10/16/2026
Since becoming a parent have you ever walked into a room and completely forgotten why you’re there? 🙋♀️
We call the forgetfullness ‘mom brain’ and the connotation is usually negative… but what if it’s not a flaw?
During pregnancy, your brain changes so that it can adapt to the future demands of parenthood.
And dads? Their brains can adapt through hands-on caregiving, too!
This is not to say that lack of sleep, stress, divided attention, mental health, and the mental load of caring for your newborn don't have an impact. These things can absolutely affect your memory.
But the brain changes specific to parenthood aren’t cognitive decline, they exist to help you focus on your baby’s needs. Maybe you can't remember the name of the last movie you saw because your brain has decided it's just not that important right now. Your brain is now focused on the baby in front of you and tuning into all it's needs.
📚 Inspired by these reads on Substack:
• Darby Saxbe — How Motherhood Reshapes the Brain
• My Fertile Brain — Is “Baby Brain” Real?
• Techno Sapiens — How Fathers Are “Wired” for Parenting