ShanTherapy

18/10/2026

My daughter banned me from posting about her on social media. So naturally I’ve written a whole Substack piece about her.
It’s really about my mum, though, and how much I wish she could see the woman her granddaughter has become.

My daughter just turned 25, and the person I most wanted to share it with was my mum

09/09/2026

Inspired by Samantha Calvani, I asked ChatGPT its nickname for me, and why that one. This is what it came back with.

The Lighthouse.

Because you don’t strike me as someone who wants to drag people to shore, rescue them, or tell them which direction they should go.

You illuminate.

You stand steady while someone else gets their bearings. You help them see what’s already there: the coastline, the rocks, the open water, the possibilities. Then they choose their own course.

And there’s another layer I like for you: a lighthouse is both grounded and expansive. Solidly planted, but looking a very long way out. That feels like the combination you keep coming back to in your work — safety and possibility, steadiness and becoming.

Plus, obviously, there’s the ocean.

So yes. In my head, you’re The Lighthouse.

25/08/2026

On Sunday I went to my friend and colleague, Tatiana Salazar pre-book launch for her new book, "Loved! Finally: Choosing to be Seen, Heard and Validated".

Tatiana is a wonderful human, mother, an empathetic and warm relationship counsellor, and a wise woman who knows what's she's talking about. I refer people to her all the time.

Her book will invite you into an honest and loving relationship with yourself first, reminding you that you are worthy - you always were - of great love, without abandoning yourself. It's an easy read with deep wisdom and healing. I know I'll be recommending it to my clients!

Today is launch day!

You can get it on Amazon for just 99c for the Kindle version, or just over $15 for the paperback.

Do yourself a favour! Get it today and help push it up the charts.

You'll also be raising money for Tatiana's charity, HopeNest - healing and restoring the lives of children affected by war, displacement, and disadvantage.

19/06/2026

I checked in with a client today and she’s had a big win!

She’s spent decades making a living with her voice. A long professional career, teaching, specialist work with other performers. She’s amazing.

But money had always been a struggle. Always just enough, never more. And she’d had this quiet belief her whole life, that she just wasn’t good with money. She couldn’t hold onto it. She wasn’t the money one.

We worked together and traced it all back to a single moment when she was four years old. She’d lost a little purse (she could still feel it in her hand). A parent berated her. As a little girl, she decided in that moment that she was hopeless with money.

She’d been running that story for over fifty years.

In the session she found the story, felt the pain and drama of it, and let it go. She left feeling lighter than she had in a while and excited for what would come.

Four days later she was offered a new job! It frees her from the admin of running her own business and pays well. She’s accepted it and she’s excited.

That’s what this work does. It’s not magic. It’s just getting to the thing that’s actually in the way.

11/06/2026

I've filmed this at my desk, in the middle of doing three other things, because I wanted to get it out to you.

We're a third of the way through June. I haven't read a novel. I haven't made anything. I've just been packing my days full of "doing stuff".

If you've been like that too - busy, a bit disconnected from yourself, I've made you something.

It's a free ten-minute (or so) audio called Breathing Room. It's not a meditation or something to squeeze into your routine. Just ten minutes to come back into your body, into presence, into being grounded.

Leave a comment, or send me a DM, and I'll send you the link - manually! (I haven't set up an automatic delivery thing, so it might take a bit longer than you expect!🫠)

11/06/2026

I've filmed this at my desk, in the middle of doing three other things, because I wanted to get it out to you.

We're a third of the way through June. I haven't read a novel. I haven't made anything. I've just been packing my days full of "doing stuff".

If you've been like that too - busy, a bit disconnected from yourself, I've made you something.

It's a free ten-minute (or so) audio called Breathing Room. It's not a meditation or something to squeeze into your routine. Just ten minutes to come back into your body, into presence, into being grounded.

Leave a comment, or send me a DM, and I'll send you the link - manually! (I haven't set up an automatic delivery thing, so it might take a bit longer than you expect!🫠)

05/06/2026

"Why is it every time I arrange to do something for myself, somebody needs something? I've had it!"

That's what she said on our very first call.

And you know what? I hear some version of that all the time.

You've become the hub of everything. At home, at work, in every group chat and family WhatsApp. Indispensable. Relied on. Taken for granted.

And you are OVER it.

You're not asking for much. Maybe just one night a month. One book club. One walk. One hour that's actually, genuinely yours.
I've been working on something, and I can't wait to share it with you.

It's called **The Turning** and it's coming soon.

If you're ready to stop being everything to everyone and start being something to yourself, stay close. More details coming very soon.

04/06/2026

Running around like a mad thing?
Pause...
Beathe... breathe again.
As you breathe out, make an audible noise. This let's your nervous system know that the stress is done. Carry on.
Have a great day!

03/06/2026

If you’re struggling with fatigue, I know what that’s like.

For well over a year now, I’ve been getting up in the middle of the night to attend classes and workshops, engage in practice sessions, have meetings with fellow students and peers, who are nearly all on the other side of the world. Timezones, when you live in Australia, are tricky.

After these long zoom calls, there’s a full day of activity – first my morning swim (as often as I can fit it in), then work (which occasionally ends at 10pm), and the evening calls - more meetings.

Sometimes I get home from my swim and just want to crawl back into bed. Or get off an early zoom call, and want to crawl back into bed.

My husband has become expert at sleepwalking to the lounge and resuming his sonorous snoring with barely a break between bed and sofa. (My office is in the corner of my bedroom.)

Anyway, the point of this story isn’t to whinge about my lack of sleep. It’s to share that I understand about working hard to get somewhere. And, that when you love what you’re doing, you don’t mind (too much) the sacrifices.

Because the reason I’m doing it? I want to show up as the best possible version of myself for the women I work with.

Women who feel disconnected from themselves. Who are quietly wondering how life got so full, and yet somehow so far from what they actually want. Women who are ready to put themselves at the centre of their own lives. Not by burning down everything they've worked so hard to build, but by finding their way back to who they are within it.

That's worth a few interrupted nights.

03/06/2026

If you’re struggling with fatigue, I know what that’s like.

For over a year now, I’ve been getting up in the middle of the night to attend classes, engage in practice sessions, have meetings with fellow students and peers, who are nearly all on the other side of the world. Timezones, when you live in Australia, are tricky.

After these long zoom calls, there’s a full day of activity – first my morning swim (as often as I can fit it in), then work (which occasionally ends at 10pm), and the evening calls - more meetings.

Sometimes I get home from my swim and just want to crawl back into bed. Or get off an early zoom call, and want to crawl back into bed.

My husband has become expert at sleepwalking to the lounge and resuming his sonorous snoring with barely a break between bed and sofa. (My office is in the corner of my bedroom.)

Anyway, the point of this story isn’t to whinge about my lack of sleep. It’s to share that I understand about working hard to get somewhere. And, that when you love what you’re doing, you don’t mind (too much) the sacrifices.

Because the reason I’m doing it? I want to show up as the best possible version of myself for the women I work with.

Women who feel disconnected from themselves. Who are quietly wondering how life got so full, and yet somehow so far from what they actually want. Women who are ready to put themselves at the centre of their own lives. Not by burning down everything they've worked so hard to build, but by finding their way back to who they are within it.

That's worth a few interrupted nights.