05/11/2026
Have you ever noticed how quickly your tears stop when someone offers you a tissue or a hug?
I was having a conversation with some women on Sunday about how uncomfortable we can become when someone else is crying.
We want to fix it. Comfort them. Make the tears go away.
But what if their tears don't need fixing?
I remember being in a women's circle, feeling incredibly vulnerable, and someone came over to hug me and offer me tissues.
My tears stopped immediately.
And in that moment, something inside me heard, "Shush, you've taken up enough space."
Of course, that wasn't her intention. She was simply trying to comfort me.
But it made me realise how easily we can interrupt someone's emotional expression without even knowing it.
My husband once said to me…
"I wouldn't stop you from feeling joy, so why would I stop you from feeling pain?"
And that has stayed with me ever since. ❤️
Sometimes holding space means doing less, not more.
Just being there. Listening. Allowing.
What about you? Do you find it uncomfortable when someone cries in front of you?