02/10/2023
We get uprooted in our emotional patterning, drowned out when wanting to be being heard, experience droughts of support, blown away by what people say. We get triggered, outraged and beat up by the sense other people have control and overpower our emotions. When so much is beckoning us to hunker down the hatches, it can be easy for us to feel victimized and blame others for their wrongdoings, but there is one simple phrase that speaks to why others have it out for us: Hurt people, hurt people.
Has there ever been a time you have been hurt and mistreated those around you to feel a little sense of control because of the powerlessness you have felt? If not, perhaps you fired those insults and judgments at yourself?
Waiting out the inner storm can mean gaining resilience. Giving other people and yourself space to recuperate in worthiness, respect, mercy, and forgiveness. Hurt people, hurt people and free people, free people- when we unburden ourselves of the pain we carry, we free ourselves to the emotional maturity we were born to act out in innocence, vulnerability and love. We want to be recognized for our highest relationship with our authentic ourselves so we can co-create at the capacity we were meant to dream at. We remember the truth of what all our lessons sum up to be: To be an inspiring self-talker, instead of a judgmental critic towards our lived experiences.
This is where self-compassion comes in. In valuing the kindest, softest, most loving words towards yourself you are able to hold resilience as your guiding key to unlocking your full potential. To get back on your feet and play the game called 'take no s**t.' Be kind, crystallize your worth, and stand your ground through any storm.
If you let others determine your worth and value with how they speak, act and feel, you shortchange the process of caring about the values and qualities you have for yourself. In light of an interconnected universe, your most precious values and highest qualities are worth to come alive through you as the light you are and are born to be.
Try this when the inner storm ensues:
Place your hand on your heart.
Matt Kahn’s inspiring self talk:
I love the one who feels (unworthy, in pain, rushed, worried, excited, worn, awake)
I love the one doesn't know how to feel (grateful, compassionate, alive, happy, playful)