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20/10/2026

Sometimes our behaviour changes before our language catches up.

Have you ever caught yourself saying something about yourself that isn't necessarily true anymore?

"I'm hopeless at that."

"I'm just an angry person."

"I've always been like this."

"That's just who I am."

But is it?

Something I've been exploring lately is how our experiences shape our behaviours, how those behaviours become patterns, and how eventually those patterns become part of how we describe ourselves.

And here's the interesting part.

We can change our behaviour long before we change the language we use to describe ourselves.

Someone who has spent years reacting defensively may now be learning to listen.

Someone who has always put everyone else first may now be learning to establish boundaries.

Someone who once avoided difficult conversations may now be finding the courage to have them.

Yet when asked about themselves, they still describe the person they used to be.

Our language can be a little slower to come to the party!

And sometimes the people around us are still using that old language too.

"You're always so defensive."

"You never say no."

"You've always been the difficult one."

But what happens when we continue identifying someone by behaviours they're actively working to change?

Are we recognising their progress, or are we keeping their old identity alive?

Now, there's another side to this.

Understanding why we developed certain behaviours doesn't automatically excuse the consequences of them.

We can acknowledge that our past influenced us while still taking responsibility for how we treat others today.

And saying we've changed isn't quite the same as demonstrating that change.

It takes consistency, awareness, effort and sometimes a fair few uncomfortable conversations.

But perhaps we also need to give ourselves, and others, room to develop a new way of describing who we're becoming.

Because you can have a history of behaving a certain way without that behaviour having to define your future.

So here's something to think about today.

Are you still describing yourself by an old pattern that you're no longer living?

And are you allowing the people around you to grow beyond the version of them you've become familiar with?

Sometimes our actions are already moving forward while our words are still catching up.

Profusion Coaching
Understanding behaviour. Encouraging growth. Taking responsibility.

19/10/2026

“Not everything that is faced can be changed; but nothing can be changed until it is faced.”
— James Baldwin

18/10/2026

I watched a TED Talk the other day about a woman who shared her life story through something as ordinary as the family bathroom.

And what a beautiful story it was.

She explained how, growing up, the heart of their home wasn't the kitchen, the lounge, or even the dining room table.

It was the bathroom.

One bathroom. Five people. No lock. And the toilet and shower were all in the same room.

As a teenager, she craved privacy. She longed for the day she could brush her teeth, shower, or get ready without someone wandering in.

But something interesting happened.

When she finally got that privacy, she missed the very thing she had spent years wishing away.

The interruptions. The conversations. Someone sitting on the toilet while she brushed her teeth. Doing makeup together. The familiar call of, "Can you grab me a towel?"

She missed the chaos.

Because what she hadn't realised at the time was that the chaos was family.

And gosh, could I relate.

We, too, have one bathroom for five people.

Our mornings consist of kids bowling in to brush their teeth while I'm in the shower.

"HURRY UP! I NEED A SHOWER, IM GUNNA BE LATE!"

Three of us trying to do our makeup in a bathroom barely big enough for one.

Pimple popping, hair brushing, conversations about absolutely everything and nothing.

Someone singing their heart out in the shower, only to be interrupted by someone yelling, "WHO'S RUNNING THE COLD TAP?"

And of course, the famous, "CAN SOMEONE GET ME A TOWEL?"

Some mornings it's absolute madness.

But after listening to this woman's story, I found myself looking at our little bathroom differently.

Because one day, there won't be five of us fighting for the mirror.

There won't be little interruptions or someone yelling through the shower curtain.

There will be space.

There will be quiet.

And I wonder if I'll find myself wishing, just for a moment, that someone would come barging through that door again.

It's funny, isn't it? How we can spend so much of our lives wishing for a little peace, only to one day miss the noise.

Not every beautiful family memory happens around the dinner table.

Sometimes it's made in a tiny bathroom, with wet towels on the floor, toothpaste in the sink, and five people who haven't quite learnt the meaning of personal space.

And perhaps that's what makes a home.

Not the size of the rooms, the privacy, or how perfectly everything runs.

But the people we share it with.

One day, the bathroom will be big enough for just me. And I have a feeling I'll miss when it wasn't.

❤️ Profusion Coaching

PHOTO is a stoke photo but im sure we can also relate

15/10/2026

Couldn't be more proud of Cargill Rest home today taking out a prize in Enlivens Wareable Arts competition today at Bill Richardson , was an amazing days with 3months of hard work n dedication, big shout out to the organizers and everyone involved but especially to all the residents and staff that made these amazing outfits

14/10/2026

Not long ago, my youngest daughter asked me, “Mum, what's the most embarrassing thing that's ever happened to you?”

I thought to myself, Oh gosh, there have been so many! Which one do I share? Haha.

When I was younger, my parents used to have Christmas Eve parties.

Now, these weren't just any parties. They were a chance for my parents and their friends to get together, have a few laughs and celebrate before everyone went off to spend Christmas with their families.

But for us kids, they were even better!

We would pitch a tent, stock up on snacks, play bullrush, and maybe, just maybe, share one b**r between the 12 or more of us, thinking we were just as cool as the adults.

We'd watch the night sky, hoping to catch a glimpse of Santa flying past in his sleigh.

But one of our favourite things to do was drag the trampoline over to the six-foot wooden fence, which happened to have pointed spikes along the top.

We'd climb up onto the fence and jump down onto the trampoline.

Looking back, I'm not entirely sure how we all survived our childhoods!

Anyway, one Christmas Eve, we were doing exactly that.

I had my favourite denim skirt on, climbed up onto the fence, and jumped.

Except I never made it to the trampoline.

There I was, suspended in mid-air, experiencing what I can only describe as the world's most painful we**ie!

You see, somehow, when I jumped, I hadn't just caught my skirt on the fence.

I'd managed to hook my un**es as well!

So there I was, dangling from a six-foot fence by my skirt and underwear, unable to get myself down.

And the worst part?

Nobody could help me because they were all in absolute fits of laughter!

Looking back, I probably would've been laughing just as hard if it had happened to someone else.

But at that moment, I wanted the ground to swallow me whole.

Fast-forward all these years, and when I told my daughter the story, she laughed and laughed.

Of course, she couldn't wait to tell my husband, and before long, we were all having a good giggle.

And it got me thinking.

Something that once made me feel so embarrassed has become a memory that brings so much laughter and joy.

It's funny how time can change the way we look at things.

What once felt like the end of the world can become a story we tell around the dinner table.

I've learnt over the years that not everything needs to be taken so seriously.

Sometimes we make fools of ourselves. Sometimes things don't go to plan. Sometimes we're the reason everyone else is laughing.

And that's okay.

Life has enough serious moments without us holding on to every little embarrassment.

Learn to laugh at yourself, not because your feelings don't matter, but because one awkward moment doesn't have to define you.

And if there's one thing I learnt that Christmas Eve...

It's that some memories stick with you forever.

And apparently, so do your un**es when you jump off a wooden fence! 😂

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13/10/2026

“One of the most beautiful things about love is that it doesn't have to be extraordinary to be meaningful.

It's in the little moments, the laughter, the kindness, the familiar faces and the feeling of knowing you matter to someone.

Sometimes the simplest moments of love become the memories we treasure most.”

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12/10/2026

Oww, here's a conversation they say you're not supposed to have!

Politics! 🫢😬

I take an interest in politics because, well, that's what we should do, right?

I try to understand who I believe will best serve our country, our communities and our future.

And this year, I'm finding that harder than ever.

I'm genuinely shocked at times by the back-and-forth, the defensive remarks, the finger-pointing and the way some of our leaders communicate with one another.

I was going to say they're behaving like children in a playground, but that wouldn't be fair to the children!

And actually, it makes me sad.

Because underneath all the political arguments is something much bigger.

A country full of people trying to live their lives.

Some political parties appear to understand our rural communities, while others seem more focused on our growing cities.

Some understand the farming industry and what it takes to produce the food we rely on.

Others have different priorities for our land, our environment, our infrastructure and how our country should develop.

And every decision has a flow-on effect somewhere.

Which gets me thinking...

Wouldn't it be wonderful if our political parties were built around people who had dedicated their lives to understanding the different areas that make a country thrive?

I'm talking about:

- Sociologistswho study people, communities and social behaviour.

- Psychologists who understand human behaviour, development and decision-making.

- Economists who understand how money, employment and financial decisions affect everyday lives.

- Historians who help us understand where we've come from and what we can learn from the past.

- Farmers and agricultural scientists who understand our land, food production and rural industries.

- Environmental scientists who understand our natural resources and their sustainability.

- Engineers and infrastructure specialists who understand what it takes to build and maintain a functioning country
- Healthcare professionals who see the realities of looking after our people.

- Educators who understand how we develop the next generation.

- Urban and regional planners who understand the needs of both our cities and our rural communities.

- Māori leaders and cultural experts who bring an understanding of our history, whenua, tikanga and communities.

- Social workers and community advocateswho understand what's happening behind the doors of everyday households.

And just as importantly, everyday New Zealanders who live with the consequences of these decisions.

People who don't just have opinions, but bring knowledge, experience and an understanding of how one decision can affect so many other areas of life.

Because surely, understanding a country means understanding the people who live in it?

But here's the other side of my thinking.

It's not all doom and gloom.

We still have a say.

We still have choices.

And regardless of who's sitting in Parliament, we still have some responsibility for the lives we create, the way we treat others and the communities we build.

I don't know about you, but I still feel incredibly blessed to live in New Zealand.

I still hear children laughing and playing outside.

I live in a community where neighbours check in on one another.

We can still head to the mountains, walk along our beautiful beaches, sit beside a river or simply enjoy the space around us.

There are good people doing good things every single day, often without recognition or reward.

And sometimes I wonder whether we become so consumed by everything that's wrong that we forget to appreciate what is still right.

Perhaps understanding life isn't just about recognising what needs to change. It's also about recognising what's worth protecting.

We don't all have to agree politically.

But wouldn't it be nice if we could learn to understand each other's perspectives without turning every disagreement into a battle?

So here's my question.

When you think about the future of New Zealand, what do you believe is most important that we protect, improve or change?

Not which political party.

But what actually matters to you and the generations coming after us?

Profusion Coaching

11/10/2026

The Emotion of Pride

I remember hearing the words "I'm proud of you" from my mum after I had my eldest daughter.

Four simple words.

"I'm proud of you."

But what does pride actually mean?

What does it mean to be proud of someone? And why can those few words carry so much emotion?

Pride is an interesting emotion.

It can come from achievement, overcoming something difficult, watching someone grow, or simply recognising the person they have become.

But pride isn't always about success.

Sometimes it's about witnessing someone's struggles and seeing them continue.

Sometimes it's about watching someone make a decision that takes courage, even when nobody else understands it.

And sometimes it's about recognising something in another person that they haven't yet learnt to recognise in themselves.

When my mum told me she was proud of me, I wonder if she understood the weight those words would carry.

Was she proud because I'd become a mother? Because she'd watched me grow? Or because she was seeing her own daughter step into a new chapter of life?

I never asked.

And that's something I've been thinking about.

We often tell people we're proud of them, but how often do we explain why?

And on the other side, how many people spend their lives waiting to hear those words from someone important to them?

A parent. A partner. A child. Someone whose opinion carries weight.

Pride can be a beautiful emotion, but it also raises questions.

Do we need someone else's pride to feel worthy of our own?

Can we be proud of ourselves without achieving anything extraordinary?

And when we tell someone we're proud of them, are we recognising who they are, or who we hoped they would become?

Perhaps the most meaningful part of telling someone you're proud of them isn't the word proud at all.

It's making sure they understand what you see in them.

So here's something to think about today.

When was the last time someone told you they were proud of you?

What did those words mean to you?

And when was the last time you told someone you were proud of them and explained why?

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11/10/2026

What part of adulthood would you like to return for a refund?

Seriously, who sold us the idea that growing up was going to be so much fun?!🤣😵‍💫🤯

Remember when weekends meant adventures, relaxing, catching up with friends and doing whatever you felt like?

Well, instead of heading to the beach or down to the river for a fish, my husband and I have been spending our weekend bark chipping the garden!

And the worst part? We're actually standing back admiring it like we've just won Lotto! 😂

You know you've reached a certain stage in life when a freshly bark-chipped garden gives you the same satisfaction that a weekend away used to!

And don't even get me started on the excitement of having no washing in the laundry basket!

So tell me, what's something you've caught yourself doing as an adult that would've absolutely horrified your younger self?

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08/10/2026

☀️ BREAKING NEWS FROM SOUTHLAND!☀️

The sun has made an appearance, and quite frankly, nobody knows how to behave! 😂

The washing machines are working overtime, lawns are being mowed, windows are being opened, and half of Southland is standing outside squinting at that strange bright thing in the sky!

Some brave souls have even cracked out the shorts, not I though the big bright ball in the sky will disappear and I wouldn't do that to you all, you'd be blinded by my little whites, im not talking bout the sheets on the line.

And you can guarantee someone's already said, "Better make the most of it, won't last!"

But isn't it amazing what a bit of sunshine does for the soul?

People are smiling, moods are lifting, and suddenly everything feels just that little bit better.

So get outside, soak it up, and enjoy it!

Because in Southland, sunshine isn't just weather… it's a community event!

Happy Friday from Profusion Coaching!

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