15/07/2026
My daughter recently started a little Montessori summer camp. Like many children, she hadn’t spent much time away from us before, so naturally I felt a little anxious about how she would manage the transition.
She was incredibly well supported by amazing teachers, and overall it has been a really positive experience. But that doesn’t mean it was completely smooth. There was some resistance, some clinginess, and some understandable reluctance at drop-off (and pick-up!). This is incredibly common.
A certain amount of separation anxiety at preschool age is completely developmentally normal. Young children are still developing the ability to hold their caregiver “in mind” when they’re apart. They can’t yet think in the same way an older child can: “Mum is at work and she’ll be back after lunch.” When they’re separated, it can genuinely feel uncertain.
In fact, securely attached children will often show some anxiety when facing a new separation. That’s not a sign that anything has gone wrong. It’s often a reflection of a strong, secure bond.
Of course, every child is different. Some children walk into preschool without looking back, while others are slower to warm up. Neither response is better or healthier. They’re simply different temperaments responding to a new experience.
I’d become more curious if the distress is persistent and starts affecting your child’s functioning. For example, if they’re becoming increasingly distressed rather than gradually settling, if they’re upset beyond drop-off, if it’s affecting sleep or appetite, if they’re worrying constantly about preschool, or no longer enjoying things they usually love.
If that sounds like your child, it may be worth talking with the preschool about making the transition gentler. A gradual settling-in plan, shorter days, helping your child understand where you’ll be and when you’ll return, a consistent goodbye routine, a transitional object, or small connection rituals with teachers can all make a real difference.
For most children, though, a few tears at drop-off, some reluctance to go in, or wanting one more cuddle are all well within the range of typical deve