A Nova Counseling Services L.L.C

06/10/2024

Oftentimes when I meet with my clients, I hear things like, “I don’t know why I felt ______, but it was uncomfortable/frustrating/not right for the situation, so I just tried to distract myself until I didn’t feel it anymore.”

Your emotions are meant to be felt at the degree they are presenting and that’s OKAY! It can be overwhelming sometimes and, if we were never really given the space to feel these feelings, we may not completely understand how to process them or even communicate what we’re feeling (again, that’s OKAY!)

So, what can we do? One thing I always suggest is mindfulness/grounding exercises. If we need to take a second to breathe, reflect, disengage, we can give ourselves that moment before we respond!

If we need to set a boundary and tell someone, “I’m feeling a lot right now, I need some time to process, then we can come back to this conversation when we’re both ready” that is great as well! Allow yourself to take up space, take time, and give yourself the space to feel your emotions and remind yourself that it’s totally valid and what makes you human! ✨

06/01/2024

Happy first day of P R I D E month !!

You are perfect just as you are, you are loved, needed, supported, cherished, and oh so welcome to be YOU !!

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05/30/2024

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05/29/2024

This is the FIRST video I’m sharing on this page … and an honor it truly is 🥹✨

Happy W E D N E S D A Y

05/28/2024

When we think, “oh, I’m just a people pleaser!” We sometimes associate that with a strength … I just love making others happy, feel heard, putting others before myself is selfless, etc. etc.

BUT, what if I told you people pleasers DIDN’T exist ?! People pleasing is actually a form of conflict avoidance!

What does that feel like/look like to you reframing it and thinking about it that way?

What is your relationship with conflict? ✨

05/27/2024

Anxiety and stress can cause us to worry about so many things that are out of our control; and convince us that it is up to US to change these things … how rough is that ?!

I know I have mentioned this before in a previous post, however, trying to put our thoughts on trial and asking ourselves: “is this something I can control? Is this something I can change right now? Is this something that will matter a day, week, month, etc. from now?”

These questions can directly help us better differentiate between rational worry and emotional worry and can help us with better gauging and responding to our “fight or flight” response that anxiety and stress can sometimes stir up (the sympathetic nervous system!)

Obviously, hindsight is always 20/20, so sometimes going through the situation is the only way for us to truly see the ‘rational vs. emotional’ and know certainly what it is, however, being able to prepare yourself a bit and have some tips/tricks at your disposal can make a difference !! ✨

05/26/2024

It’s been quite a while since there has been a post on this page, my apologies !

Happy S U N D A Y ✨

What are you doing to reset for this coming week? Whether you have tomorrow off for Memorial Day or not, what is your self-care practice looking like?

Take time for yourself to re-center, recharge, and BREATHE!

Enjoy the rest of your weekend, my friend !

05/04/2024

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04/25/2024

T H U R S D A Y affirmation ✨

04/23/2024

Always remind yourself: the world is most definitely a better place just because you are here and you exist!✨

04/12/2024

It’s been a minute since we’ve shared some mental health reminders … a great post for a F R I D A Y afternoon ✨

Being able to change our self-talk is important; recognizing the difference between how we willingly and automatically speak with kindness to others … imagine the power of internalizing that same kindness to ourselves!

Give it a try, see what you can do to change your understanding of yourself today!

03/30/2024

Self-care S A T U R D A Y ✨✨

How do you prioritize yourself when you need a little recharge? Like the saying goes, “you cannot pour from an empty cup” — how are you making sure your cup is full?

It goes beyond the manicures, extra sleep, those little treats, etc.! Ensure you’re also prioritizing your boundaries, recognizing your strengths, and reminding yourself that your voice HAS POWER!

Enjoy the weekend!

03/29/2024

Some Friday affirmation/manifestation ✨

Happy (almost) weekend, everyone !!

03/26/2024

Happy T U E S D A Y ✨

Just a reminder: you are YOU and that is your POWER

03/25/2024

03/01/2024

Happy Fri-YAY!! ✨

02/20/2024

We do not have to tell ourselves that “everything happens for a reason” and that we have to live under this guise that we have to move on and not share our story or talk about our feelings/thoughts regarding something that has happened out of fear of being “too much” or “a burden.”

LET YOURSELF FEEL YOUR FEELINGS AND GIVE YOURSELF THE SPACE OF REMINDING YOURSELF: things can suck. Like, really, really suck. We can remind ourselves that it’s not fair we had to be the one to experience something so hurtful, hard, sad, etc.

Give yourself the space and time to validate your feelings and experiences - you’re NOT a burden for bringing it up and trying to process it, you don’t have to “just get over it” … take all the time and space you need to process effectively ✨

02/15/2024

Some T H U R S D A Y thoughts ✨

Something I typically ask my clients when we’re working on decatastrophizing or identifying what is truly in our control vs. what is not, if our anticipated “worse case scenario” were to actually happen:

• is this something that will matter an hour from now?
• is this something that will matter a week from now?
• is this something that will matter a month from now?
• is this something that will matter a year from now?

Oftentimes we find ourselves consumed with our thoughts and emotions, and they can all appear to be factual (I mean, because they’re ours and we’re experiencing them, right? So they must be true!)

HOWEVER, emotions and feelings are NOT facts, they’re based out of habit and/or experiences! So to try and break this pattern of assumption/anticipation, ask yourself … is this really worth my energy?

02/14/2024

Happy Valentine’s Day to YOU! Celebrate self-love and self-care today!

A lot of times people think holidays like today are reserved for those that are in relationships; HOWEVER the most important relationship is something we’re all in … the relationship with OURSELVES.

Give yourself recognition and reinforcement for your strengths, where you’d like to grow and challenge yourself, and celebrating being unapologetically YOU!

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02/09/2024

Happy Friday, everyone!! Enjoy the weekend! ✨

02/08/2024

Our verbiage is SO important! Be mindful (to your best ability!) of trying to avoid absolutes (should have, always, never) and be forgiving of yourself … we are all forever learning and evolving ✨

02/07/2024

Also remind yourself to take the time to refill your cup ✨

02/06/2024

Self-love and self-acceptance Tuesday ✨

02/01/2024

Just a friendly reminder from your local therapist ✨

01/29/2024

I think it’s brave you face every new week with the perspective of getting through it ✨

I think it’s brave you’ve survived your entire life up to this point, and you continue to wake up every day ✨

I think it’s brave of you to try and acknowledge your resilience, even if you feel like you’re undeserving of it because “I haven’t done anything brave.” ✨

I think it’s brave that you continue to be YOU ✨

01/27/2024

Happy Saturday ✨ enjoy the weekend !!

01/25/2024

It’s OKAY to need space, time, and feel our emotions

It’s NOT OKAY to deny ourselves validating how we feel just to appease others or feel like we have to “just push through”

Be honest, be open, and know you don’t have to JUST survive ✨