11/04/2026
I don’t always wear my hair and make up like this, but a friend recently offered to do a photo shoot for me and I couldn’t believe how good she made me look. These are a couple of the picture from the “Soul Portrait” I wrote about a few weeks ago.
Do you know that when I was a little girl I didn’t even think I was pretty? The only thing I liked about myself was my brain. I felt insecure and bad about just about everything else.
Over decades of life and decades of really hard stuff, somehow I have grown to like myself. When I was younger and someone talked about self care, I felt like the concept was something selfish people did. I worked from morning to night taking care of everyone except myself.
I wish I hadn’t taken so long to get to a place of self love. The world is just so hard on women. Working moms, stay at home moms all can sometimes feel like they are failing at something.
My younger daughter often says,”Mommy, do you know what I like about myself?” And when I reply, “What?” Sometimes her answers blow me away with how beautiful they are.
Try asking your child what they like about themselves and see what they say. Tell them things you like about them. Hug them when they need hugs. Pick them up when they are crying as babies. So many little things add up together to create a healthy self esteem. I wish I had more of that when I was a child. One thing I have learned the hard way is that I can’t change the past, but I can change the future. And I’m working to make sure my younger daughter doesn’t take decades to love herself.
I hope you all can find a place of self love if you are struggling.
My words for my soul portrait I wanted to embrace were: calm, confident, and feminine at the same time. I think my photographer friend nailed it.
❤️
Dr Hill