I Am Lori Rae

08/09/2026

They do not talk about menopause because it doesn't concern men. I said it!
They do not research it because honestly there is no way to research it. The women going through it do not even understand it.
We literally lose ourselves. We struggle through our teenage years to discover who we are. We hit our 30's finally having an idea of who we are or who we want to be. We are too busy to truly enjoy it.
Then by our 50's that woman is no longer there because our body is changing to where we think we are crazy and the men in our life says we are crazy because we cannot explain why we are screaming at them while crying. Or why it feels like we have bugs crawling on is when there are none. Why we are struggling emotionally but have no idea why.
We hate ourselves, to love ourselves to hating our bodies. That is our seasons. We ask men to make us a priority and love us through it...but they cannot fix it. So some run.
Trust me fellas...we wish it was that easy!

07/16/2026

So... what would you do?

My best friend, my soulmate, my twin flame abandoned me about 5 years ago.

He got married, and I was told by a 3rd party, is that she didn't like the fact that I was female. Now mind you, I lost a relationship because I would not choose to give up my bestie for the relationship.
We had been BFF's for years. We have never crossed the line. At one time we were calling each other, when we were going through some major s**t, 10 times a day. We truly were ride or dies.
He had done this once before, but with a phone call to tell me that he couldn't talk to me because his girlfriend didn't like it. So we were able to say goodbye.
Almost 2 years later my phone rings. The girlfriend didn't last. I forgave him but told him that it wasn't going to be the same AND if he ever did this again I was done.
Fast forward.... me, him, and his wife went to a self growth class together. I thanked her for letting us still be friends, her response was that I was there first and a long as it was just friends then she was okay with it. The next day I even helped them figure out a way to pay off some old bills to get her financial able to move, because they had been living in seperate states for a year.
About a month after the class, total silence.
I was told by a mutual friend that he had told my bestie what he saw and that if he wanted to keep his wife he better dump our friendship.
So my bestie cut me out of his life cold turkey. No phone call. No explanation. No nothing. That was 5 years ago.
Now I have found out that my bestie is fighting for his life. What do I do? Do I reach out? Do I respect his boundaries? Do I just send money?

What do I do?

03/20/2026

This is for the single ladies!!
I know you are lonely.
I know you are struggling.
I know you are tempted.
Don't!
Don't make a decision because of these things.
Don't give in and accept crumbs.
Don't give in and waive the red flags.
Don't give in and destroy your peace.
Accept the fact that are high and lows but you will move through it!

03/19/2026

Several of my friends are going through loss right now. I struggle with how to respond. I am truly sorry for their loss. I truly am. Death or the breakup is so difficult. Death is especially hard because it's over. There is no more, nothing left to be said.
The other side of the coin is that I have several friend that have lost the love of their lives. I feel for them too. Part of me is envious. Envious that you knew what that kind of love felt like. That you had the experience of another human loving you so hard that it will carry you forward. To know what that felt like. To know what actual love felt like.
Do not allow the grief to outshine that experience. Some of us will never know what you are going through because we have never been blessed with the experience you had.

02/19/2026

Long post.....

I have not said much lately because I had my core shaken to the point that I thought I was full of s***! I was shaken on my beliefs, my relationships and my friendships. Some even went so far to make me question my intentions....
I have taken time to fully dive back into my self and see who or what I was all about. What I have figured out is that I am ME. As crazy as that sounds it's the truth. I try to live EVERY day but my heart. I have no evil intentions towards anyone. I try to always do my best. I try to put everyone before me as long as it doesn't tear me down. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt until we have a discussion. I try to love people where they are.
I also distance myself from people to protect my soul.
With that being said.....
I am revamping this page. We are going to have some discussions. I am re-opening my book club. We are going to discuss health. We are going to talk about menopause. We are going to discuss the issues women have because we are women.
Join me for the joyrney!

01/03/2026

2026.....
Cannot believe it!
Year of the horse....
Year of Menopause....
Year of singlehood.....
Year of ended friendships....
Year of success....
Year of love....

It can be whatever we make it!
Let's take the journey together!

09/09/2025

Make sure you are not judging people longer than 2 seconds......

07/02/2025

07/01/2025

Different perspective....
I have had many friends be let go from their employment lately. It's a sad time. Businesses are struggling, families are struggling.
Their first response is to go on to social media and trash the business because they let them go...
I get it...your angry....your hurt. The dedication you have put into your job has been shoved back in your face.
You blasting the business is not hurting the business.
It is hurting your fellow workers, your friends that are struggling too.
Business owners get hit, yet, but they still have aomething....the business. They can sell it. If they are smart business owners, they can sell the business and move on. Or they downsize and rebuild. They rebrand and make it better. Not before letting everyone go that works there.
So when you want to bash the company that had to let you go think about who you are really hurting.

06/04/2025

My wish has always been to help people! I have strayed from this vision due to life and my own insecurities! This is changing!
I AM BACK!
Book club is coming, podcast is coming, change is coming! Returning to me and the live I have for myself and humanity.....come along the journey with me.