23/10/2026
FROM INCAPABLE to APPRECIATED, USEFUL and WORTHY!
The Empowered Conversations is a 6-week exploring how impacts and encouraging participants to get curious and try out different ways to improve connections. The move towards curiosity, or a mentalized state, is the golden thread underpinning every session.
In week 1, we ask participants to get curious about how family members living with dementia might feel when they are having a chat with them. It generates a lot of words, some negative, some positive. We repeat this question at the end of the course.
In week 5, we spend time thinking about control, for the carer and for the person with dementia. For a load of different reasons, control is often taken away from a person with dementia;
‘It’s quicker if I do it’,
‘They can’t cook anymore’,
‘It’ll make more of a mess if they do it’.
We encourage participants to consider what somebody can do and give control back!
‘It’s quicker if I do it’ becomes ‘does it matter if it takes a bit longer?’
‘They can’t cook anymore’, becomes ‘mum peeled the carrots with me in the kitchen!’
‘It’ll make more of a mess if they do it’ becomes ‘I’ll just sweep up later!’
Having the space to be curious about how somebody feels, to consider what’s important for that person and how it feels when we ‘do for’ rather than ‘do with’ is an essential ingredient of the course.
On week 6 we ask participants to repeat the feelings exercise; “how might family members living with dementia feel when they are having a conversation with them?”.
Our recent course generated the following words.
Week 1 Incapable
Week 6 Appreciated, Useful and Worthy
‘Mum used to fidget with her hands when I was doing jobs for her. Now we’re working together, she’s peeling the carrots, or folding the clean washing. She’s not fidgeting with her hands, she’s smiling.’ Family Caregiver, NE London.
Empowered Conversations is part of a national multi centred project being delivered in , and . The course is available to family/friends supporting a person with dementia living at home.
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