07/10/2026
Women’s silent load ~ this is something I work with over and over again in clinic and have done for the 26+ years with my clients, mentorship participants and myself personally. I would presume it’s something I’ll work with long into the future too.
What is tricky is the silent load is just that, it’s silent, it’s pressure that sits there all the time. It cannot be measured, it’s not paid or recognised but we know when it’s not done.
The silent load is generally held by women, and as I stated I’m speaking generally here. I have worked with tens of thousands of women over my career and the majority of women hold the silent load. It can be held on the shoulders, in the mind, over the heart, the hips, digestion, the womb, the adrenals, the jaw, the immune system, thyroid…..any place that the body may already feel a little compromised. And it sits there and adds pressure and heaviness.
The silent load is the “extra” on top. It’s making sure the kids uniforms are washed and the lunches are done, the birthday presents are thought about and bought, the school has the permission slip signed, parent teacher interviews and the school camp list is filled, it’s the housework, the fridge is full, meals are planned, appliances are cleaned, dog is fed and walked or someone feeds and walks it, dentist appointments filled, suitcases for the holiday are bought, old clothes are cleaned out of the wardrobe and taken to the op shop……..and the list goes on, and on and on.
The silent load must be acknowledged and we must factor it in. Most women I work with have children and work and/or run businesses. I want you to know, you must acknowledge your load and give yourself grace and permission to factor it in. Because it is “silent” it’s often completed in the gaps, the moments between this and that. Acknowledge the silent load because no one else will.
My work with clients and mentor participants is to support them to take it off their mind, hips, digestion, adrenals, jaw, thyroid……and bring it to light and integrate it into their lives with lightness, capacity and more ease. Rebecca xx