31/10/2026
Lesson 2785, A Plan Is Just a Plan
What do you do when the trip you've been counting down to all year suddenly looks different?
Tomorrow I fly to Bali for a week. Three of us have been planning this since the start of the year, and after the year we've all had, we were so ready for the break. Then on Wednesday one of the girls lost her family pet and let us know she wouldn't be coming. I completely respect her decision.
I was left holding a whole mix of feelings. Upset about the money she couldn't get back. Upset that she isn't coming with us. And so sad for the loss she and her family are going through.
Then the guilt crept in. Should we really go off and have a good time while she's at home grieving? Will seeing our photos make her feel worse?
After chatting with her, I realised I still needed to go. In the past I may well have cancelled the whole thing and stayed home, but I need this break just as much as anyone else.
We can care deeply for someone and still look after ourselves. Both can be true at the same time.
So if your plans have changed lately, be gentle with yourself. A plan is just a plan. It isn't set in stone. It's how we meet the change that really matters.
See you on the flip side.
Alison
Alasana, A safe space to be you ®