Thorns.N.All

09/22/2026

Feeling like your identity shifted overnight? You’re not alone. In “The Many Times You Become Yourself,” Jen King explores identity as an ongoing process — moments that redraw who we think we are and how we respond. Read the full essay to find comfort, clarity, and practical insight for navigating those turning points. https://wix.to/TWrFwFl

I've had more people than I can count reach out to start therapy, text me before a scheduled appointment, or show up for the appointment dysregulated because of an identity crisis. That's what it almost always feels like — a crisis. A redrawing of a map they thought was settled, one that shifts se...

09/16/2026

Relief and happiness get treated like the same thing, but they’re not - and mixing them up can leave you thinking your life is fine when it’s actually just…not bad.

My new blog helps you actually tell the difference!

https://www.thornsnall.com/post/happy-vs-safe-relief-difference

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09/16/2026

New on the blog this week — the difference between feeling safe and feeling happy, and why it matters more than you'd think.

We tend to treat relief and joy as interchangeable, but they're not the same feeling, and they're definitely not the same life.

Why it matters: understanding this distinction can help you build better self-care, set clearer boundaries, and find moments that actually bring joy.

Full breakdown (and a few quick ways to tell which one you're actually in) — Read it on our blog: https://wix.to/8E6TKqb

For LGBTQIA+ folks, it's common for the concepts of happiness and safety to become intertwined. In a world that frequently feels unsafe and filled with stressors for minorities, feeling safe certainly feels great! However, safety isn't the same as happiness, so let's work on distinguishing between t...

09/06/2026

Feeling stuck in the search for everyday joy? Our new guide — How to Build Happiness as a Q***r Person: A Step-by-step Guide — walks you through spotting what truly lights you up, quieting the inner critic, and turning self-care into daily habits. Read the full guide and start building a happier life today: https://wix.to/GTw5EiF

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A practical guide to building happiness as a q***r person — how to spot what really makes you happy, quiet the inner critic, and make it a daily habit.

09/04/2026

Choosing joy can feel like a radical act — and I’m here to invite you to try it, thorny bits and all.

This post (https://wix.to/zRxN49H) is about q***r happiness as resistance: the small, messy, fierce moments that remind you you’re valid, loved, and allowed to feel good. Start small: carve out a safe corner, reach for chosen family, say one thing today that makes you proud. Radical self-care isn’t always pretty, but it’s necessary. If therapy, creativity, or a midnight text with a friend helps — do that. Your joy fuels resilience and connects us all.

Read more on the blog and take one gentle step toward your own happiness: www.thornsnall.com

How are you finding joy this week? I’d love to hear — drop a moment below. 🌈✨

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