New Beginnings Women's Help Center

10/30/2026

"When we pretend to have it all together rather than admit our weaknesses, we inhibit our spiritual and emotional growth. Such growth comes, in part, when we confess our faults and weaknesses to each other." (Safe People Workbook by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend page 18 Have you found pretending to have it all together to be positive or negative in your relationships?

10/29/2026

Why does the attitude of having it all together make a person unsafe? "Unsafe people have personal traits that make them extremely dangerous. They are self-righteous. They demand trust. And when their facade of perfection is stripped away, they blow up or disappear." (Safe People by Dr. Cloud and Dr. Townsend page 27) Circle each that you have noted how another person's actions, attitudes, and /or words contributed to your feelings. Disconnected-----One Down----Weaker than you actually are----Dependent on the strong one----Angry and hostile toward the together one----The need to compete to reverse the role. (Safe People Workbook page 18)

10/28/2026

Children love to cuddle their favorite stuffed animal. They love to give hugs and kisses too. We can learn from this. Dr. Simon-Thomas states that when we give and serve others it "activates pathways in the brain that release oxytocin, which is a neuropeptide (protein-like molecules) that signals trust, safety, and connection. It's often referred to as the cuddle hormone." (Amy Novotney, What Happens in Your Brain When You Give a Gift, American Psychological Association, December 9, 2022
https://www.apa.org/topics/mental-health/brain-gift-giving). When we let other help us, we produce more joy in the giver. I guess children understand the feeling of joy that is experienced when they give cuddles. So, give this exercise a try by finding a warm fuzzy blanket, curl up on the couch, and either: read a good book, sip on a hot beverage, or listen to soothing music. We can all give ourselves some joy this hectic holiday season. Comment below what cuddle hormone releasing exercise you tried.

10/27/2026

10/24/2026

If you had the chance to build a multi million dollar house, would you build it on a beach or on a mountain? Our lives are that multi million dollar house. What if I told you that if you build that house on the sand that it flood every hurricane season. Would you still build it on the sandy beach? The circumstances of life are affected by what foundation we choose to build on. Happiness in life is stable when we build upon a firm foundation. We anchor our thoughts upon an unchanging foundation. If you find yourself unhappy then take a look at your foundation. If it is built on the sand of having more money or things, then life loses happiness. If you believe in God, then you already have a firm foundation that will never change. Contentment can not happen any other way. This is how you can have joy despite life's circumstances. Then we will feel that fullness of joy.

10/23/2026

Many of us have seen the movie, Bambie. In one of the scenes, Bambie's mother is teaching about how to speak to other animals that are different. Instead of saying everything that seems obvious, like another animal's big feet, Bambie's mother gently corrects with this phrase, "If you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything at all." We can all learn a lesson from this simple phrase. How often do you blurt out the first thing that pops into your head when you are upset with someone? Do you refrain from saying hurtful comments? Do you jab with passive-aggressive comments? Sometimes it is better to not speak until we have done some self-reflection. Ask yourself what was done or spoken by another that has you all worked up. Next dig down within until you reach an unspoken thought. Maybe you are triggered by an internal thought such as, I don't trust people who say or do hurtful things. If you have dealt with past trauma in which other people's words or actions left a deep wound of distrust, even criticism can reopen that wound. It's time to start speaking the truth to ourselves instead of saying nothing at all to anyone. Start with saying something nice about who you are. Then start to unpack the trauma with a licensed counselor.

10/22/2026

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10/21/2026

Do you know what a camel and a giving person have in common? They both carry the weight of others. A camel's hump store fat to be used when food is scarce. It helps sustain them in harsh arid conditions. Their body has very efficient kidneys and absorption of water from the foods they eat. So why all the facts on camels? In order to be a filled-up giver, we need to take some tips from these facts. First, givers need to have a steady diet of reciprocal relationships. These types of relationships will sustain when our giving meter starts running low. Next, givers need to absorb the fluid of peace, energy, and love. Then when the time comes that we are in a desert of repeated giving with little receiving, we can bear the weight of others. If we don't heed these facts, then we run dry in the desert.

10/20/2026

Givers are those who keep giving, keep showing up, keep being understanding, and keep being the strong one for others. If you are a giver, then you will understand that at some point in life you will find yourself running on fumes and almost empty. This happens to givers because we forget that we need to be poured into too. We show up, check in, help, and listen to others but when it comes time for us to receive, there is utter silence. Maybe it is time to do some deeper inspection. First step, get honest. Givers can feel overwhelmed, overly responsible for others, and just a plain dry cup. Admit that you have hit empty on your giving gas tank. Second step, evaluate relationships balance. If others only connect when you are the one giving, then there is not balance. Start determining how much is your limit to pour into these types of unbalanced relationships. Last, look for those who pour back. If someone takes the time to ask how you are doing and truly takes the time to listen to you, this is a pour back person. If pouring into others is costing you too much of yourself then limit and pivot to find those who offer mutual care. Givers are not unlimited fountains for others to drink from.