09/28/2026
For compassionate ppl, letting others experience the negative outcomes of their choices/actions can be one of the hardest lessons.
We have been taught that loving someone means easing their pain- but if that pain is continuously self created and never self examined- we end up enabling the harmful behavior.
Ppl have to want to grow, they have to decide to heal and take on that journey themselves.
Once we see a harmful pattern, it is then US who needs to do the changing that asks us to stop holding space for behavior that is depleting us.
And a lot of time we try to change ppl bc of our OWN inability to feel the discomfort of them going through their own undesirable outcomes.