Sharon Day The Pleasure Instigator

16/10/2025

When I sent a Rumi excerpt to my email list the other day, just before I hit "send" I thought, "Hmm. Maybe this isn't the best idea. What if someone takes some kind of odd meaning from it and is offended? What if people unsubscribe because they don't get why poetry belongs with awakening eros?"

Thankfully I've travelled around the sun enough times now to also think...

"You know what, anyone who doesn't get it about Rumi (or Mary Oliver) probably isn't the best fit for my flavor of eros and coaching, so today when I hit send, I wish them all good things as they unsubscribe."

Cuz here's the thing: my very first website I built for my coaching business (almost THIRTY FRIGGIN' YEARS AGO!) opened with these words:

"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" ~Mary Oliver

Over the years as I saw others adopt that quote for their taglines and such, I felt smug about being first (and extra-judgemental about the ones who didn't bother to get the quote right, muddling the words).

Some of you were there with me in those waaaayyy back years. Thank you, precious one, for sticking around! 🤗 🤗 🤗

Anyway, the point...

is that poetry has been with me for the long haul, and doesn't appear to be going anywhere.

In fact, I have three heart-stopping poems cued up for future newsletters. They feel tumescent as they wait in line for their turn to be shared with you, exactly like the delicious tugging pull towards climax.

Inhale. Exhale. Smile big.

The sensual, slow wait...
is worth it. ✨

(and if you want in on those newsletters, DM me and I'm happy to share!)

13/10/2025

We’re all guilty of it—we read something that seems too good to be true, but we want to share it anyway. With most of us now getting our news from social media, we often fall into the echo chamber of partisan news.

Waylon Lewis share’s this quick, mindful reminder that all of us can make our little corner of the world a kinder, more honest place.
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Instead of just scrolling right on past and only getting the gist, take the time to watch the Walk the Talk Show video > supporting independent media when it's most needed. Find it on 🐘⁠👉🏼 https://elejrnl.com?p=1267135

07/05/2025

Ooo can you feel it in the air? Yes, yes, springtime for sure. LOVE that!
But what I'm talking about is my upcoming Intimate Anatomy Workshop: The Guided Tour Every Woman Wishes She Had
If you've been waiting for it, now's your big chance. Especially since this one is 100% FREE! No idea when I'll do this again. See the first comment or click the photo to learn more or save your seat. xo

13/02/2025

BIG NEWS, friends! I'm in Elephant Journal! 💃👏🎉

Please share far and wide with all your pals, friends, Tweet-sters, IG-buds, newsletter, and all the places, so the world can see!

READ:
Why Mindful is the New Sexy: How Simple Attention Awakens Steamy Pleasure (link in first comment ⤵ ⤵ ⤵ )

13/01/2025

Did you know that just talking with other women about [intimacy]* increases desire, turn-on, and satisfaction by 16 - 26%?

"I don't really feel like having [it]* that much. It's like the spark burnt out or something."

"There's this pattern I've noticed, that when things get started with someone new, it's really hot and fun for a while, but pretty soon it's the same as before. It starts to get...boring."

"I don't feel comfortable with [it]*, mostly because...well I'm embarrassed to say that I haven't had much, and not many partners, so I'm always afraid that any guy I want to go out with won't like it, because I don't have much experience. Mostly I just don't go out."

~ Participants during a previous SexChat

Are you like 40% of women who say they struggle with some aspect of [intimacy]*, yet also feel tongue-tied about it?

If you're anything like I was (and like most women) it can be nearly impossible to speak up about [intimate]* topics.

🤐 It's so deeply ingrained that it's not allowed, not okay, and WAY too shameful.

Nice women do NOT utter such things.

Plus, admitting that you're not having hot, steamy makeouts all the time is like showing the world that you're defective.

But study after study confirm that women are dissatisfied with the [intimacy]* they've been having, and yet simultaneously our culture and conditioning keep us too embarrassed to figure out how to make it better.

Where can you get reliable, helpful guidance about situations like:

🦋 Can a vibe de-sensitize me?
🦋 That intense thing that happened one time--what was that?
🦋 Is my 🐱 okay? I think she's broken.
🦋 How to relax during oral—I feel super self-conscious
🦋 Do lady bits really shrivel up when you’ve not [been intimate]* for a while?
(keep reading . . . see first comment.)

*Also, see those asterisks up there? It's because the steamy sizzle-words set off five-alarm bot-brigades and they'll come swarming out to erase this before you ever see it. For all the real words, come on over to the event!

31/08/2024

Love me a solid dose of Danielle LaPorte. This crystalline gem landed in my open palms today sweet and soft as a flower petal on the breeze, as I watched her speaking with Louie Schwartzberg.

What's that? Who's Louie? You know . . . Fantastic Fungi? The Louie Channel?

Oh my goodness, you must know him NOW: (scroll to first comment)

22/06/2024

21/06/2024

The Sun

Have you ever seen
anything
in your life
more wonderful

than the way the sun,
every evening,
relaxed and easy,
floats toward the horizon

and into the clouds or the hills,
or the rumpled sea,
and is gone–
and how it slides again

out of the blackness,
every morning,
on the other side of the world,
like a red flower

streaming upward on its heavenly oils,
say, on a morning in early summer,
at its perfect imperial distance–
and have you ever felt for anything
such wild love–
do you think there is anywhere, in any language,
a word billowing enough
for the pleasure

that fills you,
as the sun
reaches out,
as it warms you

as you stand there,
empty-handed–
or have you too
turned from this world–

or have you too
gone crazy
for power,
for things?
– Mary Oliver

(Reveling in solstice sunshine, and these lily-suns floating near my home.)