10/15/2026
I read a number this week that I haven't been able to put down, and I want to be honest about why it got under my skin.
One in three women in this country says a healthcare provider has minimized or dismissed her symptoms.
I didn't read that as a statistic. I read it as me.
Twice in my life I have known β really known β that something was seriously wrong with my body. Twice I went from doctor to doctor. Twice I heard some version of everything looks fine. And twice, after I kept pushing, somebody finally said "let's look into this" and found that there really was something wrong. Both ended in major surgery.
What frightens me isn't that it happened to me. It's the version of the story where I stopped pushing.
Because that's the part nobody warns you about. When you tell someone over and over that something feels wrong, and hear over and over that everything looks fine, you start to wonder whether you're the problem. Am I overreacting? Is this just what getting older feels like? Maybe everybody is this tired.
I want to be fair: this isn't a post about doctors not caring. Nearly everyone I have met in medicine went into it because they do. Appointments are short. Caseloads are enormous. Insurance decides a great deal. Sometimes the pieces genuinely don't fit the expected box.
But if you're a woman who has walked out of an appointment holding normal results and a body that still doesn't feel like yours β you're not imagining it, and there are a lot more of us than I realized.
I wrote the whole thing down. What the survey found, what happened to me, what a normal lab result actually does and doesn't mean, and why having the time to listen is the reason I do this work at all.
https://www.nourishwiseco.com/blog/when-everything-looks-fine-doesnt-feel-fine.html
Have you been there? I'd really like to hear about it, if you're willing to share.
One in three women has had a provider minimize her symptoms. I've been dismissed twice, and both times something was actually wrong. Why that shaped how I practice.