09/13/2026
This is what Patriarchy in relationships look like:
His entitlement meets her accommodation.
His disconnection meets her overfunctioning.
His avoidance of relational responsibility meets her assumption of relational responsibility.
The pronouns are interchangeable. What isn't interchangeable is the power dynamic that creates "one up" positioning which inevitably leaves the other person "one down".
Healthy relationships meet in the middle. If you're one up, you come down. If you're one down, you come up.
"I ain't better than nobody, ain't nobody better than me" is my favourite expression of true self worth. It's also true in relationship dynamics.