Ina Backbier - Embracing All of You

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Certified KI Emotional Repression Inquiry Mentor
Helping people reverse emotional repression and reclaim intimacy, authenticity, freedom, and aliveness.

Founder of Embracing All of You. As a Clinical Counselling Hypnotherapist and Somatic Coherence Coach I help women with mind-body stress navigate and release contributing root causes. I teach my clients to tap into, trust and wield their bodies’ innate capacity to heal paving the way to discover their inner “heart medicine” and to enjoy fulfillment and happiness, as well as stronger, more resilient health.

30/10/2026

What if your struggle to love yourself doesn't mean something's wrong with you? ❤️

That you're bad, inadequate, or somehow undeserving of love?

We're constantly encouraged to love and accept ourselves.

As if self-love were something we could pick up at the supermarket and sprinkle generously over ourselves.

A little self-love here. A pinch of self-acceptance there.

Voilà! Problem solved. 😂

Except it doesn't work that way.

Especially not when we're triggered.

At the end of our Emotional Repression Inquiry workshop last weekend, one participant shared something that touched me deeply.

For years, therapists had encouraged him to accept himself more. To give himself more self-love.

But he genuinely didn't know HOW.

Instead, he felt increasingly hopeless. Like he was failing at yet another thing he was supposed to be able to do.

During the workshop, something shifted.

As he connected with the contractions in his body, he began to discover the frozen fear keeping his deeply buried anger and rage out of awareness. And as he gradually met that fear, something remarkable happened.

“I feel true to myself.” ❤️

THIS is what I wish more people understood.

What if the reason you struggle to accept yourself isn't a lack of self-love, but unconscious emotional repression?

Your body learned to protect you from emotions that once felt unsafe to experience or express.

So whenever something triggers you, your body automatically contracts against those emotions. You tighten up, hold back, and push away what feels unsafe. Without you even knowing.

So how can you fully accept yourself when you're unconsciously rejecting certain emotions?

Emotional Repression Inquiry isn't about manufacturing self-love.

It's about becoming aware of those protective contractions and gradually meeting the fear keeping emotional repression in place.

As that fear loosens, the emotions you've learned to repress can become accessible again.

And so can self-love and self-acceptance.

Not because you've finally learned how to love yourself.

But because you no longer have to reject so much of who you are. ❤️

27/10/2026

I don't need to be a good mom.

And I no longer need to fear I'm a bad one either. ❤️

For years, I wanted to be a good mom.

But here's the trap:

The need to believe we're good is just the flipside of the fear that we're not good enough.

So we try harder. Compensate. Seek reassurance. Strive to become more patient, loving, understanding.

But what if we're trying to fix the wrong problem?

That nagging sense that something is missing?

Something IS missing. But it isn't our worth or lovability.

It's our connection to the emotions and parts of ourselves we learned to suppress in childhood to remain loved, connected, and safe.

And no amount of upgrading our beliefs from "bad mom" to "good mom" can restore that connection.

As I've been unravelling my emotional repression, my sense of deficiency has dissolved.

And with it, the unconscious need to prove I'm a good mother has been falling away.

And here's the paradox:

The less I've needed to be a good mother, the more freely I've been able to love my children.

Not because I never get triggered or make mistakes.

But because I have less to defend. Less to prove.

And more freedom to be myself, and let my children be themselves.

Freedom isn't believing something better about yourself. It's no longer needing beliefs to protect you from what you fear feeling.

❤️

Curious what unconscious emotional patterns might be shaping how you show up as a parent?

Comment PARENT and I'll send you the link to sign up for my free somatic inquiry tools to help uncover your unique Emotional Repression Blueprint.

23/10/2026

The room is ready. The chairs are waiting. And this afternoon, we begin! ❤️

18 participants. Three days. One beautiful opportunity to explore the unconscious emotional patterns that hold us back from being fully ourselves.

Anger. Hurt. Fear. Unmet needs. And all the parts of ourselves we've learned to hide.

I'm SO excited to be hosting and facilitating this Emotional Repression Inquiry workshop alongside my wonderful friend Toshi Matsunaga, with Mike supporting us and Inger and Martine working their magic behind the scenes.

A huge thank you to Inger and Martine for preparing this beautiful space! 🥰

In just a few hours, these empty chairs will be filled with curiosity, courage, and connection.

Let the inquiries begin! ❤️

22/10/2026

“Suddenly, there's nothing wrong with the other person anymore!”

When one of my clients said this yesterday, I couldn't help but smile. ❤️

We're nearing the end of our three-month Untethered Intensive, and it's been quite the journey...

When we started, her husband was a constant source of frustration. Always busy, distracted, rarely present or available for connection.

And her colleagues? Especially those who seemed to need to control everything. They drove her up the wall!

She was the helpful one, struggling to express her own needs without guilt, and feeling abandoned when others didn't reciprocate.

Fast forward three months.

Same husband. Same colleagues. Same everyday life.

But something fundamental has shifted.

Not because she learned to manage her frustration, become more patient, or think more positively about other people.

She's been courageously exploring her anger repression, uncovering emotional needs and protective patterns she never even knew were there.

And as that repression began to unravel, something beautiful happened.

The people around her stopped being the problem.

Not because their behaviour is necessarily perfect. Or because she now tolerates everything.

But because she's no longer caught in the same internal struggle.

The old stories began to fall away.

The triggers are gradually losing their grip.

And the back pain she'd been living with for years?

That's disappeared too. ❤️

And something else is shifting, too.

The unconscious projections onto the people around her are beginning to dissolve as she been addressing the root. The very behaviours that once triggered so much frustration no longer carry the same emotional charge.

Same people. A whole different experience.

And look what became possible! ❤️

I'm curious: Is there someone in your life you keep wishing would change?

16/10/2026

If anger is your automatic response — irritation, blame, defensiveness, lashing out — don’t only focus on the anger.

And yes: if your anger is harming you or others, please do something to interrupt that pattern.

But managing your anger is not the same as healing what is underneath it.

Your nervous system may be defaulting to anger because hurt or sadness has become unsafe to feel or express.

The missing emotional experience may be driving the whole pattern.

That’s why simply learning to suppress or control your anger is not the same as reversing emotional repression.

You may become less reactive on the surface while the underlying hurt repression remains untouched.

And then it tends to show up somewhere else — in your body, compulsions, withdrawal, defensiveness, or the persistent sense of being separate and disconnected from yourself and others.

Reversing emotional repression takes skill.

It means learning to recognize what is missing from your experience, and gradually meeting the fear around feeling and expressing those emotions.

As your nervous system learns that hurt, sadness and vulnerability are no longer dangerous to feel or express, the need to default to anger begins to dissolve.

09/10/2026

We are officially SOLD OUT! 🎉❤️

All 18 places for our Emotional Repression Inquiry Workshop in Deurne have now been filled.

I’m feeling incredibly grateful — and honestly, quite moved — knowing that in just two weeks, this room will be filled with people willing to come together, get curious, go deeper, and explore what becomes possible when we stop automatically pushing our emotions away.

Toshi, Mike and I, together with several dear friends, are putting so much love, thought and work into these three days, and I cannot wait to welcome everyone.

18 people. Three days. One very special room.

See you soon. ❤️

25/09/2026

Do you know you need to rest—yet keep telling yourself:

After this email.
After this task.
After I’ve taken care of the kids.

You may not simply be bad at prioritising yourself.

Staying busy may give you an unconscious sense of safety, control or worth—while protecting you from emotions you learned it wasn’t safe to feel.

Want to understand what is driving this?

DM me BLUEPRINT and I’ll send you access to my free 45-minute masterclass and the test to discover your unique Emotional Repression Blueprint.

And if you’d like, tell me what came up when you answered the question at the end of this reel. I’d love to hear.

22/09/2026

Last week, when Dr. Shefali. Conscious Parenting & Living's Raising Conscious Sons was published, I ordered a copy.

My oldest son found the package in the letterbox, opened it—and this is how I found him in the hallway:

“Mama, I’m completely unconscious. And it’s all your fault.” 😂

Well, my work here is done.

In all seriousness, I’m still learning too. Through the tools of Emotional Repression Inquiry, I continue to discover parts of myself I didn’t even know were there.

I’ve learned to trust my suffering because it points me towards what is still unconscious and asking to be seen.

For me, growing in awareness isn’t about arriving at some perfectly conscious destination. It’s about becoming more fully alive and remaining willing to look—with curiosity, humility and a healthy dose of humour.

Photo and story shared with my son’s permission. ❤️

17/09/2026

You can’t selectively repress.

You can’t turn down anger without also dimming your power.

You can’t numb grief without making joy harder to reach.

You can’t bury hurt without affecting your capacity to open, love and receive.

When any emotion becomes unsafe to feel, your whole inner world begins to contract.

You no longer feel fully touched by your own life.

That may be the greatest cost of emotional repression:

Not only the emotions you stop feeling—

but the life you stop fully experiencing.

The opposite of emotional repression isn’t happiness.

It’s aliveness.

If this speaks to you, check out my free 45-minute masterclass. Link in bio.

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