10/20/2026
This is the line I say most often, to parents and teens alike: all feelings are welcome. All behaviors are not.
Your teen is allowed to be furious. They're allowed to be devastated over something that seems small to you. What they're not allowed to do is throw something, scream in your face, or shut you out as punishment.
Validating the feeling and holding the boundary aren't opposites — they're both required. Most of us were only ever taught one.
Want the framework for how to do both, every time? That's exactly what I teach inside coaching. → drlonnagordon.com