09/28/2026
In my happy place, surrounded by strong women who lead.
What changes when a mother hears another woman describe the very thing she’s been blaming herself for?
I’ve been thinking about that since the Her House screening of No Country for Mothers.
There’s the relief of realizing you’re not alone. But there’s another recognition, too:
Some of what you’ve been treating as a personal failure comes from circumstances you were never fully in control of.
The demands. The missing support. The expectation that somehow, you’ll make it all work.
I’m an energy guy. I pay attention to what happens in a room. And during the conversation after the screening, I felt something shift.
That interests me because I recognize it from my work.
I coach women one-on-one. Sometimes, when someone trusts me enough to put words to what she’s carrying, we can begin to see it more clearly together.
I hear versions of the same struggles from different women. Often, each has been carrying a private sense that she should be handling it better.
Hearing another woman say it out loud can open a different question: What support is missing here?
That’s why the gathering matters to me as much as the film.
Getting mothers into a room is no small logistical achievement. But when they’re there, talking honestly, something becomes possible that goes beyond exchanging information.
Collective problems require collective solutions. A roomful of recognition doesn’t solve childcare or change workplace expectations overnight. It can help people see what they’re facing together, and begin asking what needs to change.
Most of my work is intimate and individual. That evening left me wanting to create more opportunities for women to connect in person, too.
Thank you, Claire | NYC Mom of 3 of her_house_official for leading the conversation with such warmth, and Laura Cunningham of Hi Ava and Liz Hudler of CHAMBER OF MOTHERS for helping bring these women & realities into the room.
I came as a dad, a coach, and a human being who cares. I left thinking about how much becomes possible when people have somewhere to say the quiet part out loud.
