23/10/2026
I have made this mistake and now I am more careful with my language.
We talk about being a 'safe person' or creating 'safe spaces', but what do we actually mean?
Just because we want to be safe doesn't mean that is how someone feels in our company.
It's a huge assumption and can feel like a pressure.
When a nervous system is under stress, the sense of safety doesn't come easily.
So I work on what I DO - not just what I SAY.
Showing up to be:
ππΌ Consistent
ππΌ Predictable
ππΌ Nurturing
ππΌ Neuro-Affirming
ππΌ Non-Judgemental
ππΌ Calm
So, rather than calling my room a 'safe place', I sometimes use 'consistent space' with the hope that safety will follow in time.
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