Healed Loved Fed

28/12/2022

The best time to take on overwhelm, fatigue, disorganization, uncertainty, and busyness is when you are overwhelmed, fatigued, disorganized, uncertain, and busy. And then to maintain those practices when things are better so as not to find yourself in those situations again, at least in the way you’re experiencing them today.

It literally takes 3-5 minutes, twice a day, any time of day (like brushing your teeth). Yes, there are always ideal ways of doing things, and the most important ideal is to just start showing up for your mental hygiene every day. It’s not all-or-nothing. It’s not about perfection. It’s about taking care of yourself today. Figuring it out. And getting the support you need. Not later. Now.

The best way to attract love, connection, and your best life is to nourish yourself, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. It’s incredibly attractive: to your significant other, friends, strangers, co-workers, children, and most importantly to yourself. Take some minutes out of your day, every day. Get the support and the accountability to make yourself important enough. Instead of becoming a magnet for the takers, you’ll become a magnet for the things and people that support your highest good.

Love, Savitree

P.S. Jodh and I have worked with a lot of students over the years and have seen the simplest, most doable practices profoundly change lives. The key is deciding to start and sticking to it, and it doesn't take great feats, like getting up at 4:30 am or meditating for an hour. It can take less than the time it takes for you to drive to your favorite cafe and order your favorite drink. But it does take carving that little bit of time out for yourself to not feel alone, to feel connected, to tap into resource, and start feeling the energy surge that is much more sustainable than a cup of coffee (and we love coffee over here, so no disrespect). And what we've found is that starting something so important and life changing is much easier with the love, support and accountability of others who have done it before you, and also who are doing it with you. If you're ready to set aside a little bit of daily time for the love of your life (that's you) to make profound, positive change in your life, check this out: https://www.healedlovedfed.com/waitlist-sustained-energy/

27/12/2022

“I thought that my self care had to wait until my kids grew up,” a mom told me just a couple of days ago. This is not the first time I’ve heard this; it’s a common sentiment affirmed by the actions of mothers everywhere. And, by the way, not so different from the rest of us with I’ll start my self care…

…after the holidays.
…after I finish this project.
My family is sick right now. After they get better.
My friends are in town. After they leave.
I’m out of town right now. When I return.
…when I’m not so tired.
…when I’m not so busy.


First, other things are guaranteed to come up immediately after because life keeps happening, which makes this akin to the mother's statement.

Second, the above are actually the BEST TIMES TO START OR MAINTAIN a daily practice in mental, spiritual, and emotional hygiene. Getting stuck in the but I don’t want to put any more pressure on myself right now argument is a delay in owning your time that you wouldn’t wish on anyone, let alone yourself, if you could see the amount of suffering that owning it could eliminate.

We would never finish any of the above sentence like this:

After my family gets better… I’ll start brushing my teeth again.
After I finish this project…I’ll take a shower.
After my friends leave town…I’ll take a bowel movement.
After I come back from out of town…I’ll eat.

NEVER. And most of these activities take longer than a 3-minute meditation. Somehow, no matter how tired, overwhelmed, and busy we are, we’d take at least 3 minutes out of the day, twice a day, to brush our teeth and throw water on our face. Because we know how important it is, not just to prevent cavities and root canals but also to prevent bad breath and unnecessary suffering from the grossness of not brushing. And also to experience a fresh mouth, sense of attractiveness, and good health.

Our mind needs the same daily care. It’s just as vulnerable to its own version of the unnecessary suffering from the ‘grossness’ of indecisiveness, mental exhaustion, and anxious uncertainty.

Don't put off self-care "until". Learn how to prioritize you and your needs. Click the link to receive free video lessons this week on the 3 Keys to Sustained Energy: https://www.healedlovedfed.com/waitlist-sustained-energy/

📷: Engin Akyurt from Pixabay

23/12/2022

23/12/2022

There was a woman with an unshakeable faith in God. She prayed every day & felt that if anything ever happened, God would be there to take care of her.

One day it started to rain. The village flooded & everyone hurried to escape. Some townspeople drove by her house & urged her to come to safety.
She replied, “God will save me.”

The rain continued to fall, until the water rose so high that she needed to go up to the 2nd floor of her home to stay dry. A boat came by & the people on it urged her to come aboard & go with them to safety.

She replied, “Thank you, but God will save me.”

She soon needed to go up on her roof in order to avoid the rapidly rising water. A helicopter flew by & the pilot shouted, “I’ll toss you a line & we’ll hoist you up!”

She refused. “Bless you,” she said “but God will save me. Any minute, you’ll see, God will do something & I’ll be saved.”

Within minutes the water level rose, washing the woman out to sea, where she drowned. She went to heaven & upon reviewing the new arrivals, God was surprised to see the woman.

“You're not supposed to be here! It’s not your time. What are you doing here?”

The woman replied, “I believed in you. I believed that you would save me. I waited & waited, you never came. What happened?”

God said, “I sent you a car, a boat & a helicopter. What more do you want?”

When you listen deeply to your soul, your inner voice, your longing, you will become clearer in her messages for you.

These messages can be subtle & may not look like what you expected. With practice you’ll gain clarity & become adept at hearing the most subtle messages.

It starts with listening to the messages, then acknowledging them & when you’re ready - taking action. This is not necessarily a linear or quick process. But through it you’re able to recognize what it feels like to move from deep listening to deep knowing.

Practice this now. Close your eyes, connect with your breath & listen.

When you wake up in the morning, after your alarm goes off, before looking at your phone - practice again. Give yourself the gift of one quiet moment, listening to your soul & hearing her message for you.

💕 Jodh

21/12/2022

Use the energy of Solstice to connect with your soul through meditation and soul-journaling.

Visit our blog for a meditation + soul journaling video we created for Solstice: https://www.healedlovedfed.com/blog/winter-solstice-meditation-soul-journaling

Meditation opens the portal to your soul and journaling brings her desires to the surface. You can do this daily to help you get clear on your desires and your purpose. (today is a perfect day to begin this habit!)

21/12/2022

The Universe doesn’t like vacuums. This is why when you get a larger purse it quickly gets just as full as with your small one.

And there’s always a drawer or two that becomes catch-alls filled with random items, half of which are useless including unidentifiable keys, years-old receipts, twist ties, and combination locks with unknown combinations.

Our time is the same way. We’re so busy, and if we’re not careful, we won’t know how half of what we do became our “responsibility.” We’re on autopilot, loaded and overwhelmed like a full purse or a catch-all drawer.

The stuff you really want to do, there’s no room for it.

If you could metaphorically get a bigger purse for your time, the danger of it might be that the world would suck up that extra time before you could make it sacred, yours, and guilt-free.

The only way to keep a drawer clean is to intend and then hold your intention sacred. You want to decide what that drawer will hold and actively say NO to anything else you get tempted to throw in there just because it’s the easier decision at the moment. The catch-all is a lot of extra old weight brought on from a strange sort of dream that one day the holding-on to will prove you were smart for doing so. The problem is, even if these things could serve you in the future, you can’t usually find them, and you’ll likely prefer a better version anyway.

Know that what’s now become clutter has served its purpose. Thank and let them go. Opening up a drawer knowing that only your scissors, letter opener, tape and some post-its belong there, uncluttered by the “undecideds” and the “maybes,” makes for a quick find, lightness in your step, and a joy to open that drawer.

Carving out time to do essential self-care and the things that make your heart open changes your game in much the same way, multiplied. Use your calendar to support your self-care. Download our free guide to learn how: https://www.healedlovedfed.com/a-guide-to-calendaring

Love, Savitree

20/12/2022

You may hate me for saying this: saying you’re too busy is akin to saying you’re a catch-all drawer.

Busy is just that: busy.

We have just enough time in the day for what we need to do in our lives. Don’t be a catch-all. It disrupts your sense of peace, balance in relationships, and access to your authenticity.

Take up space without guilt. If you don’t do things for yourself because you feel guilty, you’ll end up feeling guilty anyway because you’ll end up behaving badly to the people around you out of exhaustion and feeling sucked dry. So choose the right kind of guilt if you must.

And stop saying you’re busy (it’s a terrible, terrible mantra) and carve out the time. Take up the space. You’d have to anyway if you got sick, so preempt it on your own terms. You are worth it.

If something is important to you, put it in your calendar, and make it recurring daily. Mark it non-negotiable. This is a matter of life or barely living. It’s sacred. It’s how you were meant to be.

Love, Savitree

Learn more about calendaring here, with our free guide: https://www.healedlovedfed.com/a-guide-to-calendaring

16/12/2022

Become more whole by identifying and feeding your spiritual hungers (aka your soul’s yearnings)

Beneath every emotion and desire lies a spiritual hunger. To be seen, heard, understood… to name a few. This is your soul yearning to be whole, yet all too often people try to fill these gaping holes by collecting people, material things, events, credentials.

It will never satisfy.

To identify and feed your spiritual hungers is to redirect you to your own personal truth and purpose. The decisions you make start to support who you are… and you become more whole.

This guide provides a 3-step process to lead you there. Download it here: https://www.healedlovedfed.com/spiritual-hungers-guide

15/12/2022

The ideal may be waking up before the rest of the household so you can meditate in peace.
The real may be listening to mantra music on your way to work.


The ideal may be going for a run during your lunch break.
The real may be standing versus sitting through one of your virtual meetings.


The ideal may be to bake beautiful and delicious cookies to share at a holiday gathering.
The real may be to stop for cookies at the grocery store on your way to the party.


The ideal may be to regularly lean into your inner coach reframing your critical thoughts into supportive ones, with ease.
The real may be one daily reminder from your inner coach.

You know the ideal (we see you Pinterest & Instagram), give yourself permission to live the real.

Here’s something real you can set up for yourself (now) to create a mantra that empowers your inner coach by shifting your thoughts from critical to supportive:

➡️ Identify one thing you struggle with about yourself that you’d like to change. For example, I struggle with being vulnerable.

➡️ Create a counter-statement. This is a statement from your inner coach that offers an alternative to the struggle you're experiencing. Mine would be, I am vulnerable. (keep it simple)

➡️ Create a reminder for yourself so you see your counter-statement daily -
➡️➡️ Write it on a post-it and put the note where you'll see it daily like above a light switch in your bedroom or next to the bathroom mirror, or

➡️➡️ Create a daily alarm on your phone. I like the alarm because I pair mine with a song I love to help me dwell in the message for a moment. And, no matter where I am, as long as I have my phone, I'll get my coach's message

This practice takes one minute to set up for yourself. The benefits are powerful, influential, and lasting. With it, you’re creating a mantra for yourself, empowering your inner coach, re-coding negative/debilitating self-talk, and reminding yourself, daily, of your desires and who you truly are. Take the time to set this up for yourself now. Make this statement your personal daily mantra. And share below in the comments, I'd love to see it!

With love,
Jodh