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11/04/2026

Do you make a certain face every time you use a dilator, get a doctor’s exam or try to have s*x? That face is part of vaginismus.

Any time you’re expecting pain, your body braces and you hold your breath.

Breath holding means your pelvic floor has tension. The openings get even smaller, and now it hurts more.

That’s a normal response to pain.

With vaginismus, painful s*x and tight pelvic muscles, what I often see is that it becomes anticipatory. Your body does it before the pain has even happened, because it’s trying to prevent pain.

That’s why trying harder, trying to relax more or just pushing things in doesn’t work.

The breath pattern itself is keeping the tension going, and the tension keeps the cycle going.

That’s why I created Untight, a five-minute audio guide that lets you try something other than trying harder.

Comment READY for the Untight audio guide.

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11/03/2026

Pelvic pain gets worse the same weeks your calendar does. Your pelvic floor is auto-syncing with it.

I’ve seen this in clinic for 16 years. Pelvic pain gets worse. Constipation gets worse. Bloating gets worse.

And it usually lines up with “I just have a lot going on.”

You know that week. The important thing at work. Your kid’s field trip. Your mom’s medication needs adjusting. Your husband’s traveling.

It all lands at once. And you handle it.

Your nervous system doesn’t care that you’re handling it.

Part of how your body manages that overwhelm is pelvic floor bracing and clenching.

Research shows an association between stress and pelvic pain, because your pelvic floor is part of your nervous system’s stress response.

When life gets loud, your pelvic floor gets loud.

Reason #17 out of 100 why HOLE health is WHOLE health.

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11/02/2026

If you have vaginismus, here’s what I want you to know: your va**na is scared.

You’re driving fast. A deer jumps out of nowhere. What do you do?

You slam on the brake as hard as you can. Nobody gently rolls to a stop when there’s a threat in front of them.

That’s what’s happening with vaginismus, tight pelvic muscles or painful s*x. Pe*******on has become a threat.

So your body slams on the brake. Your muscles tighten up.

And now you’re stuck in this lock.

Trying harder won’t break that lock. Trying something different might open it.

That’s why I created Untight, a five-minute audio guide that gives you a chance to try something different.

Comment READY to try something different.

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11/02/2026

Ever had to p**p at Target, out of nowhere? That sudden rush to the bathroom has a name. F***l urgency.

Everything’s fine. You’re shopping, not thinking about anything, and suddenly you’re speed-walking to the back of the store.

Your pelvic floor and a**l sphincter are muscles. They talk to your re**um and decide how much heads up you get before you need to go.

If those muscles are weak, too tight or not coordinated, that warning window gets a lot shorter.

Busy and stressed all day? You get really good at overriding your body’s signals.

Then you do something relaxing, repetitive and mundane. Like wandering the aisles at Target.

Your body finally lets its guard down, and the urge shows up as an emergency.

So the Target p**p emergency is a pelvic floor problem and a nervous system conversation.

Notice when the urge hits. If it mostly shows up the moment you slow down, that’s worth paying attention to.

Reason #16 out of 100 why HOLE health is WHOLE health.

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10/31/2026

Vaginismus shows up a lot in women who never got in trouble. Your body learned to be a good girl too.

You followed the rules. You did the sequence. Do this, then that.

Muscles are controlled by your mind. So while you were training yourself, you were training your muscles without realizing it.

Purity culture. Good versus bad, with nothing in between. Your mind learned to stay good so you’d stay out of trouble.

Any time you have to perform, your body gets ready to perform. For muscles, that looks like bracing.

Years of that settle into your pelvic floor as muscle tension.

So is vaginismus all in your head? It’s neurological. Your brain trained itself to perform in a good girl way, and your pelvic floor followed.

What helps is understanding that pattern and unlearning some of it.

Comment READY to start unlearning.

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10/30/2026

The answer to your vaginismus is not on the 17th Reddit thread. You already know that.

You’ve researched the sh*t out of this. Every product. Every program for painful s*x.

At some point, planning becomes a very sophisticated way of procrastinating.

That has nothing to do with being lazy. You’re hardworking. You’re an overachiever, and you’re really good at hard things.

You’re trying to think your way out of a problem that needs you to work through it.

Reddit can help. I’ve had patients find me because someone mentioned my TED Talk in a thread.

Then the Reddit plan goes to ChatGPT to become a better plan.

You don’t need a better plan. You need a place to start.

There are less than three months left this year, and vaginismus is very treatable.

DM me READY if you’re finally ready to start.

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10/29/2026

If you have vaginismus, lubrication is not the whole answer.

L**e solves friction.

For most of my patients with vaginismus, the problem is anticipatory muscle guarding. Your muscles brace before anything even happens.

So I don’t ask if you’re using enough l**e. That’s the common-sense step everyone already tried.

You used l**e and it still hurt. So I want to know other things.

Do you anticipate pain? Does your body respond by tightening? Can you relax your muscles? Can you stretch them?

That’s where the real breakthrough comes from.

After 16 years of treating vaginismus, I can tell you you’re using enough l**e.

If you’re still in pain, it’s time to look at your pelvic muscles.

Comment READY if l**e hasn’t fixed the pain.

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10/28/2026

You’ve figured out school, your career, and marriage. So why does something you expected to happen naturally feel impossible?

And why has it started making you question your future as a mother?

When you’re used to solving problems through effort, vaginismus can be especially frustrating.

You try breathing exercises. You buy dilators. You tell yourself to relax.

When your body keeps tightening, you start looking for the mistake.

Am I too tense? Am I overthinking? Why can’t I just do this?

Over time, a physical problem starts feeling like a personal shortcoming.

Here’s something I want you to understand: your pelvic floor can tighten involuntarily when your nervous system responds to attempted pe*******on as a threat.

You can genuinely want pe*******on and still experience this protective response.

That’s why being told to relax often leaves women feeling even more frustrated.

They’re trying to control a response they don’t fully understand.

Understanding the nervous system, pelvic floor function, and how to approach treatment gives you a much clearer starting point.

And if pregnancy is your goal, difficulty with pe*******on alone does not determine your fertility.

Both concerns deserve appropriate assessment.

You deserve clear answers about what’s happening in your body.

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10/27/2026

High achiever problem: I can’t enjoy my accomplishments for more than five minutes.

I had just given my TEDx talk. My friend hugged me and asked what I was thinking.

My first thought? What’s next.

My second thought? What’s wrong with me.

That’s my MO. I pick a goal, get obsessed, make a plan, a plan B, a plan C. I work my a** off.

I hit it. I celebrate for maybe five minutes. Then I’m already on to the next goal.

For years I wondered if I was just someone who’s never satisfied.

The older I get, the more I think I’m someone who likes to build things. Maybe you are too.

You can be deeply grateful for what you have and still want so much more out of your life. Two things can be true at the same time.

Maybe the whole point is who you become while you chase the goal.

I had masala chai today instead of regular chai, so I’m all kinds of philosophical.

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10/26/2026

Sometimes the hardest part of vaginismus is everything you learned about s*x before you ever experienced it.

If you grew up hearing that s*x was private, uncomfortable to discuss...

or simply something you figured out after marriage, you probably entered marriage with very little language for what was happening in your body.

Then pe*******on was painful.
Your muscles tightened.
You couldn’t explain why.

So you did what you’re good at: you kept it private and tried to figure it out yourself.
That’s where self-blame often starts.

You compare yourself to friends.
You wonder why this seems so easy for everyone else.
You start treating your body like a problem you should have solved already.

And when shame keeps the conversation quiet, you lose something important: information.

Understanding how the nervous system responds to pain, threat, anticipation, and pelvic muscle guarding gives you a much clearer place to start.

Your culture can shape what you were taught about s*x.
You can still learn how your body works now.

If you’ve ever thought, “I wish someone had just explained this to me,” follow for more clear, evidence-based education on vaginismus and pelvic health.

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