Coaching with Lynette

10/19/2026

A few days ago, I wrote a post called "The Side of Caregiving Nobody Puts on the Inspirational Posters." 511 COMMENTS. AND THEY ARE STILL COMING... I THINK WE NEED TO HAVE A VERY UNCOMFORTABLE CONVERSATION ABOUT CAREGIVING.

511 of you responded.

I read your comments. And some of them absolutely broke my heart.

One caregiver said, "Everyone always asks, how is your mom? No one ever asks how I am. Meanwhile, I feel like I'm dying inside."

Another said she'd just finished crying alone in the bathroom.

Someone else shared how tired she was of hearing how strong she was while nobody offered to give her even a 30-minute break.

And then there were the caregivers who admitted something so many are afraid to say out loud.

"I love them. I chose to care for them. But sometimes I feel angry, resentful, and trapped."

And you know what?

I GET IT.

After more than 36 years of caregiving, I understand those feelings more than I wish I did.

But here's what really struck me about those 511 comments.

So many of you weren't asking for advice. You were just relieved that someone finally understood.

You weren't looking for another reminder to practice self-care.

You weren't asking someone to tell you how lucky you are to still have your loved one.

And you certainly didn't need another person telling you how strong you are.

You wanted someone to acknowledge that caregiving can be incredibly lonely.

That love and resentment can exist at the same time.

That you can be grateful someone is still here and still grieve the life you thought you'd have.

That sometimes you don't want to do this anymore, even though you would never abandon the person you love.

That you can be surrounded by family and still feel completely alone.

And that sometimes the hardest part isn't even the caregiving itself.

It's feeling like nobody gives a damn about what it's doing to YOU.

Here's something I want you to understand.

Your feelings aren't the problem.

And you don't need to feel guilty for having them.

But you DO deserve more than simply surviving another day.

You deserve support. You deserve to have a life. You deserve to be heard, valued, and cared for, too.

And while I can't change every circumstance you're living in, I know from my own experience and the caregivers I coach that we CAN change how we live within those circumstances.

That's why I do what I do.

Not to teach you how to become better at sacrificing yourself.

But to help you stop believing that sacrificing yourself is the only way to be a good caregiver.

So I'm going to ask you something, and I hope you'll answer honestly.

Of all the things caregiving has taken from you, what's the one thing you wish someone would finally understand?

I'm listening. ❤️ Lynette

10/19/2026

10/15/2026

Caregiving often unfolds in unexpected ways. Many find themselves stepping into the role without warning.

"It’s not anything that we thought we were going to do. We are not handed a manual or a book about how to navigate any of it or how to actually take care of ourselves throughout it."

This journey, while filled with love, can quickly become overwhelming. Caregivers often put their own needs on the back burner, leading to emotional and physical stress. As months turn into years, fatigue and burnout can set in, manifesting in unhealthy coping mechanisms like overeating or insomnia.

"Most often caregivers are afraid to admit that they are struggling and that this is overwhelming and they might need support."

The stigma surrounding the struggles of caregivers often prevents them from seeking help. Caregivers may feel judged for expressing feelings of anger or resentment, fearing it will diminish their love for the person they care for. However, it’s crucial to acknowledge that both love and struggle can coexist.

Both things can exist at the same time.

By not sharing their feelings or admitting their difficulties, caregivers risk feeling isolated. It’s easier to say, "I’m fine," than to delve into the complexities of their daily challenges.

"I think one of the things that caregivers really need to start doing is start being honest about what's really going on."

As one in four people in America is currently in a caregiving situation, it’s vital for caregivers to recognize their roles and seek support. Whether it’s joining a support group or simply sharing their experiences with friends, opening up can lead to healthier coping strategies and a supportive community.

Find a support group. I have a great support group on Facebook. We would love to have you if you feel like you know you're ready for that.

It’s time to stop minimizing the significant work that caregivers do and to find strength in vulnerability. By sharing their truth, caregivers can find the help they need and deserve.

10/15/2026

THE SIDE OF CAREGIVING NOBODY PUTS ON THE INSPIRATIONAL POSTERS.

You know, the side where love and resentment can exist in the same sentence.

Where you're so exhausted you want to cry, but you don't even have time for that.

Where you fantasize about 24 hours when nobody needs you, asks you a question, or expects you to make another decision.

Where you love the person you're caring for with everything you have, but sometimes hate what your life has become.

Where you feel guilty for wanting a break.

And then feel guilty for not enjoying the break when you finally get one.

Where people tell you what an amazing person you are for doing what you do, but nobody asks how the hell YOU are doing.

Where you watch other people take vacations, make plans, enjoy their freedom, and live their lives while you're trying to figure out who's going to take care of your loved one so you can go to the damn grocery store.

Yeah. THAT side of caregiving.

The side nobody wants to talk about because it doesn't fit the beautiful narrative of unconditional love, sacrifice, and being someone's hero.

Well, after 36 years of caregiving, I've got something to say about that.

I'm tired of caregivers being celebrated for how much they're willing to sacrifice instead of being supported so they don't have to sacrifice everything.

I'm tired of caregivers being told to practice self-care when what they really need is help, support, boundaries, and permission to have a life of their own.

And I'm tired of caregivers feeling ashamed for having human emotions about an incredibly difficult situation.

Here's what I believe.

You can be a damn good caregiver and still struggle with the life caregiving has created for you.

Both things can be true.

And you don't have to pretend otherwise.

Because I think we all need to be able to talk about the hard stuff.

Just because we do doesn't mean we are not grateful and love the person we are caring for.

We can still experience:
The resentment.
The guilt.
The loneliness.
The anger.
The grief.
The exhaustion.
And the parts of ourselves we've lost along the way.

The danger comes when we feel like we can't say those things out loud.

But we're also going to talk about how to get some of those pieces back.

Because I don't believe caregiving has to mean the end of YOUR life.

I won't sugarcoat caregiving. But I won't tell you you're stuck living this way forever, either.

If you're tired of the inspirational quotes and ready for someone to talk about the truth...

Welcome. You found your people.

👇 Tell me something about caregiving you wish people would stop sugarcoating.

Lynette ❤

10/15/2026

Nearly one in four Americans provide care and many do not recognize that they are a caregiver.


That matters. Because if you keep telling yourself "I'm just helping" you may be believing you don't need support

You do. Period.

10/14/2026

Finding Peace as a Caregiver with Memory Board

Getting rest doesn’t mean your caregiving brain shuts off. If you’re a caregiver, you know exactly what I mean. Even when we finally get a break, our minds race with thoughts: Are they okay? Did they take their medication? Are they being checked on?

This week, I want to share my experience with a tool that has made a significant difference in my caregiving journey: the Memory Board.

Introducing Memory Board

After some time using Memory Board, I decided to try something new. When my daughter, Jordan, went to respite care, I sent the Memory Board along with her. Setting it up was incredibly easy; all they had to do was plug it in and connect it to the internet. That’s it!

While Jordan was away, I was able to send her messages and pictures — reminders of what I was doing and gentle nudges, like, "Did you remember your medication?" or "Don’t forget, I’m picking you up tomorrow at two."

For Jordan, who likes to know what’s coming up next, this connection was crucial. But you know who else it helped? Me. Caregiving is challenging, even when you’re not actively doing it. Our minds don’t just shut down; we constantly think about our loved ones, worrying about their needs and safety.

I often find myself feeling guilty for taking a break, but the Memory Board has alleviated some of that stress. It gives me peace of mind, knowing I can stay connected even when I’m not physically there. For many caregivers, this sense of reassurance can be life-changing.

Memory Board doesn’t replace the caregiver, but it lightens the load we carry. It’s a win for both Jordan and me. I encourage you to give it a try and see how it can help in your caregiving situation. I’d love to hear your thoughts on how you use Memory Board in your life.

Stay connected, stay supported.

10/14/2026

Not everything keeping you exhausted is coming from your caregiving responsibilities.

Some of it is coming from the rules you've created for yourself.

"I should be able to handle this."

"No one can do it as well as I can."

"I'd feel guilty leaving."

"My needs can wait."

"I don't want to burden anyone."

And I know that's uncomfortable to hear.

Because some of those beliefs helped you survive incredibly difficult years.

But now?

Some of those same beliefs may be keeping you stuck in burnout.

You can't control every circumstance of caregiving.

But you CAN start questioning the beliefs that convince you that you don't matter.
That's where change begins.

Lynette ❤
P.S. Want to start making that change? Let's talk, just DM me

10/13/2026

You cannot spa-day your way out of years of caregiver burnout.

A weekend away.
A massage.
A few naps here and there.

Can they help? Absolutely.

But stop expecting a short break to undo years of interrupted sleep, constant worry, carrying every responsibility, and putting yourself last.

And stop asking caregivers, “You had a break. Why are you still tired?”

Because they came home to the same damn load.

The appointments.
The decisions.
The emergencies.
The expectation that they’ll handle everything.

Recovery takes more than occasional relief. It takes consistent support, room to rest, and changes to what you’re expected to carry.

Boundaries that actually protect your time.
Help you don’t have to beg for.
Care for your own physical and emotional health.
Space to be a person with needs, too.

And caregivers cannot make all of that happen alone.

You deserve a life you can recover in—not just a weekend you can escape to.

If every break ends with you coming home to the same exhaustion, something needs to change beyond your days off.

In the Caregiver Comeback Community, we work on asking for help, setting boundaries, and understanding what keeps you putting yourself last—so you can start rebuilding a life that includes YOU.

Comment COMEBACK and I’ll send you the details. ❤️

Lynette

10/13/2026

The Unfiltered Circle, Caregiver Insiders

Following me and the group is where the conversation starts.

My Subscriber Hub is where we go a little deeper.

My Caregiver Comeback Community is where we start doing the work...Monthly Groups, Workshop's, Resource Library, Caregiver Calm App (with daily messages, meditations, journal prompts all sent right to your phone)

And my 6-week coaching program is where we work together to change how you're actually living inside your caregiving life. 1:1 coaching session's with me, customized care plan, weekly modules and support materials along with a full year of support to help you continue living, not just surviving your caregiving life.

You don't have to jump from following a Facebook post to hiring a coach.

Maybe you're not ready.

Maybe you're curious.

Maybe you just want a little more support.

That's why I'm actually REALLY excited about this $4.99 Subscriber
Hub I accidentally discovered I had. 😂

It's a seat closer to the conversation.

More access.

More unfiltered conversations

Subscriber-only Lives and Q&A's

Behind-the-scenes conversations.

And things I'm probably going to say and then think...
“Should I have said that on Facebook?” 😂

Probably.

But those are usually the conversations we need most.

If you choose to join us...Welcome to the unfiltered side. ❤️

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