TheraChi Healing with Jodi Silverman

11/07/2026

This is so great. If you don’t know Frans’s work I highly recommend!

I am getting great feedback about my new book... there is also a two hour video course linked to the teachings in the book:
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11/06/2026

You’ve made a decision that feels right for you, but now you’re questioning every step. Without a familiar answer to follow, even an ordinary choice can feel unexpectedly difficult.

In my conversation with Audra Phelps, she described something she hadn’t expected to grieve after leaving the Mormon Church: certainty. She had gained freedom to choose, while also facing the fear of making the wrong choice.

What stayed with me was the space between those experiences. Wanting more choice doesn’t mean that having it will immediately feel comfortable.

You may recognize something similar when you question a family expectation, change a familiar role, or begin making decisions around your own needs. There can be relief, uncertainty, and grief alongside each other.

Audra shares her experience with honesty and care. You can hear our full conversation on The Spiritually Curious Therapist through the podcast link in my bio. 🎧

11/05/2026

🎙️ **DID YOU MISS IT?**

Have you ever found yourself doing something you didn't really want to do, simply because you believed you were supposed to?

Maybe you were trying to be a good partner.

A good parent.

A good friend.

Or just a good person.

In my latest conversation with Audra Phelps, she shares a moment that stopped me in my tracks.

She was preparing Thanksgiving dinner, making her husband's favorite apple pie from scratch, when she realized she was feeling resentful.

And then she asked herself a simple question:

*Why am I making this?*

Her husband hadn't asked her to.

She didn't even like apple pie.

So she decided to make her own favorite instead.

Except...

**She had no idea what her favorite pie was.**

After decades of anticipating everyone else's needs, she'd lost touch with her own preferences.

And I wonder how many of us have experienced our own version of that moment.

Maybe it wasn't about pie.

Maybe it was about a relationship, a career, a family tradition, or simply saying yes when you wanted to say no.

Sometimes the smallest moments reveal the biggest patterns.

In this episode of *The Spiritually Curious Therapist*, Audra and I explore what happens when we begin questioning the beliefs that have shaped our identities—and how we can start making choices that actually reflect who we are.

🎧 If you haven't listened yet, I hope you'll check it out!

💬 **Here's my question for you: What's your apple pie?**

11/04/2026

A daughter. A partner. A mother.

The one who holds it all together.

So many of us spend our whole lives being who everyone else needed us to be. Our roles get laid out for us, especially in our culture, and we learn to fill them.

That’s often where people are when they come into therapy. And the question that comes up is a big one. How do we know what’s true for us, when we’ve spent years learning what other people need us to be?

That moment of “wait a minute, who am I?” can feel unsettling. It isn’t a sign that something is wrong with you. It can be the beginning of coming back to yourself.

This is part of my series on the Reiki precepts.

Follow Jodi Silverman, LCSW | Chronic Pain & Nervous System Therapist for the next one.

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11/03/2026

You go to make a simple choice, like trying something new, and a voice inside says this is wrong.

My guest on the podcast, Audra Phelps, M.Sc, MNLP, shared what it was like after she left the Mormon Church. Whenever something felt bad or wrong, she had to stop and ask where that feeling was coming from. She did this with everything, from her first cup of coffee to whether her kids could wear tank tops. Her question was, “Is this mine, or is this an inherited belief that’s still in my subconscious, running the show?”

I love that question. So many of us carry beliefs we never really chose, and it makes sense that sorting through them can feel exhausting at first. As Audra says, you don’t have to do it all at once.

If you’d like focused, one-on-one support with the beliefs that still have a hold on you, my From Lock to Liberation Intensives might be a good fit.

Link in bio.

11/02/2026

🎙️ **JUST DROPPED!**

**When You Don't Even Know What You Want: Audra Phelps on Leaving Mormonism, Identity & Self-Trust**

Imagine spending 43 years making sure everyone else is happy, only to realize you don't even know what your favorite pie is.

That's exactly what happened to my guest, Audra Phelps.

After leaving the Mormon Church, Audra began questioning the beliefs and expectations that had shaped nearly every part of her life.

What does it mean to be a good wife? A good mother? A good person?

And how do you figure out what YOU want when you've spent your life being told what you should want?

We talk about emotional suppression, resentment, guilt, self-abandonment, and why our nervous systems can find freedom just as frightening as restriction.

And near the end, Audra shares something she never expected to grieve after leaving her religion.

**Certainty.**

That opened up one of my favorite conversations about the relationship between safety, freedom, and learning to live without all the answers.

🎧 The newest episode of *The Spiritually Curious Therapist* is available now!

I'd love to know what resonates with you.

11/02/2026

You go to do something the way you always have, and your body just doesn’t cooperate the way it used to.

I’m in my mid-50s, and so are a lot of my friends. Our kids have left home, our bodies are changing, our hormones are changing, and many of us are grasping to be the way we used to be. Somewhere along the way, we start believing that not being able to do things the old way must mean there’s something wrong with us.

There’s nothing wrong with you. Your conditions have changed. We don’t have to like these changes, and there may be grief or anger in them too. Those feelings are welcome here.

What we can choose is how we want to show up to this season of our lives, with a little more curiosity and a lot less judgment.

If you’d like support as you move through a season of change, send me a DM to inquire about individual therapy.

11/01/2026

🎙️ **DROPPING TOMORROW!**

What happens when you realize that the life you've been living might not actually be the life you would have chosen?

My next guest on *The Spiritually Curious Therapist*, Audra Phelps, spent much of her life following the expectations of the Mormon Church.

When she decided to leave, she gained the freedom to make her own choices.

But here's what surprised her: **Freedom didn't necessarily feel safe.**

Without the familiar rules and expectations, how do you begin figuring out who you are, what you believe, and what you actually want?

We explore identity, guilt, grief, the nervous system, and the complicated process of learning to trust yourself.

And Audra shares a story about making an apple pie that I suspect will resonate with more people than she ever imagined.

✨ Tomorrow's conversation is about so much more than leaving a religion. It's about discovering who you are when you stop living according to everyone else's expectations.

Stay tuned!

10/30/2026

“I used to be able to do this” can carry so much more than frustration. There may be a familiar role you miss, a way of feeling useful, or a version of yourself you’re afraid of losing.

In this conversation with Andrew Keaveney, I spoke about the changes many of us encounter in midlife, including changing bodies, shifting roles, and the expectation that we should still manage everything the way we always have.

I’m interested in what happens when we stop treating that expectation as unquestionable. What are we asking ourselves to return to, and what might need our attention in the life we have now?

Acknowledging change can include sadness and anger. There is room to explore those feelings without rushing yourself toward acceptance.

If this is something you’d like support exploring, you can learn about From Lock to Liberation Intensives through the link in my bio.