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26/10/2026

Yesterday I had a fantastic day at the first Winter Women’s Wellness MK events hosted by the amazing Dr Nikki Ramskill, The Female Health Doctor

I spoke to so many lovely women and gave a talk about confidence.

My top tip for helping to practice confidence:

Pause. Proof. Proceed.

When you get that amazing idea that you want to do something and that pesky voice appears telling you not to. Pause. Feel your feet on the ground, soften your shoulders and take a breath.

What are you worried about? Is it fear of being judged? Getting it wrong? Worried what people will think?

Naming the worry is helpful.

Next you need to recall occasions when you have achieved something, you need the proof you can do this. Think of a time when you have learned something new, or you’ve done something even though you were worried. Our brains at very good at filtering out the times we’ve done good! So seek out the proof!

Lastly, proceed. What is one small step you can take towards that goal or dream. Don’t go to big because that could be overwhelming.

I would also recommend telling someone you trust. Someone who can check in and say - “hey, how is it going with that” and also celebrate with you when you do it!!

That’s what I’m building through The Magnetic Community.

An online membership for women, bringing together coaching, workshops, support, accountability and connection.

Somewhere to bring your ideas, work through the doubts and take action with women beside you.

Message or comment Magnetic and I’ll share more details

22/10/2026

How many times have you convinced yourself you can’t do something, even though it is something you really want?

I am looking for women who want to join my membership where women can get support, accountability, workshops, group coaching and 1:1 coaching with me.

If this sounds like something you want to be part of DM or comment ‘Magnetic’

Doors close for this intake on 15th November 2026 - don’t miss out!!

02/10/2026

How many words does it take you to say **NO**? 😬

Because for a LOT of women, apparently the answer is somewhere around 750.

We don’t just say:

“No, I can’t do that.”

Oh no.

We provide context.

Background information.

Mitigating circumstances.

An apology.

Possibly a character reference confirming that we are, in fact, still a nice person.

And maybe a small appendix at the end explaining how terribly sorry we are. 😂

Why do we do this?

Because for so many of us, saying no feels uncomfortable.

We worry they’ll think we’re rude.

Difficult.

Unhelpful.

Selfish.

We want the other person to understand that we have a *really good reason* for saying no — because somehow that makes our boundary feel more legitimate.

But your boundaries don’t need to go through an approval process.

You are allowed to decide what you have the time, energy and capacity for.

You are allowed to decline something simply because **it doesn’t work for you.**

And you don’t have to wrap that decision in seventeen layers of apology to make it acceptable.

This is something I work on a LOT with women.

Because confidence isn’t only about walking into a room with your head held high.

Sometimes confidence sounds like:

**“No, that doesn’t work for me.”**

And then resisting the overwhelming urge to add another 14 sentences afterwards. 😂

So I have a challenge for you this week…

The next time you need to say no, say it kindly, clearly and WITHOUT the essay.

Then stop talking.

Let the silence happen.

You might be surprised by what happens next.

And I NEED to know…

**Are you a straightforward “no” person — or are you currently drafting Chapter 7 of your explanation? 😂👇**

25/09/2026

Being liked is a terrible fu***ng leadership strategy.

There. I said it.

And as someone who spent a LOT of years wanting everybody to like me, I know how easily people-pleasing can follow you into leadership.

It just gets dressed up differently.

You avoid the difficult conversation because you don’t want to upset someone.

You soften feedback so much that the actual message gets lost.

You say yes when you know the answer should be no.

You tolerate behaviour for longer than you should.

You over-explain your decisions because you desperately want everyone to understand why you made them.

And before you know it, you’re not leading.

You’re people-pleasing with a job title.

Good leadership isn’t about becoming hard, cold or uncaring.

Quite the opposite.

Some of the best leaders I’ve worked with have been warm, compassionate, empathetic humans who care deeply about their people.

But they’re also willing to have the difficult conversation.

Hold the boundary.

Make the decision.

And accept that occasionally somebody isn’t going to like them for it.

That can be bloody uncomfortable — particularly if you’ve spent your life measuring your worth by other people’s approval.

So here’s a question I think every leader should ask themselves:

“What would I do here if I wasn’t afraid of being disliked?”

Would you have the conversation?

Say no?

Challenge the behaviour?

Back yourself?

Make the decision you already know needs to be made?

Leadership requires courage.

And sometimes that means being willing to lead even when you know you won’t be universally liked for it.

So I’m curious…

Has wanting to be liked ever affected the way YOU lead?

And what changed when you stopped needing everyone’s approval?

I’d genuinely love to hear your experiences in the comments. 👇

23/09/2026

I don’t want a seat at your fu***ng table.

There. I said it. 🔥

For years, women have been told that success means finally earning that coveted “seat at the table.”

Work hard enough.

Prove yourself.

Learn how to play the game.

Show them you deserve to be in the room.

And maybe, eventually, someone will pull out a chair for you.

But what if we stopped waiting for the invitation?

Because I’m far more interested in what happens when women start building their OWN tables.

Tables where we don’t have to compete with each other because we’ve been led to believe there’s only room for one successful woman.

Where another woman’s success is something to celebrate, not something that threatens our own.

Where empathy, compassion and vulnerability can sit alongside ambition, confidence and bloody brilliant leadership.

Where wellbeing isn’t the price we pay for success.

Where women can have boundaries.

Have opinions.

Challenge things.

Lead differently.

And still be taken seriously.

I spent more than 20 years working in HR and leadership, and I know how easy it is to believe that succeeding means learning how to fit into the room you’ve been given.

These days, I’m much more interested in creating different rooms.

And bringing more women into them.

Because female empowerment isn’t about getting ONE woman to the top and calling it progress.

It’s about creating more space for women to lead, succeed, support each other and do it without having to become somebody else along the way.

So no.

I’m not fighting another woman for the last chair.

I’ll pull up another fu***ng table.

And if you’re building one too?

Come and sit with me. 🔥

21/09/2026

Can we PLEASE stop calling confident women intimidating!

Confidence should never be a dirty word in a woman’s world. Embrace your confidence, your passion and your boundaries.

I’m genuinely really interested in what we actually mean when we describe a woman as “intimidating.”

She knows what she wants? She has an opinion and isn’t afraid to share it? She challenges something she doesn’t agree with? She says no without writing a three-paragraph apology afterwards? She’s ambitious? She takes up space in a room and doesn’t feel the need to apologise for being there?

Which bit are we intimidated by exactly?

Because women have spent far too long learning how to make themselves more palatable.

She has softened the language. She added the smiley face. She said “sorry” before asking the question. She made sure everyone else felt comfortable.

Don’t be too loud. Too opinionated. Too ambitious. Too emotional. Too demanding.

But also… BE MORE CONFIDENT! 🙄

Make it make sense.

A woman can be warm AND powerful.

Compassionate AND direct.

Kind AND have fu***ng standards.

She can know exactly what she brings to the table without being arrogant.

And she can have boundaries without being a bitch.

So if you’ve ever been called intimidating, difficult, bossy or “a bit much” because you finally found your voice…

Please don’t immediately ask yourself how you can tone it down.

Ask yourself why your confidence made somebody else uncomfortable.

You didn’t work this hard to find your voice just to start editing it for everybody else.

And if you’re still finding that voice? That’s where I come in.

I work with women to unpick the self-doubt, people-pleasing and limiting beliefs that have taught them to question themselves, so they can lead, speak and show up with confidence.

If you’re ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start owning who you are, DM me VOICE.

I’d love to talk. 🔥

18/09/2026

You are allowed to disappoint people.

There. I said it.

And if reading that made you feel even slightly uncomfortable, this post might be for you.

How many times have you said YES when every part of you wanted to say no?

Agreed to something because you didn’t want to let someone down?

Stayed late. Took on more. Changed your plans. Answered the message. Picked up the pieces. Kept everybody happy.

And then wondered why you felt exhausted, frustrated or resentful.

So many women have become incredibly good at protecting everyone else from disappointment, even at the expense of constantly disappointing themselves.

And I see this ALL the time with the women I work with. Women who are brilliant at what they do. Women running businesses, leading teams, managing careers, families and a million other things.

But somewhere along the way, being a “good” person became tangled up with being available, accommodating and agreeable.

And boundaries started feeling selfish.

They’re not.

Someone being disappointed by your boundary does not automatically mean your boundary is wrong.

Someone not liking your decision does not mean you need to change it.

And someone expecting access to your time, energy or attention does not mean you have to give it to them.

You can be kind AND have boundaries.

You can care deeply about people AND say no.

You can be a good leader, partner, friend, mother, colleague or business owner without abandoning yourself to keep everybody else comfortable.

So here’s something I want you to try:

The next time you’re about to say yes when you really mean no, ask yourself:

“Am I saying yes because I want to… or because I’m scared of how they’ll feel if I don’t?”

That answer might tell you a LOT.

And if people-pleasing, guilt and fear of disappointing others are keeping you stuck, exhausted or disconnected from what YOU actually want, this is exactly the kind of work I do with women.

DM me BOUNDARIES and let’s have a conversation. 🔥

17/09/2026

Let’s stop telling women to “just be more confident.”

Like we can simply flip a switch and — ooh, there it is! Confidence activated.

We need to start asking a different question:

Why did so many brilliant, capable women start doubting themselves in the first place?

Because confidence rarely disappears overnight. It gets chipped away.

The time you spoke up and were made to feel difficult.

The promotion you didn’t put yourself forward for because you didn’t think you were ready.

The room where you started second-guessing yourself.

The years of worrying about being liked, getting it wrong, being judged or not being “good enough.”

Eventually, those experiences become beliefs.

Maybe I’m not ready.
Maybe I’m not good enough.
Maybe everyone else knows what they’re doing and I’m winging it.
Maybe I should just keep quiet.

This is why the work I do with women goes deeper than telling them to “believe in themselves.”

We look at where that self-doubt came from, challenge the beliefs and patterns that have been holding them back, and build the self-trust that allows confidence to come from within — rather than constantly needing validation from everybody else.

Because you don’t need another person shouting “YOU’VE GOT THIS!” at you.

You need to actually believe it yourself.

So, if you’re a woman who is fed up with second-guessing herself, holding back, overthinking everything and KNOWING there is a more confident version of you underneath all of that…

I want to work with you.

Send me CONFIDENCE in a DM.

Let’s find out what’s been getting in your way — and start changing it. 🔥

24/08/2026

Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back…”

Oof. Carrie. 💗

Because sometimes the hardest thing about changing your life isn’t working out who you want to become.

It’s letting go of who you’ve always been.

The reliable one.

The people pleaser.

The woman who always says yes.

The woman who stays in the safe job.

The woman who doesn’t make a fuss.

The woman who puts everyone else first.

The woman who has spent years saying, “I’m just not a confident person.”

We build identities around ourselves and, after a while, they start to feel like facts.

“That’s just who I am.”

But is it?

Or is that simply who you’ve practised being for a very long time?

You are allowed to change your mind.

You’re allowed to want different things.

You’re allowed to outgrow relationships, careers, habits, goals and versions of yourself that once made complete sense.

And you don’t have to hate the woman you used to be in order to become someone new.

She got you here.

She survived things.

She learned things.

She made the best decisions she could with what she knew at the time.

You can be grateful for her…

and still decide she doesn’t get to choose what happens next.

Maybe Carrie was right.

Sometimes we have to loosen our grip on who we were…

to make room for who we’re becoming. 💗

So tell me: what’s one version of yourself you’re ready to leave behind?

18/08/2026

Not everyone gets a vote in your life.

That doesn’t mean ignoring advice, refusing to listen or believing you always know best.

It means being much more intentional about whose opinions you allow to influence the decisions you make.

Because other people bring their own experiences to your choices.

Their fears.
Their beliefs.
Their ideas about what’s sensible.
Their tolerance for risk.
Their version of what a “good life” looks like.

And sometimes, without even realising it, we start making our decisions through their lens rather than our own.

Someone you love can think you’re making the wrong decision.

Someone can question what you’re doing.

Someone can tell you they’d never do it.

And you can listen to all of that… and still choose differently.

That’s self-trust.

Not believing you’ll always get every decision right, but knowing that you trust yourself enough to make the decision, deal with what happens next and change course if you need to.

So here’s your Monday question:

If nobody else got a vote in the decision you’re currently making… what would YOU choose?

I’d genuinely love to know. 💗

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