01/10/2026
We all know those people who are conscientious and care deeply about things and who want to be seen as capable, reliable and responsible.
They over-give their energy to make sure things get done and that others feel okay.
This involves a lot of pushing through, because they are often tired and depleted but still want to go above and beyond, or feel they should to be acceptable to others or "good enough".
Maybe they don’t realise they are doing more than they need to because it’s the norm for them.
A lot of the drivers are subconscious, so they don’t even realise what is happening until one day they can’t get up or they start cancelling plans or needing to spend the whole weekend in bed to get back in to work on Monday.
The worst thing though would be to be seen as lazy, weak or unreliable, so they keep showing up.
Chronic symptoms like headaches, IBS, or the constant feeling of being exhausted, run down and under the weather just becomes the norm and it is ignored and pushed aside because the pressures are still there and things still need to be done.
They are in their head, and not very good at listening to their body, so it starts to shout louder to get attention, and energy gets more depleted and emotions more fragile.
They may feel under-appreciated and resentful, as their efforts and struggle go un-noticed because they don’t speak up. Others at work and at home get used to them carrying the load and don’t want to take on more themselves (because everyone is stretched).
However, despite resentment building, they don’t know how to stop caring.
The worst thing would be to feel they had let people down.
I used to be this person. I ended up leaving my corporate job because I burnt out and experienced fatigue and chronic back pain, with no clue how to fix it despite many appointments and consultations. No one could tell me how to do it differently so I just stayed stuck.
Now I know there is another way to be. A sustainable way to be capable and efficient whilst also being in touch with your needs and caring for that as well. A way to show up fully at home and at work but not at the cost of your health and energy.
I work with overwhelmed, exhausted women who are running on empty and want to feel different, whilst still achieving and have an enjoyable career and home life with fulfilling relationships.
If this sounds like you, get in touch for a transformative conversation. Let’s connect to who you are underneath the stress and show the world this incredible version of you.
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