19/08/2026
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.
Not just because of the Lindsay Clancy case, but because of what has come up for me recently around perinatal mental health, masking, motherhood, and the difference between what someone can look like from the outside and what they may actually be experiencing internally.
I want to be really clear that I’m not commenting on Lindsay’s mental state, treatment or what happened in her case. I don’t know her, I wasn’t there, and I don’t think speculation helps anyone, especially with the case ongoing.
But I do think there are some really important conversations we need to be having.
Because neurodivergent women can become incredibly good at looking like they’re coping. We can be functioning, parenting, working, getting everyone where they need to be and still be struggling in ways that nobody around us fully understands.
I know this because I’ve lived it. I’ve experienced perinatal anxiety and postpartum depression, along with intrusive thoughts, fears around my children’s health and safety, and periods where I questioned my own capacity as a mother. From the outside, I probably looked pretty stable. Internally, it wasn’t always the same story.
And that’s the part I really want to talk about. Why women don’t always tell us the whole story, why it matters that we actually listen when they do, and why looking at the whole picture matters so much when we’re supporting women through pregnancy and postpartum.
I’ve written a much longer piece about this for my Unmasked community, including more about masking, neurodivergent mothers, medication, being listened to, and the role that a safe support network can play when things get really challenging.
I’m sending it out tomorrow.
If this has resonated with you, feel free to join.
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