Elemental Healing Solutions

10/16/2026

Your fingertips are excellent little archivists.

They remember the rough edge, the little witch hair, the tiny bump that felt unfinished - and can retrace the route before your conscious mind has even joined the group chat.

That doesn’t make your hands the enemy. They may simply be following a very well-practiced sensory map.

This week’s ComB article explores what touch may be searching for, correcting, escaping, or trying to repeat - and how those answers can guide a more useful plan with resources included.

I’m sharing the complete series freely while I build the expanded course. Read When Texture Becomes a Trigger through the link in my bio.

10/14/2026

Sometimes the trigger isn’t emotional.

It’s a bump. A scab. An itch. One coarse hair. A texture your fingers decide needs to be “fixed.”

But trying to fix the irregularity can create another one - and suddenly the behavior is generating its own sensory cues.

The first article in my new ComB series explores the Sensory domain: what to notice before, during, and after picking or pulling - and how those details can guide strategies that actually match your pattern.

Because “keep your hands busy” is not an individualized plan.

For now, I’m sharing this information freely for anyone navigating a self-help journey. Once the full five-domain series is complete, the material will be developed into a larger structured BFRB self-help course which will be available for purchase on my website.

So read it, save it, and work through the questions while the series is freely available.

Read When Texture Becomes a Trigger through the link in my bio when it becomes available tonight at www.elementalhealingsolutions.com/blog

10/12/2026

Regret does not cancel reinforcement.

If picking or pulling removed something uncomfortable, added something satisfying - or did both - your brain had a reason to keep the loop available, even if you hated the aftermath.

So the next question is: What, exactly, is feeding my pattern?

That’s where ComB comes in.

In the upcoming series, we’ll map the specific sensations, thoughts, emotions, movements, and environments involved in your habit.

It’s not a personality flaw. It’s a pattern with variables - and variables give us places to intervene.

10/11/2026

Not every health rule deserves permanent residency in your life.

Self-trust is not ignoring evidence. It is learning to use it without handing over your voice.

If a plan leaves you afraid of food, ashamed of your skin, or disconnected from yourself, it may be asking too much and giving too little.

That’s the space Elemental Healing Solutions is here to hold: practical information, honest reflection, and choices you can actually live with.

What is one “rule” you’re ready to question?

10/09/2026

You cannot shame yourself into a skill you were never taught.

Habit Reversal Training is not about becoming more disgusted with yourself or forcing an urge to disappear.

It is about building a plan for the moments when “trying harder” is least available to you.

If you are tired of knowing your pattern but not knowing what to do next, I offer BFRB coaching through Elemental Healing Solutions using HRT and ComB-informed approaches.

DM me BFRB or use the link in my bio to learn more.

10/07/2026

Knowing why you pick or pull does not automatically make your hands stop.

If insight were an off switch, most of us would be done by now.

You may already know the pattern:

“I do it in the mirror.”

“I do it when I am overwhelmed.”

“I do it while I am thinking.”

“I do it when something feels uneven and I cannot leave it alone.”

Okay. Then what?

That is the part people often get left alone with.

Because awareness is not the finish line. It is the first piece of useful information.

The next step is figuring out what happens at the intersection of the urge, the sensation, the thought, the feeling, your hands, and the place you are in.

Then we build a plan for that pattern.

Not a generic “keep your hands busy” plan. Not a shame spiral. Not pretending you have not already tried very hard.

This is the work I do through Elemental Healing Solutions using Habit Reversal Training and ComB-informed coaching.

We turn “I know I do this, but I do not know what to do next” into a clearer path forward.

Schedule a consult to learn more ✨🔗Link in bio

09/30/2026

The most important word here may be accept.

Not approve.
Not excuse.
Not pretend it doesn’t hurt.
Not give up.

Acceptance means acknowledging what is already true:

This happened.
This is where I am.
This is what I feel.
This is what I have to work with today.

I am practicing that now.

I can acknowledge that I am frightened and uncertain without demanding that I feel confident before I move. I can tie up loose ends, focus on school, reach out to people and remain open to possibilities I cannot see yet.

Acceptance does not eliminate fear. It gives us a more honest place from which to take the next step.

The same principle applies to behavioral change.

Shame can make us avoid, conceal or attack the very patterns we need to understand. Acceptance allows us to observe them with curiosity:

What is happening?
When does it happen?
What is this behavior relieving, providing or satisfying?
What support might I need instead?

We do not have to condemn ourselves before we are permitted to change.

Acceptance is not the end of change.

It is often where compassionate change begins. 🌿

09/29/2026

Sometimes we are praised for being dependable, productive, agreeable and professional - when what we have actually become very good at is adapting and enduring.

We ask for very little.
Continuing to perform without disrupting the system around us.

Those qualities can look like strength and success from the outside. They can also be rewarded by workplaces, relationships and communities because our adaptations make things easier for everyone around us.

But being valued for what we can tolerate is not the same as being valued for who we are.

This is becoming clearer to me after an unexpected professional ending interrupted the role I had been performing for my community under the management of a business. Without the schedule, productivity and constant feeling of being useful, I find myself confronted with how easily workplace value can become confused with personal worth.

But c’mon now, ya’ll. 😁 we know those are two very different things, don’t we? 😉

What I’ve realized is that what I find myself missing is not simply being productive.

I miss helping people.
I miss laying hands on people for healing.
I miss building relationships.
I miss listening, teaching and advocating.

And I’m realizing that I do not need a particular title or employer to remain connected to those parts of myself.

Which led me to a larger question:

What are we actually trying to be successful at?

Are we trying to become the best at performing a role-or the fullest, most intentional expression of ourselves?

That authentic expression is gained through alignment, and it is not always comfortable. It may require uncertainty, disruptions, difficult decisions and the loss of something familiar.

Sometimes it begins much more quietly: by acknowledging the truth and refusing to keep calling self-abandonment strength.

I wrote more about adaptation, trauma, usefulness, alignment and the kind of success we may be unknowingly chasing on the Elemental Healing Solutions blog.

Read the full reflection through the link in my bio. 🌿

09/23/2026

Sometimes we stay stuck because we are trying to emotionally prepare ourselves for the entire task before taking the first step.

But an overwhelmed brain usually doesn’t need a bigger lecture, more pressure, or a perfectly organized plan. It needs a clear entry point.

In CBT, strategies such as graded task assignment help us reduce a larger goal into smaller, observable actions. Instead of waiting for motivation to arrive, we choose a step that feels possible with the capacity we have right now.

And yes, the step may feel almost comically small. And why judge?

Open the email.
Put one plate in the dishwasher.
Write the title.
Take the medication out of the cabinet.
Stand outside for two minutes.

Small does not mean meaningless. A small action can interrupt avoidance, create new information, and make the next action easier to see.

You don’t have to complete everything today. Just do the next right thing.

What is one step small enough that you don’t have to fight yourself to begin?

Save this for the next day when everything feels like too much. 🌿

09/10/2026

✨ I’m so excited to share that the EHS shop got a little glow-up - and so did the product lineup.

After 16 years of treating skin, I’ve become pretty picky about what I’ll actually recommend. I want effective ingredients, thoughtful formulations, and products that I’d feel comfortable using on my own skin and recommending to my patients.

I’ve revamped the Elemental Healing Solutions shop with better ingredient + skin benefit information and added some of my newest skincare favorites - including formulas for hydration, discoloration, acne-prone skin, barrier support, healthy aging, and daily sun protection. 🌿

These aren’t just products I’ve had made for my line. They’re products I actually believe in and have used for patients for well over a decade.

DM me for questions about products and a customized discount code.

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