Hello Mind

19/10/2026

Let’s talk about the absolute neuro-chemical chaos of an unexpected reconnection.
You’re knackered. You’ve got a pounding tension headache. You are physically and mentally completely wiped out. And then, out of the blue, your phone rings. It’s a friend you haven’t heard from in donkey's.

You pick up, and before you know it, an hour and a half has vanished.
You find yourself doing that bizarre human thing where you are crying and laughing at the exact same time.

Your brain is trying to download years of caught-up nostalgia, validation, and pure joy into a tiny 90-minute window.
It is exhausting. It will completely finish off that headache.
But your soul?
Your soul is entirely full.

Traditional therapy loves to analyse why we feel rubbish, but today, I want to talk about how your nervous system actually updates its software.

Real, unforced human connection shifts your biology. It drops your cortisol and floods your system with oxytocin.
That "grateful exhaustion" you feel right now?
That isn’t a problem to be fixed. It’s the feeling of your brain remembering that you are woven into someone else’s history.
You aren’t lonely.
You aren’t forgotten. You are incredibly lucky.
If this has happened to you recently, stop overthinking the tired eyes or the pounding head.
Go to sleep knowing you are loved.
Unbulls**tified therapy. No fluff. Just real human connection. 🫂

19/10/2026

Imagine going to a mechanic because your car has a terrifying engine rattle. They fix the rattle, but then they tell you that you can never take your car to another garage, you shouldn't tell your family how the car runs, and if you stop coming in for weekly check-ups, the engine will fail completely. Years pass, the original rattle is long forgotten, but you are still paying them every single week just to sit in the waiting room.

That is not vehicle maintenance. That is a hostage situation.

I recently heard a story that made my blood boil. A client sat down and said, "If my therapist knew I was here, she would be furious!" This poor guy had spent years trapped with a counsellor who explicitly discouraged him from talking to anyone else about his therapy, not even his own family. He was actively told that leaving would be bad for his mental health. Meanwhile, the panic attacks he had originally sought help for had all but been forgotten.

It reminded me of the words of psychologist Joe Griffin "A good therapist should not leave footprints in the lives of their clients."

Let us be completely honest about the industry. Quite often, the problem with therapists is that they are too busy stroking their own ego, trying to be liked, and securing a regular weekly income. They become entirely reliant on the salary generated by keeping clients on the hook and relying on s**tty old software thats out of date (their experience and skill).

Any good therapist who is actually worth their paycheck will be authentic and ethical. If they realise they cannot work effectively with a person, they should signpost them to someone else and have a clear strategy.

From day one, whenever I have a client walk through my door, I have a strategy in place. The client does not know it, but I do. My ultimate goal is always to get them to where they need to be in the shortest space of time possible.

Of course, sometimes it takes longer. Mental health is a journey, and some people have to travel a very long road. I once worked with a lady who had escaped a cult. A situation like that is never a quick, "wham-bam, thank you, see you in a few sessions" fix. When you are working with individuals who carry some of the heaviest, most complex traumas, it is incredibly insensitive to try and bosh everything out in half a session.

But if you gauge it correctly, a client can move forward happily when they are given nurturing care, genuine support, and the right psychoeducation tools to build their own independence.

Knowing how to end therapy elegantly is a core therapeutic skill. It is not about throwing clients out on the street when they still need professional help. It is about setting clear guidelines from the beginning and helping them become emotionally ready to stand on their own two feet.

Once a therapist has done everything they can do, it should be: "Adios, amigos!" If I see a client again, I would honestly rather not, because it means they are thriving without me. But if I do see them, it is not a problem and it does not mean we failed.

What is a failure is keeping people trapped in a cycle of dependency for flipping years!!

With love,
Lisa@


Hello Mind X

19/10/2026

19/10/2026

Someone recently asked me, “Aren’t you scared of losing it all?”

At 53, my answer might surprise you.

Look, this isn’t my first rodeo. I never said I’d get settled again. I never anticipated losing my first house. I never anticipated getting divorced just to get married again, and I certainly never anticipated getting married just to get divorced a second time. It is completely absurd when you look at it all written down.

But standing here today, I can honestly say I don’t feel like I’ve lost everything. Not even close. Because I have myself. I have my daughter. I have my health, and I have my precious energy.

People talk so much about romance. Do you believe its true that romance has been totally fantasised and fictionalised by the media, books and Hollywood etc?.
When people say, "Oh, that’s not very romantic," it’s a massive cue card that they are basing reality on something they learned off the telly.

Someone can buy you flowers every single week. They can take you out to special places and do amazing things. But do they actually know you?

Real connection takes effort. It takes work. In this day and age, *that* is what we should be scared of losing or not even having do you not think? not stuff, not houses, and not a fictional version of a relationship.
True romance isn’t a grand gesture it’s being deeply known and truly seen by someone who chooses to stay.

We get so caught up in the giant rat race of life, sprinting on a relentless treadmill to buy the next big thing, that we completely lose focus. We come into this world with nothing, and we leave with nothing. The "stuff" doesn't matter. What we really need to find is peace in the presence of the here and now.

It’s about slowing down enough to look at the sky, breathe, and love people for exactly who they are, not for what they do, and not for what they can give us. Kindness is what remains when everything else falls apart.

Life will always have the power to take external things away from you. But it can never take away your choice to protect your energy, appreciate your health, and choose peace today.
DO NOT SETTLE FOR A MEDIOCRE BEING, INCLUDING YOURSELF!

Maybe do something different today...

With love, Lisa X HelloMind

19/10/2026

Anyone can move fingers and wiggle eyes, that’s just a basic eyeball workout! 👀

But true Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT) is about so much more. Every single time I teach this training, I really knuckle down on the structural stuff.
The real magic?
One of the absolute greatest sets of tools you are given and learn within IEMT, the five Patterns of Chronicity.
These are the exact areas in life where clients have become completely stuck. We all know them~the classic "heartsink" clients.
The ones who go to therapy after therapy after therapy, or family member to family member, or colleague to colleague...moaning, complaining, and wanting the world to fix them.
They want the therapist to fix them, insisting that they are completely "broken."
These patterns explain exactly HOW a client's problem system keeps itself stuck over time, protecting it from change.

It’s about people so many things, like being totally uncertain of themselves or their experiences, relying on previous patterns they’ve witnessed, and displaying behaviors like the three-stage overreaction and so on.
There are so many of these factors, and understanding them is absolutely mind-blowing!
They are the key, pivotal tools in any therapist's toolkit.
If you aren't looking out for these five patterns, you're missing the whole picture.
🔹 "Being at Effect" – Lacking personal agency and externalising all responsibility.
🔹 The Three-Stage Overreaction – An escalating spiral of negativity when maladaptive assumptions are challenged.
🔹 The "Maybe" Man – A complete lack of specificity, they obey the process but do not comply with change.
🔹 The Great Big "What If" Question, Constantly creating unrealistic, imagined counterexamples to avoid progress.
🔹 Testing for the Problem, Not Change – Disregarding actual progress just to stay stuck in the old, familiar problem narrative...
But IEMT goes even deeper than behavior. It targets how experiences are structurally represented in the brain.
🧠 Imprinting & Identity, We target the precise core memories where negative emotional responses were first acquired, alongside the dysfunctional identity states ("I am broken") that dictate a client's sense of self.
🔄 Neurological Change. By guiding eye movements while holding these memories, we structurally change how they are encoded. We increase the perceived distance of the memory, reduce its clarity, induce age-progression dissociation, and rapidly lighten the emotional and kinaesthetic load.
And here’s one of the absolute beauties of IEMT..

You ready?.. it is a non-disclosure therapy.
❌ No ripping your guts out.
❌ No re-traumatising or reliving horrific details.
❌ No rehashing old pain session after session.
It is a purely procedural, content-free exchange. We completely bypass the need for painful disclosures to get to the "how" of fixing it.
Want to master the actual neurological model, stop getting defeated by "heartsink" clients, and add these game-changing tools to your toolkit?
Or want to experience this freedom for yourself?

Get in touch with me directly here at Hello Mind or contact the Association of IEMT Practitioners.
Love,
Lisa x

19/10/2026

Reminder.

Your mind talks a lot of s**t you dont need to hear.

Your welcome 🧡👊

19/10/2026

The Greatest Deception weve all been sold...(unless you live in a cave, n if you do..please move over, im joining you) 😂
We are being absolutely consumed by a world that wants our minds on a leash.

Behavior expert Chase Hughes recently put out a massive wake-up call about the biggest deception we’ve been sold, the lie that work and digital validation are the answer, while our actual families and real-life connections are not. We are losing ourselves in artificial spaces.

So I am telling you right now: absolutely, 100%, take a few minutes or an hour out of your day today to audit your brain. Look at exactly where you are getting your dopamine from, and ask yourself if that is truly where you want it coming from.

I did exactly that this morning. I looked at my own habits, and I’m making a commitment to do this every single day. Because if we don't start looking after our minds actively, the internet will eat them alive.

Look, I know the irony of me posting this on social media. But my presence here is purely driven by love and education. I am here to help you get to where you want and need to be in your life, not to suck you into a toxic vortex.

I am so sick of the garbage we get trapped looking at on the fu***ng web. You know exactly what I mean, those fake-ass videos of a man running over to a homeless guy with a camera in his face, going, "Hey guy, let me film you! Look, I got you a coffee, and how about if I give you 10 bucks?" It is pure exploitation disguised as kindness, and we sit there scrolling through it, feeding our brains absolute trash.

We need to wake up and watch where our heads are going. Where your attention goes, your energy flows. If your energy is flowing into superficial, toxic, and empty digital noise, it becomes a massive problem. And then we sit around wondering why we are depressed?

Stop letting digital algorithms control your brain chemistry. Guard your attention, protect your mind, and pour your energy into what is actually real today.

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