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10/12/2026

🌿 **THE CIRCLE OF CONTROL: Focus on What You Can Do**

Do you ever spend so much energy worrying about things you cannot control that you lose sight of what you *can* do?

When life feels overwhelming, it can be difficult to know where to focus your energy. The Circle of Control is a practical tool that helps you sort your worries into three categories:

🌱 **Circle of Control:** What you can choose or do.

🌿 **Circle of Influence:** What you can affect, but cannot force.

🍃 **Circle of Concern:** What matters to you but is outside your control.

The goal isn't to stop caring. It's to redirect your energy toward meaningful actions instead of exhausting yourself trying to control every outcome.

**Try asking yourself:**
“What is one small thing I can do today?”

💚 **LESS WORRY. MORE CLARITY. A CALMER YOU.**

You don't have to solve everything today. Start by identifying what is within your control and take one small, meaningful step.

**Want to explore this exercise?** Ask about the Circle of Control worksheet at Essential Psychiatric Services. This practical tool can help you build awareness, clarify your priorities, and focus on what you can do next.

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Judith Diaz, AMHNP-BC

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10/10/2026

Friday Feels #015 💚
Worry Doesn’t Always Protect You
Sometimes worry can feel like it's doing something useful.
“If I keep thinking about it, I'll be prepared.”
“If I worry enough, maybe I can prevent something bad from happening.”
“If I'm worried, it means I care.”
But here's the thing:
Worry and preparation aren't the same thing.
You can care deeply without constantly thinking about what could go wrong.
You can prepare for what you can control—and then give yourself permission to step away from the worry.
Try asking yourself:
🌿 Is my worry helping me take action?
🌿 Or is it keeping me on alert?
🌿 Is there something I can actually do right now?
🌿 Can I trust myself to handle what comes if I can't predict it?
You don't have to worry about everything to be responsible.
Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is remind yourself:
“I can be prepared without being worried all the time.”
💚 What would you do with a little more mental space if worry wasn't taking up so much of it?
Save this for the next time your brain tells you that worrying is keeping you safe.
Healing begins with feeling heard.

10/07/2026

🌿 Anxiety Tip Tuesday #015: Positive Beliefs About Worry
Have you ever thought:
“If I stop worrying, I’ll let my guard down.”
“Worrying helps me prepare.”
“If I worry enough, maybe I can prevent something bad from happening.”
These are examples of positive beliefs about worry—the idea that worrying serves a useful purpose.
The problem is that worry can feel productive without actually solving anything. It may keep your mind on alert, drain your energy, and make it harder to focus on what is happening right now.
This week, when you notice yourself worrying, try asking:
1. What do I believe this worry is doing for me?
2. Is my worry actually helping or preventing anything?
3. What is a more balanced and realistic way to think about this?
You can be prepared and responsible without living in a constant state of worry. 🌿

10/05/2026

🌿 Weekly Essential Reflection #016
Being Prepared Is Different From Being Worried
Preparation and worry can feel very similar—but they are not the same thing.
Preparation leads to action.
You gather information, make a plan, or take a practical next step.
Worry keeps you circling.
You replay the same “what if?” questions, imagine possible problems, and try to find certainty about things you may not be able to control.
This week, when you notice yourself worrying, pause and ask:
“Is there something I can do about this?”
If there is → take the next practical step.
If there is nothing you can do right now → pause.
You can be prepared without living in a constant state of worry. 💚

10/02/2026

💚 Friday Feels #014: Boundaries → Self-Respect

Have you ever said yes when you really wanted to say no?

Maybe you were worried they would be disappointed.
Maybe you didn't want to seem selfish.
Maybe you thought, “It will be easier if I just do it.”

And then later…you felt exhausted, resentful, or overwhelmed.

That's where boundary anxiety can show up.

Setting a boundary can feel uncomfortable—especially if you're used to keeping everyone else happy. But discomfort doesn't automatically mean you're doing something wrong.

Sometimes it simply means you're doing something new.

A healthy boundary might sound like:

🌿 “I can't take that on right now.”

🌿 “Let me think about it before I answer.”

🌿 “That doesn't work for me.”

🌿 “I care about you, but I can't fix this for you.”

You don't have to be harsh to have boundaries.

You don't have to over-explain.

And you don't have to make someone happy with your boundary for it to be valid.

✨ You can be kind and still have limits.

The goal isn't to never feel uncomfortable when setting a boundary.

The goal is to learn that you can tolerate the discomfort without immediately giving up the boundary.

💬 What's one boundary you wish you felt more comfortable setting?

You don't have to share the details—sometimes simply recognizing it is the first step. 💚

Healing begins with feeling heard.

09/29/2026

🌿 Anxiety Tip Tuesday #014: Boundary Anxiety

Have you ever wanted to say no, set a limit, or speak up about what you need—but felt anxious, guilty, or worried about disappointing someone?

That’s boundary anxiety.

Setting a healthy boundary can feel uncomfortable, especially if you’re used to keeping the peace or putting everyone else’s needs first. But discomfort does not necessarily mean you’re doing something wrong.

Try the Breathe → Pause → Respond approach:

Breathe: Take a slow breath.
Pause: Notice the discomfort without immediately giving in to it.
Respond: Choose a kind, clear response that supports your needs.

You don't have to make the discomfort disappear before setting a boundary.

You can feel anxious and still choose what is healthy for you. 🌿

09/28/2026

🌿 Weekly Essential Reflection #014
Boundaries Are a Form of Self-Respect

A boundary is not a punishment, a rejection, or a way to control someone else.

It is a clear statement of what you are willing to give, do, or accept—and what you need to protect your well-being.

You can care about someone and still say no.
You can be kind and still need space.
You can love someone and still have limits.

Sometimes setting a boundary feels uncomfortable, especially when we are used to keeping everyone else comfortable. But discomfort does not automatically mean the boundary is wrong.

This week, ask yourself:

Where in my life do I need a clearer boundary?

What would I like to say clearly and respectfully?

Your needs matter, too.

Clear is kind. Respectful is enough. 💚

09/25/2026

💚 Friday Feels #013
I Can Feel It Without Acting On It
Have you ever felt an emotion so strongly that you immediately wanted to do something about it?

Send the text.
Check again.
Avoid the situation.
Say yes.
Say no.
Fix it.
Make the uncomfortable feeling go away.

Anxiety can create a powerful urge to act.

But an urge is not an instruction.

You can feel anxious without reacting immediately.
You can feel angry without saying something you may regret.
You can feel afraid without automatically avoiding what scares you.

Try this simple pause:

🌿 Notice: What am I feeling right now?

🌿 Name the urge: What does this feeling want me to do?

🌿 Pause: Take a breath before acting.

🌿 Choose: What response fits the person I want to be—not just what will make this feeling disappear fastest?

Sometimes the feeling needs to be felt before the next step becomes clear.

✨ Your feelings are information. They are not instructions.

You don't have to fight the feeling, either. You can let it be there while you decide what comes next.

💬 What's one thing you do when anxiety gives you the urge to react immediately?

Share what works for you—someone else may need that idea today. 💚

Healing begins with feeling heard.

09/22/2026

🌿 Anxiety Tip Tuesday #013: Urge vs. Action

Anxiety can create a strong urge to do something right now—check again, seek reassurance, avoid something, fix it, respond immediately, or make sure everything is okay.

But an urge is not a command.

You can notice the feeling without automatically acting on it.

Try this when anxiety creates an urge:

PAUSE → NOTICE → CHOOSE

Ask yourself:

“What am I feeling the urge to do?”
“Do I actually need to act, or can I allow this feeling to pass?”

If it isn't an emergency, try waiting 10 minutes before responding. Notice what happens to the intensity of the urge.

The goal isn't to eliminate anxiety. It's to create enough space to choose your response instead of automatically reacting.

You can feel an urge without turning it into an action. 🌿

09/21/2026

🌿 Weekly Essential Reflection #013
Your Feelings Are Information, Not Instructions

Our feelings are important. They can tell us something about what we need, what matters to us, where we feel unsafe, or when something has changed.

But a feeling is information—not an instruction.

Anxiety may create an urge to avoid.
Anger may create an urge to react.
Sadness may create an urge to withdraw.

Those urges are real, but we do not have to automatically act on them.

Sometimes the most helpful response is to pause and ask:

What is this feeling trying to tell me?

And then:

What response would best support my values and my well-being?

You can honor how you feel without letting the feeling make every decision for you.

Feel the feeling. Choose your next step. 💚