROTECTOR and does whatever it can to keep us "Safe" from real or perceived threats.
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It often does this by keeping people we love most at arms length, as if letting them get to close to what we are really feeling could be too dangerous, exposing, or scary.
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What if instead, we acknowledge the Angers role in our body? Lean into it? Even thank it, for protecting us?
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Would we find, that underneath we are actually Frightened, Unsure of the Future, Sad, and longing for Human Connection?
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I Dare you to sit with your Anger. I Dare you to take the time to understand what you are most needing deep down. Then turn to those you love the most, who are safe, and who you can let into that sacred space. See what happens.
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I promise it will be better than biting our loved ones Head off because we don't take the time to understand the Anger. 😘
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In Health and Wellness

04/11/2020

Aquarium keeping does a lot for me. Today I completely re-did this little tank. It's an outlet for creativity, and the colors and life of the plants and fish along with the soothing light and sounds of bubbling water are incredibly soothing to me.
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What hobbies or creative persuits have you been reaching for lately? Tell me Bellow. ⬇️

Guys, I seriously am so humbled and grateful to have reached another milestone of 800 followers. I appreciate all of you...
04/10/2020

Guys, I seriously am so humbled and grateful to have reached another milestone of 800 followers. I appreciate all of you so much, and continue to strive to provide free content that can be helpful, uplifting, and inspiring.
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I ask if there is something you'd like to see, or see more of that you reach out Via DM or comment on this post.
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I promise I don't bite. Haha.
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Thank you all again. 🙌♥️

Everyone processes differently in traumatic situations, and yet there are some common transitions that may be experience...
04/09/2020

Everyone processes differently in traumatic situations, and yet there are some common transitions that may be experienced either in or out of order as a result of the many real and ambiguous loses people are experiencing.
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Stages can include:
Shock/Denial/Retreat
Rage/Anger
Depression/Acknowledgement of loss
Bargaining
Acceptance
Commitment/Adaptation
Creativity/Risk Taking
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Some process best individually while others find it helpful to talk outloud with a friend, loved one or professional.
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If the later is you, don't hesitate to reach out.
@ Mesa, Arizona

You guys, Video Therapy Sessions are amazing! ..I will be honest... I was worried at first that therapy with my couples ...
04/08/2020

You guys, Video Therapy Sessions are amazing!
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I will be honest... I was worried at first that therapy with my couples and individuals would be difficult to do effectively online.
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I was shocked, and so happy, to discover though, that if anything.... Video Therapy is actually more effective!
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Here is my hypothesis and some things I'm noticing for why you should give this modality a try:
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1. Many of my clients choose to video in from the comfort of their home. No driving, no sitting in a lobby anxiously. Often dressed comfortably and surounded by their pets. (Who seem to offer incredible emotional support as they process, and I so love to see them! 🐶😸)
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2. With couples, I'm noticing they have more time to devote to the work, and are clearing stages much more effectively, and rapidly at this time. I have had several also tell me they feel more relaxed and able to focus on the process of therapy over video as they feel more at ease in the comfort of their home.
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3. With individuals, especially the ones I am using EMDR with, they too are clearing their trauma and targets much more rapidly and fully! They tell me the separation of the screen allows them to dive more deeply into what they are processing, and if they become emotional they can turn their video off/close their eyes, and not feel as exposed, as they might in an office. Win win.
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If you have any questions, or would like to try it today, please DM me. 💁‍♀️ I Do offer a free 15 min phone or Video consultation, if you'd like to experience it for yourself!
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If you're struggling please reach out, to me or another qualified professional. You don't have to struggle alone. We are all in this together.

In Health and Wellness.

As I sit in bed finishing out work for my private practice, my heart goes out to the other business owners today. ..I've...
04/07/2020

As I sit in bed finishing out work for my private practice, my heart goes out to the other business owners today.
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I've had multiple interactions throughout the day and over the last couple weeks with many friends, collegeues, clients and other business owners and the tough decisions and questions many of them are facing right now.
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Will my family be ok?
Can we afford our business expenses?
Can we afford our bills?
Can we keep our employees employed? How long?
Will we need to close our business?
Will we lose it all?
What will happen to those we have to let go?
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And countless other questions.
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First, realize, that this is not something any of us could have predicted. Some of us were able to prepare and have emergency savings for a event just like this, some businesses are so new or have not yet become profitable to where this was maybe not even a possibility. Have empathy for yourself, and those businesses and people around you who are struggling.
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Shame filled judgmental comments about how someone could have/should have done more, won't help anyone right now. Kindness, and compassion, will.
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If you're the one making these tough decisions, I feel for you. Here is an article that may help you walk through the steps of making these choices: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-prime/201411/6-steps-making-tough-business-decisions (link in Bio)
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Chin up. We are all in this together.

I feel it too. It seems like even on the days where I haven't physically exerted myself much, I'm extra tired right now....
04/06/2020

I feel it too. It seems like even on the days where I haven't physically exerted myself much, I'm extra tired right now.
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Our body has a way of helping us cope, and process information in a way that makes it easier to handle. So if you feel tired, don't feel guilty for taking a nap, or even going to sleep way earlier than usual. Chances are your brain needs that extra time to make sense of all this crazyness, and your body is trying to help you out.
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For best results stick to the body's natural Sleep cycle, by either taking a 15, or 90 minute nap. 90 minutes is a Full REM cycle and will help you feel most awake after. The next best alternatice is 15 min. Avoiding 30-60 minute naps will help you combat fatigue as these lengths of nap are associated with greater grogginess on waking.
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Winds Of Change Counseling 4111 E Valley Auto Dr #201.
Gilbert, AZ
85206

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Monday 12:00 - 20:00
Tuesday 12:00 - 20:00
Wednesday 12:00 - 20:00
Thursday 12:00 - 20:00
Friday 10:00 - 18:00

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