20/08/2026
This morning I took an Ollie-approved load of clothing to a charity I recently discovered, West Welcome Wagon , who provide material aid and support to asylum seekers and refugees in Melbourne’s west.
I’m posting about this, first, to share their organisation. If I didn’t know it existed until recently, you may not either. But second, to talk about some of the feelings that can come up about clothing. Specifically, letting go of clothes that no longer work for us. At the risk of sounding melodramatic, I suspect there may be some of my audience who can relate….
For a long time, I’ve found the task of sorting through and letting go of clothes a taxing, often emotional task.
Going through clothes reminds me of the money I’ve spent - often wasted - trying to find that “perfect piece” that will finally make me feel good enough.
I regret the blatant and wasteful consumerism of it all.
Clothes often remind me of specific memories, moments, or people, and how I felt when I last wore them. There can be a lot of attachment and grief.
They remind me of the sadness and disappointment I sometimes feel about my body. That it can no longer accommodate some of my favourite pieces.
Even though I work in this space, I’m not immune to these feelings. Even though I know that beauty and health are not found in only one body type, and I no longer believe they are; still, that deep programming can rise in these moments.
I’ve gone through this exercise many times, however, I felt this morning that I was able to be a bit more ruthless about letting go. Thinking about how these items will be used by some of the most vulnerable members of our society was helpful. The thought that I could do the smallest thing by letting go of something I’m not using to give to someone who may have lost everything, put things in perspective.
I can’t say the job is done. I’ll admit that there’s still some things i haven’t been ready to let go of. For now, they live in a box, out of sight, until I’m ready - leaving space for a wardrobe that I can open and know that everything fits, feels comfortable, and makes me feel confident.