18/06/2026
One of the most powerful things I teach my clients is this idea: the “stress bucket.”
Throughout the day, your bucket fills up with small things. Not always big traumas—just everyday stuff. Forms to fill in. A difficult conversation. Running late. A bit of tension with someone you care about.
On their own, they don’t seem like much.
But when the bucket gets full, the brain doesn’t measure the size of the stress—it just senses overflow.
And that’s when it can react as if there’s a crisis: anxiety, overthinking, negative thoughts, even obsessive loops. Not because something is wrong right now, but because the system is overloaded.
Once people understand this, everything changes. You stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start asking, “What’s filled my bucket?”
And that shift alone reduces the fear around anxiety—and helps calm it.