The Underlying Answers

10/17/2026

I often say that the answers are within us.

But there's an important distinction:

𝗛𝗮𝘃𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝗻𝘀𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻 𝘂𝘀 𝗱𝗼𝗲𝘀𝗻'𝘁 𝗺𝗲𝗮𝗻 𝘄𝗲 𝗮𝘂𝘁𝗼𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗸𝗻𝗼𝘄 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗶𝘁.

For much of my life, when my body produced symptoms, I looked outside myself for something that would make those symptoms stop.

For me, medications often suppressed what I was experiencing—but I wasn't yet asking what my body might be communicating through those symptoms.

Today, I approach things differently.

Listening within doesn't mean rejecting outside help.

In fact, I believe it can help us 𝘀𝗲𝗲𝗸 𝗯𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝘀𝗶𝗱𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁.

When we become curious about what our bodies are communicating, we can begin asking different questions and finding practitioners, resources, and approaches that help us understand and work with what we're experiencing.

The answer within may not tell us exactly how to heal.

Sometimes it tells us 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘄𝗲 𝗻𝗲𝗲𝗱 𝘀𝘂𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗿𝘁.

And then we can go outside ourselves to find the knowledge, expertise, and resources we don't yet have.

🎙️ You can catch the full episode with Kelly Dean on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts.

10/05/2026

I realized something during this conversation that I hadn't fully recognized before:

𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗼𝗻𝗻𝗲𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗺𝘆 𝗽𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗶𝗰 𝗳𝗹𝗼𝗼𝗿.

I've done so much work over the years reconnecting with my body, learning its signals, and becoming aware of what it's communicating.

Yet somehow, this part of my body had remained outside of that awareness.

Talking with Kelly Dean brought my attention directly to it.

And that became one of the most powerful parts of this episode for me.

Because body connection isn't just about noticing symptoms.

It's also about noticing the places we don't feel.

The places we don't think about.

The places we've unintentionally stopped including in our awareness of ourselves.

Sometimes healing isn't about discovering something completely new.

Sometimes it's about reconnecting with a part of ourselves that has been there all along.

🎙️ You can catch the full episode with Kelly Dean on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts.

09/30/2026

For decades, I was incredibly disconnected from my body.

And looking back, that makes sense.

When you've lived through years of symptoms, reactions, illness, and discomfort, being fully present in your body isn't necessarily an easy place to be.

Over the years, so much of my healing has involved reconnecting with the very body I once felt disconnected from.

Learning to notice it.
Learning to listen to it.
Learning to trust what it was communicating.

During my conversation with Kelly Dean, I found myself reflecting on just how profound that disconnection had once been—and how much my relationship with my body has changed.

Reconnection hasn't happened all at once.

It has happened layer by layer.

And, as this conversation showed me, there are still places within myself waiting to be rediscovered.

🎙️ You can catch the full episode with Kelly Dean on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts.

09/24/2026

Sometimes we don't realize how much we've adapted until we look back.

Life happens.

Circumstances change.
Challenges arise.
Our bodies change.
Our roles change.
Our environments change.

And because life keeps moving, we find ways to move with it.

In my conversation with Jay Setchell, we talk about how easily adaptation can happen without us consciously recognizing it.

We adjust because, in many moments, "we have to."

Over time, those adjustments can influence how we think, what we expect, how we respond, and even what we believe we're capable of.

That's what makes adaptation such a fascinating part of the human experience.

Sometimes the patterns we carry today make much more sense when we understand what life once required of us.

🎙️ You can catch the full episode with Jay Setchell on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts.

09/23/2026

This was one of the most vulnerable moments I've shared on my podcast.

I talked openly with Kelly Dean about something I've dealt with personally—incontinence when I sneeze - and I have sneezed A LOT!

But something unexpected happened during our conversation.

As we talked, I realized that I had been looking at this as a physical problem I needed to fix.

And suddenly I could see it differently:

𝗧𝗵𝗶𝘀, 𝘁𝗼𝗼, 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗺𝘆 𝗯𝗼𝗱𝘆 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝗰𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝗺𝗲.

There was another layer asking for my attention.

That realization hit me deeply during the interview because I've spent years learning to listen to my body—and yet here was an area where I hadn't fully recognized what it was trying to tell me.

Sometimes listening to our bodies isn't about having all the answers.

Sometimes it begins by recognizing that something we've been frustrated with, embarrassed by, or simply trying to fix may also be information worth becoming curious about.

🎙️ You can catch the full episode with Kelly Dean on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts.

09/19/2026

Katie Rizzo shared one of the most beautiful descriptions of grief I've ever heard.

She compared grief to pregnancy.

During pregnancy, the placenta connected Katie and her son. It was something their two bodies created together—something that existed because of their relationship.

And she sees grief in a similar way.

Grief is something she and her son made together.

She carries it because she carries the love and the relationship that created it.

That stopped me.

Because it reframes grief as something more than pain that we're supposed to eventually leave behind.

For Katie, grief is also evidence of connection.

Of love.

Of a relationship that continues to matter.

This was one of those moments in an interview when there really wasn't anything that needed to be added. Her words were enough.

🎙️ You can catch the full episode with Katie Rizzo on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts.

09/19/2026

What keeps us moving forward when part of us feels like we can't take another step?

For Jay Setchell, grit, determination, and discipline have played an enormous role.

His life has included years of physical trauma and circumstances that could have given him plenty of reasons to stop.

But Jay's motto is:

"It's always too soon to quit."

In this conversation, we explore where that ability to keep going comes from—and how the experiences we've had, the environments we've grown up in, and the internal resources we've developed can influence the way we respond when life becomes difficult.

Resilience doesn't mean life doesn't affect us.

Sometimes it's what helps us continue moving through the moments that do.

🎙️ You can catch the full episode with Jay Setchell on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts.

09/19/2026

What if a response that looks like dysfunction actually makes sense within the body’s history?

I recently joined Dayna on the Spirit to Cell Podcast for a conversation that went into so many of the ideas at the heart of my work.

For 34 years, I lived with severe allergies and chronic illness. For much of that time, I understood my symptoms primarily through the lens of what was going wrong in my body.

Eventually, I began seeing something else.

Our experiences can teach the body what to anticipate. Those predictions can influence protective responses, physiology, behavior, and the way we respond long after the original experience has passed.

This is what I now describe through The Architecture of Adaptation™:

We adapt to the predictions our experiences teach us to make.

Dayna and I explored how that understanding emerged through my own healing, along with trauma, nervous system regulation, EBDT™, the body's energy and information fields, spirituality, Western medicine, and what it means to work in partnership with the body's natural intelligence.

And underneath the entire conversation was a question I believe is changing the way we think about healing.

🎧 Watch the full conversation on Spirit to Cell:

What if your chronic symptoms, severe allergies, and flare-ups aren...

09/10/2026

Before losing her son, Katie Rizzo says she spent much of her life living in the future.

Thinking ahead.
Planning ahead.
Waiting for what was next.

Grief changed that.

Today, Katie does her best to live in the moment—and poetry has become one of the ways she comes back to herself.

Writing gives her space to notice what she's feeling, reflect on what's happening inside of her, and simply be present with herself.

There was something so beautiful about this part of our conversation.

We spend so much of our lives thinking about where we're going that sometimes we forget to experience where we are now.

Katie's story is a tender reminder that "this moment matters, too."

🎙️ You can catch the full episode with Katie Rizzo on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts.

09/04/2026

Sometimes feeling our emotions is hard.

Really hard.

Sitting with pain, grief, anger, fear, or sadness can feel so uncomfortable that we find ways to move around it instead.

We stay busy.
We distract ourselves.
We tell ourselves we're fine.
We try to move on.

In this conversation with Katie Rizzo, I talk about how easily we can bypass what we're feeling simply because allowing ourselves to actually feel it can hurt.

But our emotions are part of our experience—and sometimes what we need most isn't to get past them.

It's to give ourselves permission to be with them.

This was such a raw, heartfelt conversation about grief, love, loss, and what it means to continue living while honoring everything we feel along the way.

🎙️ You can catch the full episode with Katie Rizzo on YouTube, Spotify, or Apple Podcasts.