02/10/2026
A few years ago, I never would have imagined that the work I was doing on myself would become such a big part of the work I do with other people... because for a long time, I carried beliefs about myself that I didn’t even realise were running the show.
That I wasn’t good enough.
That I wasn’t smart enough.
That I didn’t deserve to be loved.
That I had to prove my worth.
That I had to work harder, do more and be more to finally feel like I was enough.
And when you’ve carried beliefs like that for long enough, they don’t feel like beliefs.
They feel like the truth.
The last few years have challenged me to actually look at them instead of continuing to live from them, and that has meant doing some really hard work.
Not just learning about change, but actually changing things in myself.
Questioning what I thought was true. Challenging old patterns. Sitting with uncomfortable stuff. Having conversations I didn’t want to have. Learning to respond rather than react. Learning to trust myself. Learning that I didn’t have to keep proving that I was enough.
Finishing my Master NLP Practitioner training recently gave me one of those moments where I stopped and thought… 'I’m not who I was when I started this'.
Things that once could have taken over my head for days don’t have the same hold anymore.
My boundaries are stronger.
I trust myself more.
I respond differently...
I’m still me, though. 😂
I still have hard days. I still get things wrong. I still second-guess myself sometimes. I’m still learning...and maybe that’s the point.
Because some things you can only really learn by doing.
You can learn the theory. You can do the training. You can collect the certificates.
But there are things you only understand when you’ve sat in your own discomfort, challenged the stories you’ve carried for years and discovered that the thing you thought would always control you… doesn’t anymore.
That’s what has changed the way I show up for other people.
I know what it feels like to have a belief about yourself that feels completely true... and I know what it feels like when you realise it doesn’t have to stay that way.
So now I get the privilege of sitting beside other people while they work through their own.
Not because I have everything figured out.
Not because I’ve somehow arrived at the other side, but because I’ve been willing to do the work myself.
And I think there’s something really powerful about being able to say to someone:
I get it.
Not because I’ve lived their exact story, but because I know what it’s like to question the things you’ve believed about yourself for years.
To realise they aren’t the whole truth, and to slowly discover that you can become someone who responds differently, chooses differently and lives differently.
Looking back now, I think that’s what makes it feel so meaningful.
I get to take the things I’ve learned through my own journey - the hard bits, the breakthroughs, the lessons, the things I wish I’d known sooner - and use them to create a space where someone else doesn’t have to figure it all out alone.
And honestly…
that feels pretty special to me. 🥹🤍
