10/16/2021
SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO?
“I'm not sure the one I'm with is the RIGHT one. We have a loving relationship but just feels like there something missing. I want MORE!!!”
This place of feeling immobilized and frustrated cuz you don't like the idea of ending your relationship as its honestly pretty loving and functional by most standards nor can you stand the idea of staying in this relationship exactly how it is without it ever changing.
It’s a unique kind of Hell on Earth.
"Damned if you do, damned if ya don't", if you will.
I know because I’ve been there, at least 3 times in my own marriage.
You EITHER:
You keep asking your partner to step up, convinced that if only they would read this book, then you two could have a common language,
if only they would try this eye gazing exercise or position with you, then you two would have the depth of connecting m or hotter s*x
And you end up secretly (or not so secretly) holding it against them them for not trying hard enough
Or thinking that maybe you’re just too different after all (or maybe it’s just that you’re not cut out for monogamy in the first place)
AND/OR
You silence the part of you that deeply craves to be met with deep intimacy and hot passion and figure this is as good as it gets and you should be grateful and end up trying to hide the gnawing discontent towards your partner and yourself for supposedly 'settling',
LISTEN UP CUZ I'M ABOUT TO DROP SOME TRUTH
In each of these examples, there is something really important that is at play
YOU ARE AFRAID TO CHOOSE
Each example bears resentment, which points to the unavoidable truth - you don't like any of your options so you don't choose and you stay FROZEN trying to make the best of things as you go through the motions...or you pretend to choose but only cuz you actually feel like there's no other option, which ISN'T really choosing, that's called RESIGNING.
The only CHOICE being made is I'M NOT GONNA CHOOSE or "Forget this, so Forget me, too"
F%&!
Just typing this is painful.
Quick, before we all choke on the anguish, HERE'S THE GOOD NEWS!
You are in one of the HOTTEST INITIATIONS OF YOUR LIFE - yes, that's a good thing. a very very good thing.
Think of it as a SAUNA or STEAM ROOM....that you can't quite seem to find the door out of.
Let me show you the door out of this hotter than HELL spot you’re in
If you stand up and really look around, you'll spot it - It's the door you've been avoiding, that has the word, 'CHOOSE' on it.
Now, before you cover your eyes and sit back down to melt in misery, there's more good news!
When you step through the threshold called Choose, I swear on all that is GOOD and HOLY, that you get EVERYTHING that you deeply desire. Not always in the preferred *form* you'd ideally like to have, but I really truly deeply pinky-swear promise, you get what you deeply want.
And your heart will definitely be broken open and expanded beyond where you've ever let yourself go before..
I call this, letting LIFE ravish you....letting it have it's way with you and LOVE up on you so good!
You see, when you choose not to choose, you're actually choosing to put your Life on hold
You're choosing not to let life ravish you.
The folks I work with are willing to be ravished.
They're here to feel ALIVE, heart and legs splayed open.
Now, navigating this INITIATION of CHOICE is a delicate art.
It's intense but it doesn't have to be traumatizing. It can be a slow and sweet burn. A gentle yet steady revealing as you turn towards what you deeply desire.
You get to have what you've been craving...if you're willing to let go of the form and receive what you deeply, not what you *think* you want.
you will dissolve the relationship that you are in and you re-create it to be a match for the intimacy & hot passion you're up for, either with your current partner (or another if that’s the Truest thing).
Either way, you'll be left breath-less, with every inch of you ravished by life.
Cuz LOVE always wins.
You can have that. If you're willing to CHOOSE.
This isn't about learning better communication strategies or becoming the lover that you seek (although that’s a big part of it), this is about first and foremost, choosing a life of ravishment.
Lid off, bring it on, let's dance in the mud and let those one-of-a-kind shivers of aliveness thrill your whole body and heat ya up in all right places.
I serial dated allll kinds for 10 years and have dissolved and re-created my marriage at least 3 times so I'm a freakin' ninja at navigating this particular INITIATION.
My clients also tell me that I also ask GENIUS questions and have a maternal way about me, which has made me the perfect soul companion to champion and love them through this particular gauntlet. Now It's your turn to be championed as you finally choose to get what you really want.
BIG FAT LOVE - Life is ready to pour it all on ya.
Are you ready to be ravished?
CHOOSE
It's the door right in front of you.
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