10/16/2026
pleasure post ✨
in honour of Venus in retrograde, I am spending time reflecting on the love and beauty in my life.
As a parent, I am in a place where my kid and I spend most of our time together enjoying each other’s company.
That wasn’t always true. I spent the first few years of their life in poor mental health without enough resources, and at least once a day, I regretted having a child. I didn’t think I was going to survive.
I never found the spaces I needed during that time. Where I could feel really held in my regret, in my fears, in my guilt. Either the groups were venting pages with no hope, or mom groups that didn’t understand harm reduction.
If you’re a struggling parent and feel like you haven’t found your space, or the emotional support you need, please don’t hesitate to reach out.
I’d like to acknowledge that I couldn’t have made it without the support of my friends, family, and some incredible caregivers and community supports. In particular, my mom, Pat, and my aunt meena and uncle noles, without whom, my life would’ve taken a much different trajectory.
