10/19/2026
Being dismissed by a provider feels awful. And it doesn’t even always look like they were being “unkind”.
Sometimes being dismissed looks like being told your symptoms are stress or anxiety - without investigating any potential root causes.
Or having every concern you bring up being tied to your weight.
You can end up leaving the appointment with no answers, no next steps, and a feeling of deep frustration, or even shame.
No one should have to fight to be taken seriously.
Here’s what I recommend if you’re feeling dismissed by your provider:
Ask why. If a test is denied or a concern is brushed off, ask why? You're entitled to a clinical reason, not just a no.
Ask for it to be noted in your chart. If a provider refuses to investigate something, you can request that the refusal be documented. That paper trail matters, especially if you're seeing multiple providers or building a case for further care.
Write it down after, while it's fresh. What was said, how it was framed, what you asked and what the response was. Your notes don't have to be formal, but you documenting your care from your perspective matters.
Be firm about what you know. You live in your body, you feel what is happening firsthand. You’re not looking for permission to feel the way you do, you’re asking for support in understanding what is happening.
If the dismissal is weight-related, ask this question directly: “What would you do if I were thin?” Sometimes that helps the provider look at symptoms and concerns in a new way. If not, it tells you everything you need to know about whether this is the right provider for you.
Know when to move on. Finding a different provider isn't giving up or a failure. It's recognizing that you deserve care that actually meets you where you are. Even people without health concerns will sometimes change providers because it isn’t a good fit.
Save this post for the next time you need support in the exam room, or use the link in my bio to schedule a consultation.