23/07/2025
Why do I say this?
Because this was me and still can be me to this day.
If I had a strong feeling of anxiety (as an example), I would intellectualise about how I felt, what it was in response to, and then strategise in my head regarding what I could do to solve that 'problem' or circumstance. This would happen in a matter of seconds/minutes.
Then, I would feel inspired or more overwhelmed, make a cup of tea, feel great or disastrous about myself, and take zero action!
Only for the same scenario to present itself again days/weeks/months later.
You won't be surprised to know that intellect is very high on my strengths (according to Clifton Strengths), and I often intellectualise my problems rather than take action or let them go.
How I learnt to neutralise this strength of mine in those moments was by creating space, and that is where emotional coherence comes in, giving me a sense a groundedness and presence in the moment and actually giving me the space to take action.
Clients often ask me how I am able to make sense of how they feel, just by listening to them speak for a minute or two.
The truth is emotional overwhelm has been a big part of my life, and what appeared to be procrastination or a lack of motivation turned out to be a lack of coherence in the moment.
This doesn't just apply to anxiety, it applies to pain, finances, relationships, career, and so many things.
What I've seen in my life as well as in the lives of those I've guided is that taking action in one area of your life tends to spill over into others because the deeper roots to your suffering is very much connected.
I like to share this because I want you to know that we're all human, and the more we share our experiences, the more relatable we feel in an often disconnected world.
It may not feel like it, but you're doing great and capable of so much more than your current imagination allows you to perceive.
Here, if you need to talk things through.
Brett
